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Hard disagree there, everything about the female aesthetic is built around deception and I won't codify a woman as attractive until I've seen her without clothes and makeup. But virtually all photographs of women are equally as untrustworthy in that regard, including nudes.
well this explains the shock of every man who saw me. I mean nigga you can see my skin texture what do you think . Even listed my weight and height lol.
 
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So, he wants a relationship with a girl. This girl loves to send him what she says are "gym progress pics" with her naked in front of a mirror. Unsolicited. My guy has already fucked her and was thinking in starting a relationship because, he likes her but this issue has us stumped.
I think she just sees nudes as pre-foreplay.
Maybe she used to do that with an ex-bf or something.
Maybe she's proud of her body and want to show it.

I don't think it's a red flag.
 
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Hard disagree there, everything about the female aesthetic is built around deception and I won't codify a woman as attractive until I've seen her without clothes and makeup. But virtually all photographs of women are equally as untrustworthy in that regard, including nudes.
I'm very used at estimating their cellulite hiding behaviors. And generally won't touch women that use lots of makeup either cause sus.
Became more and more tolerant sadly with age. In my 20s half the chicks I accept nowadays I would've considered fat. I remember the first time I had sex with a mother. Felt so humiliating. Those expired tits, saggy and soft. Was disgusted with myself the next day, felt like vomiting.
 
well this explains the shock of every man who saw me. I mean nigga you can see my skin texture what do you think . Even listed my weight and height lol.
They were suprised by your weight, skin texture or height?

What is the surprising part?
 
It bothers me a lot. However It's not so much the fact that I'm bald, but rather the fact that it happened to me SO early. I feel like my youth was robbed from me and it's all because of stupid ass genetics. If it happened to me when I was 35 or something, I'd probably be like "Well whatever" I've been shaven for 2 years so the novelty has kinda worn off but I still look at pictures of myself when I had hair, and feel a blackhole in my heart *sigh*
Plenty of women find bald men sexy. I know it sounds like the kind of bullshit you hear in the friend zone, but it's absolutely true.

Edited to say the only thing that's pretty much universally considered unattractive is the chomover. Just shave it. It's not attractive to be insecure about a physical feature beyond your control. Speaking as someone almost old enough to be your mom, I know it's hard when you're young, but my SO started balding at your age, two decades ago. I've honestly never cared, and I was always one of those bitches who said she'd never date a bald dude. It honestly doesn't matter once you meet the right person. You know what does matter? He makes me laugh every single day. The minute I met him and he got me laughing, I realized that I don't give a single shit about how much hair is on his head. It truly is personality that matters.
 
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Plenty of women find bald men sexy. I know it sounds like the kind of bullshit you hear in the friend zone, but it's absolutely true.
Most of the girls in the thread here have pretty much unanimously stated the contrary to this. Studies also seem to suggest such.
It honestly doesn't matter once you meet the right person. You know what does matter? He makes me laugh every single day. The minute I met him and he got me laughing, I realized that I don't give a single shit about how much hair is on his head. It truly is personality that matters.
Probably why nobody will ever love me since I'm such a black hole of dark energy, negativity, pessimism and sheer self-loathing. I don't laugh or smile in life. Except at Lolcow documentaries or being drunk/high.
 
I'm very used at estimating their cellulite hiding behaviors. And generally won't touch women that use lots of makeup either cause sus.
Became more and more tolerant sadly with age. In my 20s half the chicks I accept nowadays I would've considered fat. I remember the first time I had sex with a mother. Felt so humiliating. Those expired tits, saggy and soft. Was disgusted with myself the next day, felt like vomiting.

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The minute I met him and he got me laughing, I realized that I don't give a single shit about how much hair is on his head. It truly is personality that matters.
Eh, of course personality/compatibility matters most, but that's really a different question.

I'm not actually anti-bald/balding/thinning, though I do love good hair. But I have to admit: I once married a bald man. Good looking, charming, smart enough, interesting, sophisticated, cultured, fit, good taste. I was very in love with him, wanted a whole life with him (until I learned he had a black heart, but that is likely unrelated to his baldness :biggrin:), was very attracted to him. And he wore bald well. But for whatever reason, touching skin on the top of his head just skeeved me. It was the one thing I just felt an aversion to. It made zero impact on my decision to date or marry him (or bear his children), but it was a sort of tiny, visceral thing. I probably would have gotten over it if he weren't evil.

That was also 25 years ago and I was quite young when we met (he was quite a bit older than I), so maybe it was just immature of me. I don't think I'd have the same response now to a man's scalp...though on reflection I don't think I've ever really dated anyone else who was bald or seriously balding. Hmm.
In any case, it's never been make-or-break issue to me, just part of how someone looks overall, and also not something that needs to be "made up for" or compensated for by some other quality.
 
Probably why nobody will ever love me since I'm such a black hole of dark energy, negativity, pessimism and sheer self-loathing. I don't laugh or smile in life. Except at Lolcow documentaries or being drunk/high.
This is easier and cheaper to fix than your hair. The thing that comes through most strongly in your posts is that you don't like yourself very much, and nothing anyone says here is going to change your mind. Cut yourself a little slack; you seem thoughtful and introspective, and sometimes being wired that way makes it hard to get out of your own head, but I promise that if you start treating yourself with compassion, that self-loathing will abate.

I'm a negative asshole myself - in fact, a friend told me years ago that I'm the "most negative person [he] has ever met" - but you have to find a way to stop wallowing. Male or female, no one wants to be around someone who hates himself so much that he makes them feel guilty for not being miserable themselves. It's okay to have a dry or offbeat sense of humor that most people don't "get", and it's also okay to be serious most of the time, but you need to find a reason to love yourself. Nobody here can tell you what that reason is or convince you to change how you think about yourself; you need to do it on your own.

For me, it really helped to take time away from dating or looking for a partner in order to focus on loving myself. It sounds lame and gay, but I realized at some point in my early twenties that the reason no decent human beings wanted to be around me was that I couldn't even stand to be around myself. I don't mean that you have to change who you are to satisfy other people, but you need to embrace the traits that make you different. Being comfortable in your own skin will go a long way towards convincing others that you're a worthy person to have in their lives.

Eh, of course personality/compatibility matters most, but that's really a different question.
Of course. I just meant that to the right person, it's not going to matter how much hair he has. For me, the thing that's unattractive isn't baldness, it's insecurity about baldness. All of the comb overs and hair transplants might make a dude look like he has more hair, but it doesn't ultimately fix the self-loathing, which is far more unattractive than being bald.
 
Sigh…

I never thought I’d come here and ask about something, but here we are.

There’s a colleague of mine. We get along well. Talk and laugh quite a bit.

She’s attractive.

Like model attractive.

The other day she asks me if I want to touch something funny.

I go “sure!” She proceeds to take my finger and put it in her mouth, supposedly because she had an allergic reaction to something and wanted me to feel the bumps inside her mouth.

(Don’t know if there actually were any, I wasn’t exactly focused on that for obvious reasons.)

So I’m standing there, in the middle of a working day with my finger in a gorgeous women’s mouth like some weird porno foreplay scene.

Afterwards I couldn’t help but think “welp, that was a bit out of the ordinary!”

Women of the farms: Is this woman just weird or what’s going on?!
 
She proceeds to take my finger and put it in her mouth, supposedly because she had an allergic reaction to something and wanted me to feel the bumps inside her mouth.

This is the most obvious flirt I can think of. I think you should act on it and ask her out (if it's not inappropriate for your workplace.)

If she acts like you're a creep or crazy or whatever, you will always be able to fall back on the excuse that she simulated a blowjob on your finger.

And if she does act like you're the creep here, then at least you'll know that she is trying to start trouble because there is absolutely no reason to insert a guy's finger in your mouth other than to signal that you want him sexually. In that case, you can just get a headstart by going to HR and having them document that she stuck your finger in her mouth and it made you uncomfortable.

I hope for your sake that she is into you!
 
Sigh…

I never thought I’d come here and ask about something, but here we are.

There’s a colleague of mine. We get along well. Talk and laugh quite a bit.

She’s attractive.

Like model attractive.

The other day she asks me if I want to touch something funny.

I go “sure!” She proceeds to take my finger and put it in her mouth, supposedly because she had an allergic reaction to something and wanted me to feel the bumps inside her mouth.

(Don’t know if there actually were any, I wasn’t exactly focused on that for obvious reasons.)

So I’m standing there, in the middle of a working day with my finger in a gorgeous women’s mouth like some weird porno foreplay scene.

Afterwards I couldn’t help but think “welp, that was a bit out of the ordinary!”

Women of the farms: Is this woman just weird or what’s going on?!
I don't get what's going on, I would've been weirded the fuck out. Women please don't do this, I'm both scared of being metooed and I never get hints like this if I get any hints at all. Please just be wholesome and say stuff directly, this isn't a movie where dicaprio puts his fingers in Margot Robbies mouth, this is real life. Stuff like this is meant for the bedroom not the office cubicle. I know I'm an autistic killjoy but stuff like this freaks me out.
 
I don't get what's going on, I would've been weirded the fuck out.
Well, it was pretty weird. Pretty hot, but also pretty weird. Hence this post.
Women please don't do this
Now let’s not be overly hasty here!

I hope for your sake that she is into you!
Hope so too! Invited her to church. (Because I’m weird like that. Also, I reckon that if a chick accepts an invite to mass, she must either like me or really like my company.)

She accepted and reminded me before we closed for Christmas. So… Guess we will see!

Dating someone from work is a bad idea 99% of the time tho.
True. Different departments though.
 
Very disappointed in this thread.
I've asked for advice like 10 times already on multiple issues and have received nothing of value or life improving.
I'm starting to think this femael emotional IQ thing is overestimated.
Idk man. I reckon it’s kinda like running. The more you do it, the better you get. With all the time they spend gabbing with each other, I reckon they pick up a few tricks.
 
I can't reply to your post for some reason (The sites been going mental for me) But yeah that sucks about the grey hair thing, sorry you have to go through that, and again thanks for the nice comments. As for Women turning down a guy for being bald, it depends if you're talking about a romantic or strictly sexual relationship. I understand if it's a really hard roadblock for them. If you look at a dude and just cannot be turned on by him, regardless of what the dealbreaker is, then that's just how it is and I don't think anyone can really judge you for that. I'm not really sure if there is a Women equivalent for baldness?? (Maybe flat ass/tiny flat boobs????) But Idk on that one.
I think maybe he thinks he looks better in a hat or whatever, but think he is best is where he just is relaxed about it and just, in that moment, seems to own it or doesn't care. Again, I am way older than you and only looking at men way older than you, but what I would say is that if you work on other aspects of yourself, just shave the rest, women will come.

Women ultimately want men who will provide and protect for them. Yes retard TERFs or whatever screech otherwise, but this this a basic and innate tenant of being a woman. Looks are a secondary concern. Hard for men to understand, but women just literally don't put the same focus on looks as men. It is like, does he look like he showers, grooms, isn't a complete obese pos or skinny shit faggot, maybe touches grass now and again? Yeah, that is basically it as long as you can protect and provide.
 
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