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Gen Z paralyzed with fear of turning 30, becoming ‘unattractive hags’: ‘Life might as well end at 22’​

Thirty, flirty and thriving is apparently no longer the holy grail for teens and twenty-somethings online. Those born between 1997 and 2013 are expressing grim concerns about hitting the big 3-0 — a milestone that some of these youngsters fear will immediately zap them of their sexiness, stamina and overall value.

“In just the past few days, I have seen multiple Gen Zs (the vast majority women) on various platforms, including Reddit and Instagram, express a desire to unalive in their 30s or when they reach 40 because they cannot handle the fact that they will age [and] ‘become unattractive’ [or] ‘become hags,’” an alarmed whistleblower recently penned to Reddit’s PSA thread.

“Some [have] even expressed not bothering with healthy eating habits, saving money or planning on having careers because they feel so strongly about this,” continued the scandalmonger — presumably a member of the Gen Z demographic.

“I don’t think this is necessarily our fault,” the insider continued. “But I do see (and recognize in myself) a fear of aging, and instead of [there being a psychological and social movement] to combat this, we simply turn to consumerism to try and ‘fix the problem.’”
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The Reddit ranter went on to refer to the recent uptick in anti-aging products and trends — such as getting “baby Botox” and covering themselves in face tape — that have been virally adopted by beauty buffs as young as age 10 who hope to ward off wrinkles, lines and sags.

The movement to remain forever young is being charged by both folks in their early twenties and teenyboppers on TikTok.

On the buzzy app, hashtags such as #AntiAging, with over 8 billion views, and #SephoraKids — a stamp with nearly 222 million views used by makeup lovers to gripe about the influx of elementary schoolers flocking to cosmetics shops for skin rejuvenators and collagen boosters — are at all-time trending highs.

“We need to do better, for ourselves and for younger generations,” the anonymous mouthpiece implored on Reddit. “Skincare should be something we do to prevent cancer and to make us feel good, not another tool to try [to] fit into a patriarchal mold.”

And the folks of all ages eagerly agreed that the panic of getting older is getting out of hand.

“So much of my generation basically views life after college as one long, pointless, depressing downward slide toward a nursing home and death,” wrote a fellow Gen Zer. “In the minds of many young people, life might as well end at 22 because what even comes after? Working nonstop? Taxes? Wrinkles and health issues? Losing your hair and your friend network and your free time? It’s a very dark and reductionist worldview, but it is definitely pervasive among Gen Z.”

A handful of millennials, Gen Xers and boomers blamed the internet for inciting the aging phobia.

“I work with some Gen Zs and they had a very warped, depressing view on what it’s like to be in your 30s before they met me and the other millennials at my work…I think social media has really screwed with our heads,” a commentator chimed.

“People glorify being in your 20s way too much. Ultimately it’s just one decade and it doesn’t last long,” wrote another.

“This feels more like a quarter-life crisis about mortality and facing a new part of your life…I freaked out about that too when I neared 25 but I didn’t have as pervasive a social media culture drumming that into me,” said an equally miffed user.

“I feel like aging to Gen Z is what ‘being fat’ was to millennials. Remember how ruthless the media [and] everyone was about that?,” another noted.

However, for some thirty-year-olds-to-be, their worries about becoming a decade older aren’t rooted in angst around losing their looks. Instead, they feel intimidated by the pressures of adulthood.

“Here’s why I’m so scared to turn 30 this year,” confessed NYC influencer Nicole Ashely to a TikTok audience of over 29,000.

“I think I grew up thinking that before 30 I had to have my sh—t together. I had to have a great job, the most perfect relationship children — I had to have it all together.”

“And that’s honestly just not the case.”

A fellow Gen Z named Gabriela echoed those sentiments in a separate post, writing in the closed captions: “I’m 29 The fear of turning 30 is getting to me. I have no kids. I feel like I’m running out of time. I still don’t have my life figured out. I’m missing something.”

But ladies online who’ve already reached age 30 and beyond are urging their successors not to freak out.

“I’m in my mid 30s…I stress about my birthday every year,” admitted NYC beauty influencer Ivanka Dekojing in a confessional clip. “Like, ‘Oh my god, another year older. I should be at this place in life — I don’t have a house yet or kids.’”

“But…It is a privilege to live another year,” she said. “It is a privilege to live another day and it is a privilege to be alive.”

“Life is precious.”
 
I don't know what's worse in this thread, the literal doomer spergs or the gender war between old people talking about their trash dating pools (@Odd Opossum and @Marmite Despiser). Hey, ladies and gentlemen, cat girls and mankids, maybe everybody who's single after 30 is a loser. Maybe stop bragging about getting the F with the higher number.
I don't know what your point is with tagging me or Marmite. I never said anything about how hard dating is.
 
That's a pretty negative way of looking at it. Having a family is its own adventure and reward. Also it never stopped me and my ex from international travel, going on cruises, seeing concerts, going to the occasional party. It just required more planning in advance. That was really it.
Part of growing up is realizing that raising a family is "doing anything", and is in fact the only thing worth doing.
I understand that but in the third world, raising a family requires you to be in the amazon wage cage cubicle. Especially with the outsourcing of all first world labour, the industrialization of education where people are forced into taking only certain professions cause of availability and profitability, rising cost of living, stagnant wages and more it is a very tough sell to raise a family in the first place. So the only option is to work yourself to death if you live here unless youre already established and are 50 years old right now. Beyond that my idea of experimentation is learning hobbies, learning and reading stuff and becoming proficient in skills/trades other than tech wage slaving till I die of a heart attack at 45. Right now me in my young wagie state I dont have time to pursue anything other than work, officially working 8 hours a day and unofficially working around 10 hours a day, Im sure this isnt how people imagined their early 20s. Its made even worse with ritual humiliation under the authority of incompetent leaders, the constant needling and the routine demoralization. I dont want to be too political but under these conditions, I find the idea of being stuck to a family to be less sufficient than what I would want. Foreigners do not know how many people work themselves to death here, they dont know how bad the job market is and how the education is industrialized to push people into industry, not help people pursue what they want. Its literally Another Brick in the Wall.

Also my hairs turning white already so I guess Im really growing older than most people, might as well consider my 20s my mid life.
 
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At 30 you have women noticing the biological clock is ticking and that they kinda have to settle down before it's too late for that picturesque life they'd dreamed of.

It's probably not helping zoomers or gen alpha though that drugs have been a lot more routine, with coke seen as just a fun party drug (even though it's been ruined by Mexicans adding fentanyl), vape pens all over the place, and fast food being even more accessible thanks to food apps. It's weird having people in their 20s looking about the same age as people in their 30s.
 
It makes sense since they don't go outside, but zoomers don't seem to think about their communities much either. You can get to know your neighbours, help out with or start local volunteer causes, mentor/babysit the local kids (as long as safeguarding checks are all done properly). There's always something needing done, like a litter pick, or organising a festival at the church or school or council hub, or helping with people's chores, or just baking something and offering to share it. You don't even have to have your own kids to help your tribe, but helping with other people's kids does teach you a lot for if you eventually have your own, and it fosters a culture where people will help you in return. We're social animals, it's fulfilling to improve the collective and the local environment. Plus you get to live in a nicer place and the local kids won't be little shits to you when you're old.
 
It doesn't help that millennials and zoomers are spending inordinate number of years in college.
This is one of the few things where women genuinely have it bad and I feel sorry for.

Academics eats up an insanely large part of your youth. You're gonna be like 25 by the time you have your bachelors and if you choose to continue academics in any capacity (which you probably will because you have no idea wtf else to do with your life) you're gonna be like 30 and still stuck in an infantile schoolboy/girl mindset.

Even if you aren't a braindead tiktok addicted social media depedant zoomer and think you know how the real world works, you're still going to have spent most of your life in a sheltered enviroment as a biproduct of academics, so its not like you can bypass it even if you know its a problem.

A 30 year old man with 2-3 degrees and a masters with a schoolboy mindset however still has plenty of time to grow up and get his shit toogether to start a family.

A woman in the same position is in a considerably rougher spot, and that really isn't just me saying it, there's a reason women's education is inversly correlated with fertility.
 
As a positive data point, I am in my early 40s, divorced, and found a man my own age without either of us really looking and am very happy with him and him with me. It isn't joeover just because you are older. Most of the people, men or women, who complain the hardest, I can see why they can't find anyone. Anyone who is smart would run for the damn hills away from these bitter people.
This. Dating gets easier in your 40s. If you don't get fat and bitter at the same rate as others your market value rises. Older singles are usually economically independent, so there are is less focus on status and wealth. And contrary to popular beleif people grow and learn from their past relationships and misstakes, and generally know themselves better.
 
But repentance and redemption actually is at the core of Christian belief. If she rejects her old life, is repentant, and accepts Christ, then Christians need to accept it. Doesn't mean you have to marry her, but that was a serious part of Christ's message.
Jesus probably never fucked one and dealt with the ensuing drama for 6 fucking years. The closest he came was Mary Magdalene, and I don't think she had the means to cause shit the way modern sluts do, tbqh. He should be glad that bitch didn't have myspace. Yeah, myspace. Old wounds, indeed.
 
Plus the 30s is when men usually go bald, or have extremely thin hair if they didn't take care of it while they were younger. So, dating prospects become more limited because the bald look is difficult for most men to pull off.

In order to pull off the bald look, you gotta be in shape at minimum. Not staying in shape can make your head and neck look like a circumcised penis. But if you're in good shape with great pectorals and a flat stomach then you'll have a shot with women in their mid twenties.
Thr magic of hair surgery is making this a relic of the past.

Lpt, do NOT use the hair growth chemicals, they really fuck with hormones.

My hair at my right temple is starting to thin and recede a bit.... Sucks but that's life. Best you can do is be heathy, reduce stress, and don't pull out your hair

Genetic factors are inescapable but again, the surgery works.
 
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Foreigners do not know how many people work themselves to death here,
I guess my response would be predicated on where exactly "here" is. There are a lot of countries where they could stand to have fewer children. Although I still think everyone should have at least one child in their lifetimes unless they literally can't afford it.
 
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Beyond that my idea of experimentation is learning hobbies, learning and reading stuff and becoming proficient in skills/trades other than tech wage slaving till I die of a heart attack at 45.
I dont want to be too political but under these conditions, I find the idea of being stuck to a family to be less sufficient than what I would want.
This'll sound harsh, but you'll grow up eventually. Everyone hates work sometimes, but you'll get used to it. Eventually, should you have kids, you will realize that your happiness is secondary to your responsibilities and the horror of your wife and children being kicked out of your family home to live on the street because you were too lazy to sit in a chair and write emails for 10 hours a day will far outweigh any existential dread you might have about sitting in a chair writing emails for 10 hours a day. By the way, the higher up you get, the more your job is "writing emails" (but really, it's "making decisions").

Working in the trades sounds great when you're young -- I still think I'd like to be able to be an electrician or a welder for like a day a week -- but it will literally destroy your body by the time you're 50. Far better to just go for a run in the morning, watch your diet and don't drink too much. The comp doesn't hurt either... a couple hundred grand a year for being smart and keeping the ship pointed straight is hard to argue with.
Thr magic of hair surgery is making this a relic of the past.
It's a pain in the ass -- I got it done when I was 26; literally had the hairline of a 40 year old. Recovery is about 2 weeks to back to work; a month to "mostly good". 2,500 grafts using the strip method. I think it was $12,500 or so. The simple reality is that most men in their 20s can't afford it and most men in their 30s don't care enough to bother. Not to say the doctors aren't kept busy, but if you've got a good woman already, and unless you make money with your face, I probably wouldn't bother.
 
I ironically have Asperger's and it definitely hurt with learning certain things like social shit. Hell,I didn't have my first job till I was 28.
I have Asperger's too, it's not an excuse. 80 percent of people with ASD are unemployed, by being employed you're already doing better than 80 percent of spergs. If you're willing to put in some hard work and earn some certifications, you can easily make far more than what SSI gives you, especially being single and having low expenses.

Living off of SSI is not a good thing for an able bodied person. You need to have pride in yourself. If you're interested in IT or entry level tech work I will be willing to work with you to draw up a plan. Forget that anime and learning Japanese bullshit, it's a child's fantasy.
 
If somebody gets elected into a public office at 30, you think he is really young.
If you have a prof at Uni who is 40, you think he is really young.
At this point, if POTUS was 60 people would think he is really young.
If a 20 yo is still in high school, you say "you are too old for this".
I remember when I was in Kindergarten a kid who was like... 10? would come along sometimes and I thought he was really big and mature, even though he was just a kid lol

Youth and age are just relative to what you do, you can say you are old when your knees hurt and every fall could break your hip and you are complaining to the doctor about stupid shit all the time and your dickhead kids dont call you because they are just waiting to sell that house you built with your bare hands to some Chink whose grandfather you fought in Korea/'Nam.

Also, there is a bliss in maturing and that is that people actually start taking you seriously, youngsters always get shit on and draw the short stick, and its not a zoomer v boomer thing, it has always been that way. Once you lose your baby face, your skin starts to leather and you get some folds your credibility goes through the roof. People always say society abandons grown men, but is really youngsters who are the suckers.

I think part of this youth cult is that at some point these WEF/Bilderberger/Mt. Etna farts realized they are getting really old and needed to groom a new generation to fuck up the world beyond their graves. "Forbes 30 under 30" or "aspiring entrepreneurs" were a big thing in the last decade on top of stupid age based hiring methods, the implication being that you better "make it" when you are 30 or you are a loser nobody cares about as there is a new generation that needs to be groomed.
The real problem is that people dont take their studies seriously anymore and dont hone their profession, in their 20s. Its just money this, home office that.
Man you can have that when you are a grown man who needs it, you need to lay the groundwork first. This is also what leads to the competency crisis; some people just never learned.
 
As a positive data point, I am in my early 40s, divorced, and found a man my own age without either of us really looking and am very happy with him and him with me. It isn't joeover just because you are older. Most of the people, men or women, who complain the hardest, I can see why they can't find anyone. Anyone who is smart would run for the damn hills away from these bitter people.
You can argue that all you want, but if I'm a 35 year old woman who wants my own family, it IS joeover. I can't do it, it's joeover. I either pressure someone into it or baby trap someone. But my chances for a happy family that I gave birth to, pretty much plummet. That's what these women are afraid of. Now does that mean they won't be happy? No. But being happy, maybe even happily married with step or adopted children isn't going to change that regret.

This. Dating gets easier in your 40s. If you don't get fat and bitter at the same rate as others your market value rises. Older singles are usually economically independent, so there are is less focus on status and wealth. And contrary to popular beleif people grow and learn from their past relationships and misstakes, and generally know themselves better.
Dating does not get easier in your 40s. It only gets easier to differentiate bad from good. Actually finding someone is harder. The odds are statistically against you. Maybe it's more laid-back and easy-going, but easier isn't the word I'd use to describe it.
 
I have Asperger's too, it's not an excuse. 80 percent of people with ASD are unemployed, by being employed you're already doing better than 80 percent of spergs. If you're willing to put in some hard work and earn some certifications, you can easily make far more than what SSI gives you, especially being single and having low expenses.

Living off of SSI is not a good thing for an able bodied person. You need to have pride in yourself. If you're interested in IT or entry level tech work I will be willing to work with you to draw up a plan. Forget that anime and learning Japanese bullshit, it's a child's fantasy.
Well I have grown to hate living in the US.
Honestly I just hate dealing with the folks here in general and the US is going to fall anyways
 
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