Sometimes the trans community sucks
I'm having a rough time connecting with my local trans community. I'm one of the facilitators for a local support group and help run a discord server. However, all the members except myself and one other guy are all transfemme. I find myself being talked over during group meetings, ignored in the server, while all the other trans girls get attention, love, support, and friendship. Even though I'm a founding member of the support group I feel unwelcome in the community because I'm a guy and the girls make comments about my "white male privilege" and how I just don't get what they are going through.
But mates, I don't pass. I have no privilege. I am just as oppressed by the patriarchy as they are, perhaps even more so because while I am on T that doesn't magically change our patriarchal society. Many of the members have excellent jobs because of the privilege they experienced before coming out, while I'm struggling to keep down a low-paying blue collar job
because I'm trans.
I feel so lonely and am considering stepping down from being a facilitator, especially since I am not listened to, or included in conversations. The girls don't want to talk to me. I'm an introvert but friendly, and desperately long for friends (the one other trans guy is rad btw, but more outgoing than I and doesn't seem to have trouble making friend or being listened to in group and discord).
Honestly, I'm very close to a breaking point and my mental health has taken a very steep decline because of this. I hate that society at large sees me as worthless because of my agab, and that the trans community also sees me as worthless because of my actual gender.
Sometimes I hate existing.