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Every aspect of society seems to get getting worse, peoples' driving ability, food quality, service quality, politeness, job pay, cost of living....

I miss the optimism of years past, and that most things got better over time. Seems like things are either going to shit the bed soon or maybe return to things getting better again?

Am I the only one who thinks everything is going to shit? I was sitting in a restaurant the other day thinking how 10 years ago the floors would have been cleaner, the food tasted better, and the employees slightly less overt about how shitty their lives were. And it struck me, in 10 years will I look back and think I should have appreciated what little good was left compared to the hellish nightmare of life in the 2030s?

That's how I'm doing right now. Pensive, defeated, nostalgic.

Maybe AI will make everything better again :optimistic:
 
Everybody's got troubles and I've got my to
What seem sad to me might not be sad to you

You can work and sweat and pray and strive
But some times your best bet is for dumb luck to arrive

Yet, you must be ready when that day does come
A cheerful heart takes in luck much better than one that is numb

So hope is to feel a certain way against the current mood
Hope is being prepared to see the future as it should be viewed

Your lot is hard, unfair, it may not be fun
Where clouds appear you soon will find the sun

So if I wish I may and I wish I might
Cheer you up as I write

This one last thing I to declare
Just hang in there 'cause life's a bear
 
Saw the orthopaedic surgeon today for my knee (torn cartilage, fractures and torn meniscus) and like I knew, having surgery next month. He's doing arthroscopy so it'll be outpatient. I'll be able to full weight-bear on the day of surgery, so that's good. Six to eight weeks of recovery. Not looking forward to surgery but I'll be glad not to be in pain all the time.
Don't sweat the surgery; arthroscopy's fairly easy as surgeries go, Wife had arthroscopic surgery on knee, eventually had it replaced. Big thing is to do the rehab right, don't push it but don't not do it. Listen to what the body tells you and rehab accordingly. Get a good rehab and you'll be good to go. This is true for just about any surgery.
 
Turns out the institution I attended to get certified didn't actually teach me half the shit my employer expected them to -- even though I was advised to attend that institution specifically by the owner of the company himself.

I've spent the last three weeks training under various people trying to pick up skills I was supposed to know already, and it's just been worse and worse. I'm picking up most of it fine because I'm not retarded, but there's one specific area I'm struggling with, that people say comes with time and I just need to practice, but which I'm getting fewer and fewer opportunities to practice because the people I'm training under have their own schedules to keep and can't wait for me to figure it out. Multiple people have stated that I just need to be allowed a day to fuck around and figure it out, but the company won't accommodate that, and just want to keep pushing forward with a plan that isn't working.

Meanwhile, the institution I was considering attending, that the company owner steered me away from, has a full curriculum including remedial workshops for exactly what I'm struggling with.

I'm going to talk to somebody on Monday about pausing my training so I can just go learn what I was supposed to have been taught, and hope they'll be amicable, because this shit isn't working.

Frustrated.
 
My health is in the gutter- I started coughing up blood clots midjob and had to back off.

No one else knew how to do what I had been doing so I had to stand there in the corner giving directions through it all.

After work my workbuddy says, unprompted: "You should take a week off and just stay home." I say, I'll just rot if I stay at home. He says, "Then you should go to a hotel for a week." I joke that I can't leave my pets and houseplants alone so long. He offers, seriously, to feed my pets and water my plants. He's being totally serious that I should just go away for a while. Took me aback.

I still don't have any avenues to treatment- I don't even have anything lined up right now, I just had two more rejections and now I'm just drained again. Maybe taking a sabbatical would be tempting if I actually thought I might recover through it. But right now I don't. I don't have any ideas for treatment. So I gotta keep going to work.

What a rough day.
 
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I think things are looking up. I really need to get my life balanced right and I think I've found a better combination than what I had before. Always room for improvement of course, but I'll never be happy if I don't learn to be okay with okay.
 
in 10 years will I look back and think I should have appreciated what little good was left compared to the hellish nightmare of life in the 2030s?

That's how I'm doing right now. Pensive, defeated, nostalgic.
One thing that gives me a little optimism is that if you go back to the late 19th-20th century texts, a lot of the people also had the same malaise as us with dead end jobs and everything changing so rapidly but for some not better. I look at later century’s like the 20s onwards and it usually reminds me that things (in certain cases) do get better. I’m hoping that in the near future that are time will be also as interesting. (Your also right though I’m a bit nostalgic right now too and have been playing a lot of sonic adventure 2 battle)
 
One thing that gives me a little optimism is that if you go back to the late 19th-20th century texts, a lot of the people also had the same malaise as us with dead end jobs and everything changing so rapidly but for some not better. I look at later century’s like the 20s onwards and it usually reminds me that things (in certain cases) do get better. I’m hoping that in the near future that are time will be also as interesting. (Your also right though I’m a bit nostalgic right now too and have been playing a lot of sonic adventure 2 battle)
I think every generation has struggled with the meaning of life, and that makes the burden a little easier to bear. Knowing my grandparents and their grandparents had similar doubts and anxieties about their place in the world yet still had largely happy and fulfilling lives makes me optimistic as well.
 
Okay, so I introduced an ex of mine into a social group on FB that focuses on physical activity.

He posted today (as narcissistically as possible) about an injury he has that will keep him from things he would normally do.

It was so drawn out into that "profound experience" language of "look at me on my self-discovery journey" that I honestly believed for a second that I had, for some time, been dating a fucking woman and didn't even know it.

So I have mixed feelings. One is that god damn, I really WAS the man in that relationship. Two is that, I kind of wonder how many relationships I've really been "the man" in. Three is, "ha ha, eat shit motherfucker, hope your injury compounds and you never get to do that shit ever again". Four is, I wonder if I should start posting shit I've been up to, workout-wise. I've been pretty private about that in the past and considered posting it to the group, not even considering the ex, just to kind of put myself out there.

Anyway, mixed feelings for a Sunday morning...
 
in 10 years will I look back and think I should have appreciated what little good was left compared to the hellish nightmare of life in the 2030s?
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Okay, so I introduced an ex of mine into a social group on FB that focuses on physical activity.

He posted today (as narcissistically as possible) about an injury he has that will keep him from things he would normally do.

It was so drawn out into that "profound experience" language of "look at me on my self-discovery journey" that I honestly believed for a second that I had, for some time, been dating a fucking woman and didn't even know it.

So I have mixed feelings. One is that god damn, I really WAS the man in that relationship. Two is that, I kind of wonder how many relationships I've really been "the man" in. Three is, "ha ha, eat shit motherfucker, hope your injury compounds and you never get to do that shit ever again". Four is, I wonder if I should start posting shit I've been up to, workout-wise. I've been pretty private about that in the past and considered posting it to the group, not even considering the ex, just to kind of put myself out there.

Anyway, mixed feelings for a Sunday morning...
Anyone that uses the phrase "self discovery journey" is either a pretentious faggot or a grifter.
 
Anyone that uses the phrase "self discovery journey" is either a pretentious faggot or a grifter.
He was kind of both.

The thing about dating when you're middle-aged and that nobody wants to talk about is that you're going to accept a lot of bullshit because you never really know up front whether it's manageable baggage or a red flag. You're not going to find "perfect" and the older you get, the more imperfect the people you're going to encounter are.

So, I've maybe been a little too patient with people I've dated to the point where I dated a "sensitive new-age guy". He even admitted to having the kind of "feminine" qualities that balanced my more "masculine" ones. He was like half a step from being a yoga instructor.

He also liked me because I made more money than he did. Strange flex that I get to say I had my own gold-digger, but that's where I'm at in life.
 
He was kind of both.

The thing about dating when you're middle-aged and that nobody wants to talk about is that you're going to accept a lot of bullshit because you never really know up front whether it's manageable baggage or a red flag. You're not going to find "perfect" and the older you get, the more imperfect the people you're going to encounter are.

So, I've maybe been a little too patient with people I've dated to the point where I dated a "sensitive new-age guy". He even admitted to having the kind of "feminine" qualities that balanced my more "masculine" ones. He was like half a step from being a yoga instructor.

He also liked me because I made more money than he did. Strange flex that I get to say I had my own gold-digger, but that's where I'm at in life.
Its probably wise to consider being into new age stuff as a red flag tbh, and I say that as someone with a mild interest in that kind of thing. It seems to attract the worst kind of people.
 
Its probably wise to consider being into new age stuff as a red flag tbh, and I say that as someone with a mild interest in that kind of thing. It seems to attract the worst kind of people.
I mean, yeah. It's that thing where you meet someone and you put up with what you think are quirks because they didn't "out" themselves when you just met, and okay, they're a little goofy but nothing to be worried about, and that's when they start talking to you in a low, quiet voice like they're a hostage negotiator when you start pointing out that they just might be an asshole and you're rightfully mad about it.

New age shit is like everything, though. Fundamentally, it's not exactly the worst thing you could be doing. It's when they use it up to cover up how big an asshole they are, that's when it's a problem. Same thing with religion or anything that has or has developed a moral component to it (like social justice or nowadays, or medical interventions to prevent disease).
 
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