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I've been running for the past three weeks now. I'm starting to notice more things with my body as time goes on.

- My skin is more cleaner ever since I decided to take care of myself.
- I've been feeling that I breathe a lot more easier now.
- I can safely say I've been running for far more in my life that I've been doing these past months.

I still feel like garbage with horrifying sadness, but I can definitely say that I'm feeling alive again.
 
I've been running for the past three weeks now. I'm starting to notice more things with my body as time goes on.

- My skin is more cleaner ever since I decided to take care of myself.
- I've been feeling that I breathe a lot more easier now.
- I can safely say I've been running for far more in my life that I've been doing these past months.

I still feel like garbage with horrifying sadness, but I can definitely say that I'm feeling alive again.
I give a "thumbs up" to everyone I see running either when I'm out running myself or driving. I don't give a fuck who they are, I just want them to keep going. You keep going, too, bud.
 
My shoulder healed enough to allow me to sleep on my left side without pain and to move on from 35 lbs dumbbells. I still can't do any rapid motions with it so boxing is out of the question, but at least the strength is slowly returning. Next step is either 40 or 45. I'll have to get an xray scheduled sometime soon to see if everything is actually alright.
 
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He was kind of both.

The thing about dating when you're middle-aged and that nobody wants to talk about is that you're going to accept a lot of bullshit because you never really know up front whether it's manageable baggage or a red flag. You're not going to find "perfect" and the older you get, the more imperfect the people you're going to encounter are.

So, I've maybe been a little too patient with people I've dated to the point where I dated a "sensitive new-age guy". He even admitted to having the kind of "feminine" qualities that balanced my more "masculine" ones. He was like half a step from being a yoga instructor.

He also liked me because I made more money than he did. Strange flex that I get to say I had my own gold-digger, but that's where I'm at in life.
I feel this. Until a year+ ago I was always dating (when not married, lol), and I - for reasons that took a long time to figure out - basically treated red flags like a red carpet of welcome. Dumb lack of discernment, but it was what it was. I figured out my glitch but/and decided to stop dating altogether and to focus on other things. Excellent decision.

Occasionally I think maybe I'll start again, maybe it would be nice, but tbh the feeling is always fleeting. I figured out my poor thinking, but now that my priorities are straight, I don't feel like risking confusing them. I have goals and some things to prove to myself and am not willing to jeopardize them. Plus, the idea of making time for it is just not compelling at all right now. Add to that the stuff you said - the (hidden and overt) baggage, the compromises - and my experience of picking either gold-digger losers or materially successful assholes, and the relatively tiny pool of men my age/within a reasonable range who match or exceed my brain and wallet* - and that's not even getting to actual compatibility - and I just do not feel the energy for it. Maybe in a year.

* I have compromised (and at the time did not consider it compromising - but it was) on one or both of these time and time again - and to my severe detriment. Won't do it again.
 
and I just do not feel the energy for it.
I'm immediately losing energy for any guy I meet when they pour on something that feels like they're rushing me.

Guys that I have gone on one fucking date with using words like "supportive" and "accommodating", like I'm supposed to be emotionally dependent on a guy I barely know. Or the ones who think I had nothing better to do that I could just rush out to meet them, as if I somehow might not have plans tonight or tomorrow.

Way too many guys I've met in the last few years give me the vibe that I should be constantly shouting "Motherfucker, I just met you!"
 
I'm immediately losing energy for any guy I meet when they pour on something that feels like they're rushing me.

Guys that I have gone on one fucking date with using words like "supportive" and "accommodating", like I'm supposed to be emotionally dependent on a guy I barely know. Or the ones who think I had nothing better to do that I could just rush out to meet them, as if I somehow might not have plans tonight or tomorrow.

Way too many guys I've met in the last few years give me the vibe that I should be constantly shouting "Motherfucker, I just met you!"
Ew. Experienced that, too. And I'm 100% certain I had that exact shout in my mind, word for word, each time. I chalk it up mostly to a tactical effort to create false intimacy, or, in some cases, desperation/ male pickmeism.
 
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I have completed my most important task for the new year. The new car magnet is installed. I wanted someone else to make a bumper sticker magnet, but they didn't so I had to stick it to a magnet, but it's installed, only a month and a half late.
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And the first drywall skim coat is on all the walls I'm doing. And I'm realizing how far out of flat some of them are, so at least one more coat, maybe 2. Yay.
 
I feel like we could trade stories. Want to hear how I'm unironically done dating rich guys? Ha ha.
Are they the ones who insist you pay you share of even the most ridiculous things like something you thought was something sweet but then he tell you to pay him back $3 for your half? Or are they the ones that spend ridiculous amounts of money on things you don't want and expect you to be grateful or in awe of their money?
 
Are they the ones who insist you pay you share of even the most ridiculous things like something you thought was something sweet but then he tell you to pay him back $3 for your half? Or are they the ones that spend ridiculous amounts of money on things you don't want and expect you to be grateful or in awe of their money?
Strangely, no.

Now, I want to make it clear that both of these individuals were verifiable in terms of considerable wealth.

Basically, their attitude was dating me as a bit of sport. I'm not a bad looking woman by any stretch, but I'm not a model; certainly not the kind to brag to your fellow rich buddies like, "look what I've got". So, they kept reminding me how much better they could do than me if I didn't do what they wanted. One even made it his mission to be my life coach, as if I asked. The other was an entitled shit that insisted I showed up whenever he booty called, as if I don't have things to do.

Bear in mind, I didn't care that they were rich (they were also both overweight). They also both happened to be intelligent and interesting when they weren't being assholes to me.
 
three weeks until training for my new job starts. I should get my equipment in a week or so that I have the set up. I know it's a mac but I don't know if it's a mac mini, imac, macbook, or a mac pro. any would be fine but it would be nice if i could use a kvm switch
 
Now, I want to make it clear that both of these individuals were verifiable in terms of considerable wealth.

Basically, their attitude was dating me as a bit of sport. I'm not a bad looking woman by any stretch, but I'm not a model; certainly not the kind to brag to your fellow rich buddies like, "look what I've got". So, they kept reminding me how much better they could do than me if I didn't do what they wanted. One even made it his mission to be my life coach, as if I asked. The other was an entitled shit that insisted I showed up whenever he booty called, as if I don't have things to do.

Bear in mind, I didn't care that they were rich (they were also both overweight). They also both happened to be intelligent and interesting when they weren't being assholes to me.
If you had asked for a life coach in order to integrate into rich culture as a wife he could've meant well, but that definitely sounds demeaning. The other clearly saw you as an onahole servant and that's awful.
 
Kid week is over

Enter depression

Nah, not really. I'm promising myself and you, I'll do something productive (aside from work) this week. Don't know what, but I will.
 
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If you had asked for a life coach in order to integrate into rich culture as a wife he could've meant well, but that definitely sounds demeaning. The other clearly saw you as an onahole servant and that's awful.
It was clearly demeaning. He was basically giving orders.

The other one...yeah. He basically tried to get me to do what he wanted even though I told him "dude, we're not committed, see who you want". He absolutely hated that.
 
three weeks until training for my new job starts. I should get my equipment in a week or so that I have the set up. I know it's a mac but I don't know if it's a mac mini, imac, macbook, or a mac pro. any would be fine but it would be nice if i could use a kvm switch
Any, really?
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But really they can all, except the one pictured, use a KVM switch. You may just have to spring for the adapter out of pocket though. I have a company assigned MacBook of some flavor and it's all attached to exernal KVM. I open it just long enough for the startup 'ding' then close the display and it does everything on the external.
 
I need to keep bitching.

My current trainer got overzealous at the prospect of having twice as many man-hours between the two of us and overcommitted to some shit so he could make more money, even though for the most part I've never done this before. That blew up in his face and we had to walk some shit back, and we've done absolutely nothing today while waiting for further instruction. Now he's pissed off because he's not going to make as much, and complaining about how it's being handled. Thing is, I watched my boss explicitly tell him not to do this. So either he's an actual retard or he's being incredibly disingenuous -- actually I know it's the latter because I heard him comment about doing it this way knowing we're not supposed to. So he's just taking advantage of the situation for his own gain.
Worst part is, we're traveling for this, so I'm stuck in this situation until Thursday, regardless of what management says tomorrow. Which means I can't say shit about it or I'll have to deal with a pissed off trainer all week.

Trying to cope without seething but I need support.
 
Feel like shit lately, lost my 13 y/o cat to a severe onset of acute on chronic kidney disease 6 weeks ago. No previous indications he was bad off until it was pretty bad. Put him in the hospital only for the vets to put him into fluid overload on day 3. Caused him to have trouble breathing and I didn't want him to suffer anymore. Had to say goodbye without even being able to hold him while he was still conscience. He was a damn good cat, knew his name, and would talk to you. Hung out with my family at Christmas time. Was playing with toys the day before he got sick. It's all so hard to believe. Fuck this year.
 
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