He just wants it to be an action RPG because there's a chance the game just lets him through after he bangs his head against the wall enough times despite the fact that he doesn't engage with over half of the game's mechanics, he can't do that with a cRPG like BG3. That's why he compares it with Soulslikes, he beat every FromSoftware Souls game despite only grasping how about 1/3 of the mechanics work, he beat both Nioh games despite the fact that he never used stances or active skills. He would've beaten those games faster if he engaged with their mechanics, but that requires using a wee bit of brainpower and he can't have that, not to mention that the games let him Grug smash his way through them once enough time passes so there's no need. For fuck's sake in Elden Ring he was 70 hours in when he asked the question "What is an Ash of War?"
BG3 makes you at least think about what you're doing and you can't just autopilot it and expect to progress and he can't handle it. It's not even a difficult game, it's based on an easy as fuck system (5e DnD) and you can make encounters even easier with lateral thinking, Larian put in a lot of stuff in the environment that help you out a lot. I dread to think how toxic he'd get if he had to play one of the Pathfinder games which are all about stats and number crunching.