I lean toward zero fucks myself but the fact that people are responding positively to Lissa as that character relates to them gives me pause. People with autism are already at a disadvantage and a cretin like Murray shouldn't be inveigling his way into their lives via fake personae. A damaged person or a person who is wildly aneurotypical is going to have a really hard time if they find themselves relating and finding commonality with a person who proves to be a fetish stand-in for a gross old man. But even as I type this I feel like I'm concern trolling. I may be but mostly I don't want Murray to think that when people finally turn on him that he can persuade them that he was doing a good thing because look at all the people he helped.
Yeah, that is true. And they'd have every right to be hurt by that. But if Murray thinks he's protecting their feelings by dragging this out, he's only making this worse. Every post digs the hole a little bit deeper, but if he comes clean, he'd get the full force of their wrath all at once. It's a catch-22.
Someone's been weening:
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Some responses from Kintsugi members to various posts from here. There's a lot of them. There are more, but I can't bother screencapping them all.
So, we're wrong, but it also doesn't matter if we're right, because they totally don't care and on the internet reality is subjective anyway.
Okay. But none of them answered my main question: if it turns out that Lissa is not real, and Murray is lying to you, would you forgive him for it? Would you still like him? If he copped to it right now, and told you that everything was a lie, would you be cool with that?
This isn't about ableism here. I could totally buy a nonverbal autistic woman that was a coding savant. I could buy her being articulate and eloquent through text. All of these have a real-world precedent and have been documented. What I cannot buy is her being able to savagely beat a dude for touching her and suffer no repercussions for it. I cannot buy that a company would make their workers sign away their rights just to accommodate a single person. I cannot buy that a company would be okay with this savant shitting and pissing on the floors of their workspace because she's just that good. That goes far beyond what would be considered reasonable accommodations for the disabled. If the accommodations are infringing upon the rights of other workers to the point where they cannot retaliate after suffering grievous bodily harm at the hands of one of their co-workers, then that is bullshit and I cannot be expected to swallow that without question. That part is the fantasy element that you want to believe. You want to believe, whether for yourself or for others, that some company would be so compassionate to the disabled that they would bend over backwards to cater to someone who would be an absolute fucking nightmare to employ. Really, at the end of the day, what sacrifices is Lissa making for her co-workers to accommodate them? What behavior is she trying to reign in to be considerate of the fact that she is part of a team and should be expected to respect her fellow co-workers? Apparently she's able to just do whatever the fuck she wants, provided she gets some coding done. The idea that a free spirit autistic woman could just be allowed to do this shit and the normies just have to fucking deal with it is the sort of fantasy that thousands of Tumblr bloggers so desperately want for themselves to be able to do, but they won't get it. They don't want to meet halfway. They just want everything to cater to them. Wouldn't everything be so great if everybody was 100% considerate of the things I feel and what bothers me, and I never have to do anything I don't want to do ever? That's the fantasy Lissa fulfills, because that's what she gets to do, and anybody in her world that challenges that is rightfully (in her mind) punished, usually on the spot.
So I guess that leads to another question: How many stories has Lissa told where somebody does something she doesn't like and she's told that she has to just deal with it, instead of having a meltdown until she gets what she wants? How many times has she told a story and somebody told her that she's being unreasonable, and she's not the only person in the world that's important, and she has to take a deep breath and do something that she doesn't want to do that's thoughtful of other people?
I don't give a shit if you think I sound like Batman or a therapist from a movie or whatever. You can make fun of me for my tone all you want. Not like you'd be the first to make fun of me for trying to level with you because you think I'm beneath you somehow, and just ignore me so you can keep telling yourself the same bullshit over and over without having to think critically at all. I was raised by somebody like that. I'm used to it. But while you're trying to convince us that you totally don't take any of this serious, and talking down to me like I'm just some know-nothing idiot, I'm watching you guys flounder in your own denial and contradict yourselves because we're asking questions that are making you uncomfortable and you do not like it.
So again: if Lissa isn't real, and Murray is lying to you about all of this,
how would that make you feel?