Poppy Brown
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- Feb 12, 2024
No, I spent 10 years estranged from my own (basically atheist) family. I'm tired of arguing about this. I've had selfish tards on reddit try to justify their position with absurd hypotheticals ("but what if your dad and all his friends raped you every day since you were six?!?! How dare you suggest that girl have to take care of her dad!!!") I don't know how to explain to people that they should feel a responsibility to their family and see that their parents living under a bridge at 70, which was the norm to do up until ~50 years ago and still is in most countries. I'll just say go read r/raisedbynarcissists and tell me all of these people are genuinely beleaguered by irredeemably horrible parents. My only other thought is the strong feelings this seems to provoke is telling.
Well, I’m not really arguing with you that this mindset of “fuck my parents” isn’t selfish. I’m simply explaining that this selfishness is predictable, avoidable, and in many cases justifiable.
It’s predictable that selfish parents will raise selfish kids.
You can avoid having selfish kids, if you don’t act like a selfish fuck yourself and actually raise your children instead of letting the state do it for you.
If you were a selfish parent, it’s justifiable for your children to not want to deal with your bullshit anymore. Likewise, if you don’t hold up your end of the social contract by actually raising your children, don’t feel entitled to your children then holding up their end of the social contract when you get too old to care for yourself. You were the one who broke the contract first and should have thought about that before. Only a Christian cuck, with the "turn the other cheek and let's enable abuse cuz God will deal with it anyway" mindset, would argue with this last part.
Also, unlike the r/raisedbynarcissists folks I'm not even going to bother trying to come up with hypothetical scenarios to justify cutting off your parents because I don't think someone needs to be "irremediably horrible" for someone to be cut off. Sometimes just being a selfish asshole is more than enough. Now if you want to argue that people should still care for their parents even if they are selfish assholes, cool, but I will argue that parents should just not be selfish assholes. I've seen people try over and over again to get their parents to stop being selfish assholes, only for their attempts to not be taken seriously until they finally give up and cut off their parents. Of course, despite the multiple attempts by the kid, the parents are simply shocked and have no idea why their kid did that. Eventually, they'll either blame it on the libs, their kids SO, or anything and everything except themselves.
If someone is 70 and living under a bridge that person is 99% of the time a junkie or alcoholic and they did that to themselves. Do you honestly think good, kind-hearted parents are being left to freeze under bridges by their kids who just happen to be selfish through no fault of the parent? Nah, bro. That's not happening.
Finally, you seem to think that folks over at r/raisedbynarcissists are just exaggerating about how bad their parents really were and are just a bunch of spoiled babies who need to grow a pair. Now considering that Reddit is just a giant circle jerk of people complaining about nothing I can see that. However, the question that remains is, who spoiled them in the first place? Pretty sure the parents did. Parents spoil their children because they are either trying to keep their children forever dependent on them by making it so they can’t fend for themselves or because they are lazy fucks who don’t want to take the time to discipline their children or spend time with them. Then they cry victim when the monsters they created turn on them. Either way, if the kid feels they need to cut them out of their life to recover from the damage their parents, well so be it. If the parents really weren't that bad they'll reconcile when they're ready.