Oh no no no, we do not play it safe here. I won the lottery- it was one of those "draw yourself" threads on /soc/, my nigga. It was a very bad and lonely time and I just wanted someone to talk to. Someone on /adv/ mentioned that it's not really that bad of a board for finding a friend, so I gave it one chance and got lucky. Paradoxically less scary to share contacts there for someone paranoid than any blue boards, as there's less attention drawn to it. It's a sea of contact information and people are less likely to go out of their way to fuck you up because you like the thing they don't like. Funnily enough, I knew another couple that came about in the same thread, but fell out of contact, so no clue if they're still going or not.
Also, I'd draw the definite line somewhere after the second election in 2020, that's when the gay discord ops and bots really raped the festering corpse. I actually left for 8ch during the first exodus and only came back shortly before 8ch died due to, well, looking for advice on /adv/. The local incels of 8ch were way too angry to help out with anything at that point, if your gender slipped, you'd get nothing but seething.