Are you lost needing femoid advice post here - For the poor bastard's who dare or are just curious

  • 🐕 I am attempting to get the site runnning as fast as possible. If you are experiencing slow page load times, please report it.
Big Miss Steak said:
Not seeking it out but not opposed if the right person comes along. I've realized that I have a certain combination of personality traits that makes me ill-suited for a lot of men, and I recognize that I have high standards in some areas. I hold myself to those same standards, so I don't think they're unfair. But I would rather remain single and wonder if I should have gotten married, than get married and be miserable or resent my partner. I think that's so evil, to saddle a man to a bitter or regretful spouse (me) because I was afraid of what, being lonely? My stance has been reinforced by seeing female friends/relatives/acquaintances of mine in the double digits be sexually assaulted, physically abused, psychologically abused, cheated on, or divorced suddenly by their boyfriends and husbands. I know some awful women who are unfaithful or nags or whatever, but one of the bigger shocks in my adult years has been seeing how often men are unfaithful or abuse their partner. I am sitting here and I'm not sure I know any couple who's been married longer than 5 years and didn't go through a "season of trial" where the man had an affair.
Click to expand...

I feel oddly similar about this and I still don't know how I feel about it.
 
Generic Name #37 said:
Question for any of the the single heterosexual women who might read this, are you still interested in a relationship, or have you just given up on it for whatever reason? Are you actively seeking out a relationship, not actively seeking one out, but are open to one developing? Have you just given up hope of ever having a fulfilling relationship with a man? None of the above?
Click to expand...
Bit late but I am in an almost 5 year relationship with my boyfriend, but I often thought about this question or a situation if I didn't meet my boyfriend would I pursue a relationship.

I probably wouldn't, at least not for a good while, not because I don't have faith in men, but because my previous relationship was an abusive one and it took me a while to recover and re-learn how to live life properly without having to worry about walking on eggshells, even with the support and help of my now current boyfriend along with my family and friends. Because the last thing I want to do is ambush somebody with emotional baggage. Recovery takes time and to recover you must do your part also, and not expect someone else to do it for you.
 
  • Feels
  • Like
  • Disagree
Reactions: World Famous Quasi Payer, suspended animation, BLACKHAWK_Entropy and 7 others
KittyGremlin said:
I feel oddly similar about this and I still don't know how I feel about it.
Click to expand...
Embrace that you will face loneliness but also more freedom than than people married and/or with kids and roll on.

Being single has allowed me to be there to support friends/family of mine who were suddenly divorced or otherwise fell on hard times, in a way I could not have if married/parenting. The love you have to give does not have to go to waste, it just has to go elsewhere.
 
  • Like
  • Winner
  • Feels
Reactions: Kulmeister, suspended animation, The Holy Empress Theodora and 5 others
I feel really conflicted coming up on the one year anniversary of my relationship. She was a total mess when I met her but she got her shit together. Not in an "I can fix her kind of way" but of her own accord.

What does it mean when a girl self improooooves because of you? She still has a ways to go but I'm impressed.
 
  • Feels
  • Like
Reactions: Xenu, behavioral swamp thang, Inside your walls and 2 others
Big Miss Steak said:
Embrace that you will face loneliness but also more freedom than than people married and/or with kids and roll on.

Being single has allowed me to be there to support friends/family of mine who were suddenly divorced or otherwise fell on hard times, in a way I could not have if married/parenting. The love you have to give does not have to go to waste, it just has to go elsewhere.
Click to expand...
I think you're right.
 
Big Miss Steak said:
Embrace that you will face loneliness but also more freedom than than people married and/or with kids and roll on.

Being single has allowed me to be there to support friends/family of mine who were suddenly divorced or otherwise fell on hard times, in a way I could not have if married/parenting. The love you have to give does not have to go to waste, it just has to go elsewhere.
Click to expand...
People are dismissive of this fact, but the single aunt / gay uncle (no grooming joke pls) / single son/daughter are important actors of a family's ecosystem.

Thank you for being there.
 
Last edited:
  • Like
  • Feels
  • Thunk-Provoking
Reactions: suspended animation, Clamater, Inside your walls and 4 others
Agares said:
I feel really conflicted coming up on the one year anniversary of my relationship. She was a total mess when I met her but she got her shit together. Not in an "I can fix her kind of way" but of her own accord.

What does it mean when a girl self improooooves because of you? She still has a ways to go but I'm impressed.
Click to expand...
Describe her being a mess. Sometimes people change and mature like switch flipped in their heads and do 180. I went from dominant bending over femboys and just spending money to travel around to mom with most vanilla sex life and stash of gold coins savings once the baby rabies hit.

It might be baby rabies.
 
  • Like
Reactions: The Holy Empress Theodora and behavioral swamp thang
MasterBaiter said:
Describe her being a mess. Sometimes people change and mature like switch flipped in their heads and do 180. I went from dominant bending over femboys and just spending money to travel around to mom with most vanilla sex life and stash of gold coins savings once the baby rabies hit.

It might be baby rabies.
Click to expand...
Went from being an alcoholic NEET with no job or driver's license at 26 to having both despite having a chronic illness that technically qualifies her for disability. And she's done really well at her job and gotten a promotion despite being there for just a year and a half. And this is someone who sleeps for 12 hours a night sometimes because of her illness (I know she's telling the truth, she has a diagnosis and I've seen her do it IRL when we met up). She still drinks, but not as much as she used to. I looked back at our early DM's and sometimes I wonder why I even stayed with her. She trauma dumped a lot early on.

I'm just paranoid as shit about cluster B's, man. They just get more common in the dating pool the older you get and they seem to target men with the slightest twinge of empathy.
 
Agares said:
Went from being an alcoholic NEET with no job or driver's license at 26 to having both despite having a chronic illness that technically qualifies her for disability. And she's done really well at her job and gotten a promotion despite being there for just a year and a half. And this is someone who sleeps for 12 hours a night sometimes because of her illness (I know she's telling the truth, she has a diagnosis and I've seen her do it IRL when we met up). She still drinks, but not as much as she used to. I looked back at our early DM's and sometimes I wonder why I even stayed with her. She trauma dumped a lot early on.

I'm just paranoid as shit about cluster B's, man. They just get more common in the dating pool the older you get and they seem to target men with the slightest twinge of empathy.
Click to expand...
She sounds more like she has issues dealing with the shit hand she had been dealt, honestly i would nudge her to get therapy before she hits some bumps in life and spirals. I have been through this cycle get into the grind and hit a bumb spiral rinse wash repeat untill i got some therapy and meds. Get her help I am serious bro. I know most men dont wanna invest in women but you seem like you stuck around for a reason.

Cluster Bs dont trauma dump they love bomb and you would have known it by now.
 
  • Feels
  • Like
Reactions: Taxidermied Rat, Inside your walls, Tragon Dirtle and 1 other person
MasterBaiter said:
She sounds more like she has issues dealing with the shit hand she had been dealt, honestly i would nudge her to get therapy before she hits some bumps in life and spirals. I have been through this cycle get into the grind and hit a bumb spiral rinse wash repeat untill i got some therapy and meds. Get her help I am serious bro. I know most men dont wanna invest in women but you seem like you stuck around for a reason.

Cluster Bs dont trauma dump they love bomb and you would have known it by now.
Click to expand...
Yeah she's been through a lot and she's already on meds. Finding a good therapist is hard enough even with good insurance and hers isn't great. She does want to talk to her Dr about ADHD meds next appointment too.

Her parents divorced (she still has a good relationship with both of them in spite of it), almost lost a brother to suicide (he's successful with a family of his own now) and bad experiences with men both online and IRL. I hate to be an armchair psychologist but if anything, she probably has PTSD or some kind of CPTSD. She's been open with me about that and didn't all dump it on me at once. It was more a slow reveal whenever she felt brave enough to open up about the past. I see a lot of green flags in her relationship with her family especially.

Before we met, she seemed really attached to me but also seemed really cautious and nervous about meeting and it took 3 IRL meetups before we got really comfortable with each other. That doesn't sound very borderline based on your description. I hope you're right. I have issues of my own and navigating through all this was the hardest thing I've ever done.
 
  • Feels
Reactions: Xenu
Sneed S. McSneedensen said:
You should be meeting people irl.
Click to expand...
That always turns out badly. Already tried that and was friends for several years only to get screwed over after she moved a couple of towns away for uni and never moved back. Then she fucked up my "online friend" groups after she said she was lonely and some fucking simp white knighting by a faggot named stonecutters (drip mod) caused me to be ex communicated. She's dead to me. Didn't help it was her fucking fault I got picked up by a fucking troon after I confessed my feelings towards her and inevitably got raped and then went back to cry on her shoulder.
snov said:
It’s 100% a scam.
Click to expand...
Idk she seems nice, she may be a Jewish princess but that would be ok in my book and the autism and havoc she causes online is funny and entertaining albiet a little cringe. A step up from the cringe ass gamergirl dev who got laid off and probably works for some shitty sbi styled shell company now.

Now that my oneitis from that bitch is gone I can move on. Though this new girl better not show any rib or I'm going to force feed her chicken nuggets.

I have never been in a real relationship before. Maybe it's not? I'd have to do some more research on her but I don't want to pry? I guess I have to know at this point
 
  • Horrifying
Reactions: The Holy Empress Theodora
gorgoroth7134 said:
Is there an opposite version of this thread anywhere?
Click to expand...
You should make one, there’s plenty of things to ask moids.
Like I’m trying to mount a frame for a bed on the wall, but no matter how much I knock I can’t find one of those wooden supports I’m supposed to screw the frame into. It all just sounds like knocking at a wall to me, and I’ve no idea how guys do it.
 
  • Like
  • Agree
Reactions: ApeBass, suspended animation, The Holy Empress Theodora and 3 others
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back