why are you still single - and general discussion of the dating game

[Wood Logger]

Holy Shit, and I thought I had a dull life

hang out with her friends

 

[Party Hat Wurmple]

I went on a date recently and when I asked the woman what her hobbies or passions are, she literally said she doesn't have any except "hang out with her friends." I asked for clarification and if that's all, to which I received no clarification. Unexpectedly, the conversation was dull and she had nothing interesting to contribute. I don't know where to find decent women either.

I keep telling people, majority of Burgerland women are trash. Passport Bros is the future.

 

[Car Won't Crank]

Holy Shit, and I thought I had a dull life

Your average American woman's life is far duller, rest assured.

I keep telling people, majority of Burgerland women are trash. Passport Bros is the future.

She was fat too. I figured that would be compensated by an amicable personality but nope.

 

[Falcos_Commisar]

I went on a date recently and when I asked the woman what her hobbies or passions are, she literally said she doesn't have any except "hang out with her friends." I asked for clarification and if that's all, to which I received no clarification. Unexpectedly, the conversation was dull and she had nothing interesting to contribute. I don't know where to find decent women either.

Oh my God man. Well, the last person I went out with (~2 months ago) could talk but she wasn't exactly my type physically.

That said why not so we exchanged numbers and..... Nothing. Didn't answer calls or texts.

Maybe she got pissed I split the bill.... (No ladies I'm not dropping $150+ on a first date when you're not at least a 7/10)

I keep telling people, majority of Burgerland women are trash. Passport Bros is the future.

I'm agreeing with this more and more and more.

Just be SURE to have a prenup in place. The SEA, S. American and E. European women are catching on to the US divorce law insanity.

Your average American woman's life is far duller, rest assured.


She was fat too. I figured that would be compensated by an amicable personality but nope.

Sad to say but even the BIIIGGG girls are getting extremely picky these days.

Used to be, take the heifer out and you're basically going to get the vacuum action.

Now.... Lol not unless you're handsome, exciting and seem to be wealthy.

 

[Party Hat Wurmple]

Oh my God man. Well, the last person I went out with (~2 months ago) could talk but she wasn't exactly my type physically.

That said why not so we exchanged numbers and..... Nothing. Didn't answer calls or texts.

Maybe she got pissed I split the bill.... (No ladies I'm not dropping $150+ on a first date when you're not at least a 7/10)

The last date I went on, she fell asleep before our date and never texted me. So it was a no-call, no-show. She did call to apologize the next day, and she wound up taking me out to breakfast literally first thing in the morning. She even paid, which was neat but we didn't have much chemistry.

Just be SURE to have a prenup in place. The SEA, S. American and E. European women are catching on to the US divorce law insanity.

Yeah, you really have to play some crafty games with your finances. Helps if you have a sibling you REALLY trust.

Sad to say but even the BIIIGGG girls are getting extremely picky these days.

Used to be, take the heifer out and you're basically going to get the vacuum action.

Now.... Lol not unless you're handsome, exciting and seem to be wealthy.

That's because Chad and Tyrone have slow nights and have been scraping the bottom of the barrel. And once they get that once, they become completely oblivious to the self awareness of their looks.

 

[Falcos_Commisar]

The last date I went on, she fell asleep before our date and never texted me. So it was a no-call, no-show. She did call to apologize the next day, and she wound up taking me out to breakfast literally first thing in the morning. She even paid, which was neat but we didn't have much chemistry.

Ahaha holy shit that's hilarious. If it was a guy I could understand "manual relief" before a date to clear your mind and then just kinda passing out.

Women though.... Hmmm

At least you got fed

 

[Lemmingwiser]

Was talking to this girl; note, not for dating. She was a friend and I'm not into women. But anyway, we talked and she mentioned this err...sad tale about some friends of hers who were going out and how the boyfriend got some severe medical issue that left him bedridden with his organs in a bag.

His girlfriend coped by starting affairs and having sex left and right because "she really needed the intimacy and he couldn't fulfill her while he was sick. He forgave her after a while. True love."

I am still floored by that story and mortified by how she justified it.

I'm not. It's very fucking tough to take care of someone with that level of complications and presuming of course she did take care of him, loved him, spend time with him.

of all the types of infidelity this one is propably the least egregious.

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As for the whole guys who only go out with her for her money.... but you have money. So what's the problem?

The few times I've dated I've found them to have very basic bitch surface level interests. You could get a more educational experience watching Saturday morning cartoon shows.

This really makes me realize most men are unambitious simps tbqh. How do you have so little self-respect you out up with this shit for pussy

This to me signals men that take women as seriously as men and that's where they go wrong. You're supposed to lead the conversation and not into real topics because women will dissapoint in their capacity to discuss them. Instead touchy feely topics like hopes, aspirations, passions are what you should be talking about and like you're in a bar and might not talk again; lighthearted, amusing, and bust her balls a little.

But yeah considering the amount of men that would pay for sex, it's a surething that men will deal with some timewasting bullshit to get what they want. Lesbians go on dates. Gays don't. Ergo, dates are for women.

 

[Duke Nukem]

This to me signals men that take women as seriously as men and that's where they go wrong. You're supposed to lead the conversation and not into real topics because women will dissapoint in their capacity to discuss them. Instead touchy feely topics like hopes, aspirations, passions are what you should be talking about and like you're in a bar and might not talk again; lighthearted, amusing, and bust her balls a little.

But yeah considering the amount of men that would pay for sex, it's a surething that men will deal with some timewasting bullshit to get what they want. Lesbians go on dates. Gays don't. Ergo, dates are for women.

Fair point, there are women who will have sex with a guy right off the bat but yeah dating is a lot of garbage. Honestly I just prefer to be up front and honest and tell what I'm all about and if they're not into me so what?

Guys try all sorts of bullshit that gets them nowhere because they take dating advice from women. And from the male side of things it's like "you have to be chiseled jaw, six feet tall, more money than God, and a bitchin' hot sports car and million dollar house with a garage for the high priced status symbol."

It's all so tiresome.

 

[Geddy Lee's Fee and See]

This to me signals men that take women as seriously as men and that's where they go wrong.

You kinda have to. If you want a long-lasting relationship or marriage ,there's a definite need to be able to communicate and understand each other like adults. That doesn't mean you have to be passive, but you have to be assertive and listen to the complaints or concerns of your girl and answer them accordingly, while making your needs known and hear as well.

There's zero point in a relationship if you don't take the other person seriously. You're just wasting your time and theirs.

Fair point, there are women who will have sex with a guy right off the bat but yeah dating is a lot of garbage. Honestly I just prefer to be up front and honest and tell what I'm all about and if they're not into me so what?

Guys try all sorts of bullshit that gets them nowhere because they take dating advice from women. And from the male side of things it's like "you have to be chiseled jaw, six feet tall, more money than God, and a bitchin' hot sports car and million dollar house with a garage for the high priced status symbol."

It's all so tiresome.

The dysfunction in the romantic realm is just the inability of older generations to past down basic religious and perennial wisdom to the younger ones in addition to the modern world just not being accomadating them. Frankly, I can't see myself married to the average white woman. I think on average they are too far gone and don't have the physical, mental, spiritual and labor-related traits required to be a good spouse. It sucks to be single but I want be with a woman who has some sort of upbringing which is conducive to being a good wife and mother and most women are just spoilt princesses. They don't really bring anything of value into my life but they require my love, devotion and labor. That's not happening: relationships are two-way streets. If you don't deliver, I'm ending it.

I also think modern dating is just a shitty method for finding a life partner unless you have a lot of life experience or just know yourself well, something most people below 40 don't have. I think there needs to be a seismic shift in how men and women relate to one another and to themselves before we fiz this very obvious issue no one wants to talk about. Incels, femcels and all these coomer weirdos are not prominent in any society, especially in the realm of sex. The damage the sexual revolution has done to the West is pretty tremendous.

 

[Duke Nukem]

@Geddy Lee's Fee and See I find it hilarious that people think that I'm the one who's nuts for seeing things the way I do, but honestly dating advice is worse than useless and there's nowhere to go to meet potential life partners that isn't one of those stupid fucking apps. A guy I know thinks I'm crazy for not liking Tinder. I tried it in 2014, did manage to get a date with a girl for an evening but nothing more. Now it's a hell scape of bots and lunatics with lunatic demands. They expect you to have everything ready for them to hop right into and not have any other girl in mind as a potential date, but they can be fat ugly slobs who go out drinking and partying with as many guys as they want. Oh and you have to be six feet tall or more, so there's that.

Of course, if you decide to go abroad to find a wife, they'll lose their shit and scream about soggy knees in cells or whatever. I don't recommend this, because she'll probably dump your ass and go for Chad once she gets that sweet sweet green card.

But for real, just because nobody wants to date you doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, but society does everything it can to make you believe there is.

 

[Geddy Lee's Fee and See]

@Geddy Lee's Fee and See I find it hilarious that people think that I'm the one who's nuts for seeing things the way I do, but honestly dating advice is worse than useless and there's nowhere to go to meet potential life partners that isn't one of those stupid fucking apps. A guy I know thinks I'm crazy for not liking Tinder. I tried it in 2014, did manage to get a date with a girl for an evening but nothing more. Now it's a hell scape of bots and lunatics with lunatic demands. They expect you to have everything ready for them to hop right into and not have any other girl in mind as a potential date, but they can be fat ugly slobs who go out drinking and partying with as many guys as they want. Oh and you have to be six feet tall or more, so there's that.

Of course, if you decide to go abroad to find a wife, they'll lose their shit and scream about soggy knees in cells or whatever. I don't recommend this, because she'll probably dump your ass and go for Chad once she gets that sweet sweet green card.

But for real, just because nobody wants to date you doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, but society does everything it can to make you believe there is.

No one wants to admit that shits fucked because that would mean they would have to fix it. Therefore, they go along with it, no matter how empty it makes their lives. Most people are just followers, which would be fine if we lived in a halfway sane society. But we don't, so to them, it's better that everyone suffer equally than anyone enjoy true happiness at the expense of the herd.

Edit: I realized how lame this sounded, but you know what I mean: the average person is trained to be a consumer from birth and acts accordingly. They bring that mindset to all of the things they do and all of their platonic/romantic relationships. At no other point in history was this the norm. There was always some economic component to relationships, but there was a common understanding that each person is unique and has gifts/vices/talents etc that make them special. Dating apps and modern dating really just looks like a job interview just to get pussy. I'm sorry, but I have enough self-respect to not engage with that in my personal life. This modern dystopia is soul-shattering if you accept its terma. No wonder there's a mentla health crisis: people weren't meant to live like this at all. Modernity is anti-human.

 

[Duke Nukem]

No one wants to admit that shits fucked because that would mean they would have to fix it. Therefore, they go along with it, no matter how empty it makes their lives. Most people are just followers, which would be fine if we lived in a halfway sane society. But we don't, so to them, it's better that everyone suffer equally than anyone enjoy true happiness at the expense of the herd.

That's why I refuse to associate with most people, not only are most people followers, but they follow the stupidest fucking shit you can imagine. Yet another reason to despise collectivism, people who follow social media crap are basically the reason that cults exist.

 

[Lemmingwiser]

You kinda have to. If you want a long-lasting relationship or marriage ,there's a definite need to be able to communicate and understand each other like adults. That doesn't mean you have to be passive, but you have to be assertive and listen to the complaints or concerns of your girl and answer them accordingly, while making your needs known and hear as well.

There's zero point in a relationship if you don't take the other person seriously. You're just wasting your time and theirs.

Right but those aren't the same kind of serious topics that were mentioned previously. When it comes to discussing relationships, whether the one between you and her, or between other people, women are great conversationalists, very perceptive and often quite knowledgeable.

Honestly I just prefer to be up front and honest and tell what I'm all about and if they're not into me so what?

The approach of a man who values his own time.

 

[Ultrapenguin]

This to me signals men that take women as seriously as men and that's where they go wrong. You're supposed to lead the conversation and not into real topics because women will dissapoint in their capacity to discuss them. Instead touchy feely topics like hopes, aspirations, passions are what you should be talking about and like you're in a bar and might not talk again; lighthearted, amusing, and bust her balls a little.

But yeah considering the amount of men that would pay for sex, it's a surething that men will deal with some timewasting bullshit to get what they want. Lesbians go on dates. Gays don't. Ergo, dates are for women.

I actually think that's a valid issue.

As an example it's been a problem in the past where I've known dudes who get frustrated with their partner because she complains about situations at work or w/e, but then she doesn't seem to want to hear it when he keeps telling her how to "fix" the problem, and...yeah, because she just wants to vent and wasn't looking for you to jump down her throat over the situation.
You're just supposed to listen, maybe make some light commentary or dumb jokes about it, and let that be that.

It isn't like with men where usually if another male tells you about some problem it implicitly means they want you to give input as to how to solve it.

Society's really done men dirty since the 90s, as they all grew up with the notion that you should be blind to gender and treat women like men. You have to eventually figure out that's just rhetoric, and if you take it seriously it'll just make things less comfortable for everyone involved.

You have to be like a dog, chicks seem to like if you're sort of dumb but friendly and well meaning. They probably find it disarming.

Thankfully I find being a retard comes naturally, so.

 

[Party Hat Wurmple]

Ahaha holy shit that's hilarious. If it was a guy I could understand "manual relief" before a date to clear your mind and then just kinda passing out.

Women though.... Hmmm

At least you got fed

She was a ditzy person. I can't deal with air heads.

I'm not. It's very fucking tough to take care of someone with that level of complications and presuming of course she did take care of him, loved him, spend time with him.

If she loved him, she wouldn't have cheated. That's bitch talk. If she was the one with medical complications, do you think he would've cheated? No. Probably not. Hold them to your level of standards. That's cuck talk you're speaking.

It's all so tiresome.

I'll give you all dating advice as a guy.

1. Go to the gym. Get lean. Get muscle.
2. Go to the bar, level up your social skills. Talk to everyone. Learn to talk to EVERYONE. Yes, even men, and especially strangers of all ages.
3. Start a conversation with a girl. Ask her to go on a date at the end.

That's it. There's no fucking magic. Just have an ounce of confidence and testosterone and don't be a fucking neet.

A guy I know thinks I'm crazy for not liking Tinder. I tried it in 2014, did manage to get a date with a girl for an evening but nothing more.

I stay away from apps. But if you insist on using them. Your first problem is probably your pictures though - SMILE. LOOK HAPPY. LOOK LIKE YOU'RE FUN TO BE AROUND. I can't tell you how many of my friends' dating profiles I look at and they look like they're no fun to be around. Don't look like a serial killer. Look like a good time and you'll have a better time.

As an example it's been a problem in the past where I've known dudes who get frustrated with their partner because she complains about situations at work or w/e, but then she doesn't seem to want to hear it when he keeps telling her how to "fix" the problem, and...yeah, because she just wants to vent and wasn't looking for you to jump down her throat over the situation.
You're just supposed to listen, maybe make some light commentary or dumb jokes about it, and let that be that.

Well that's because guys don't understand when women complain, they just want to be validated. They know what the right answer to their problems are. They don't want an answer. They want an ear. Men don't communicate that way and often don't understand that.

 

[Duke Nukem]

@Geddy Lee's Fee and See Replying to your edit, that doesn't sound lame at all, Everything you say is true, apps are a joke especially now. Modern living is garbage for human mental health.

@Party Hat Wurmple I'm not a fan of bars in general, besides I'm too busy at my job to waste my time with that. I did try apps early on out of curiosity but now they're a complete joke. Fuck apps and anyone who uses them, for real.

Also I'm not so sure women give a shit about how much you bench or anything but I dunno, it seems like not being an unhygienic fatass isn't enough. In fact, I'm fairly certain nothing is good enough for them, but like I said I've already gotten some experience before everything went to shit and turned into Clown World so eh.

The approach of a man who values his own time.

If you don't value yourself or your own time, how do you expect anyone else to?

Thankfully I find being a retard comes naturally, so.

You'd think Chris Chan would be rolling in pussy if that were the case.

 

[Lemmingwiser]

You have to be like a dog, chicks seem to like if you're sort of dumb but friendly and well meaning. They probably find it disarming.

I always get the impression that women respond best to a housecat behaviour. That is to say, a bit haughty and arrogant and unpredicatable, but still domesticated and affectionate. It's men that prefer the happy and sort of dumb loyalty of a dog.

The men that are sort of doglike get into relationships but there it's the women that run the relationship to seemingly both inner's chagrin.

But perhaps I take the metaphore too far. Humans aren't pets.

If you don't value yourself or your own time, how do you expect anyone else to?

I mean I obviously don't value my time high enough. I post on the farms.

 

[Duke Nukem]

I mean I obviously don't value my time high enough. I post on the farms.

I just come here when things at work slow down, mainly. It's honestly the only online community I frequent now because people like me have nowhere else to go.

 

[Kel1 shi1]

That's because Chad and Tyrone have slow nights and have been scraping the bottom of the barrel. And once they get that once, they become completely oblivious to the self awareness of their looks.

It's true, This one woman on an app was complaining to me that she got pumped and dumped by some Italian guy just a week ago. Then she let me know in no uncertain terms that I could come to her place and have a good time. So I got there and discovered I'd been fatfished, I mean not that bad but the creative camera angles were used. Anyway, I wasn't going to waste the journey or the boner. I also pumped and dumped and now knew why the Italian guy who was painted as the bad man did the same. I'm sure she continued to repeat the same pattern hoping to land a simp one day.

 

[Party Hat Wurmple]

@Party Hat Wurmple I'm not a fan of bars in general, besides I'm too busy at my job to waste my time with that. I did try apps early on out of curiosity but now they're a complete joke. Fuck apps and anyone who uses them, for real

You don't have to be a fan. You just want to have a social life outside of your work. The reality is, yes money matters a lot but not enough to waste the best years of your life nuking your personal life for. Find a balance that works for you, because once in awhile never hurt anyone. Dating apps suck, but you have to know what to expect. There's a logistics to these things though.

Also I'm not so sure women give a shit about how much you bench or anything but I dunno, it seems like not being an unhygienic fatass isn't enough. In fact, I'm fairly certain nothing is good enough for them, but like I said I've already gotten some experience before everything went to shit and turned into Clown World so eh.

No woman cares how much you bench, it's about how good you look. But for you it's not about that either. It's about you staying healthy, and having a steady influx of that testosterone. You need that testosterone you get from working out. Working all day and doing nothing but vidya at home has rendered too many men to be fucking nutless losers. That's why simps are so prevalent nowadays. They have no testosterone.

It's true, This one woman on an app was complaining to me that she got pumped and dumped by some Italian guy just a week ago. Then she let me know in no uncertain terms that I could come to her place and have a good time. So I got there and discovered I'd been fatfished, I mean not that bad but the creative camera angles were used. Anyway, I wasn't going to waste the journey or the boner. I also pumped and dumped and now knew why the Italian guy who was painted as the bad man did the same. I'm sure she continued to repeat the same pattern hoping to land a simp one day.

She probably did. Make no mistake. I know a girl who slept with over 200 guys and she's getting married to coom brain next week. They started out poly. Not sure if they still are. Either way, gross.