MtF girlfriend detransing, told me that they want to be in a gay relationship … confused self.ftm
Submitted 14 hours ago by
420xanz
my girlfriend is detransitioning after 7 yrs of us dating. im a trans guy, consider myself straight i guess, before i transitioned i considered myself a lesbian. i have never dated a man, well, i guess until now.
i dont know how to feel abt it. and im scared, honestly. i am in love with this person a lot and i feel like it wouldn’t make sense to break up. and nothing has changed really.
i just don’t know what my life is going to look like from here on out. i never wanted to date a man and now i’m probably going to end up marrying one and have to tell people for the rest of my life i am?
i don’t really know how to feel at all. and i don’t want to talk to them about it yet because i’m not making anyone feel bad about their identity.
i feel like nothing has changed about them, i just feel weird as fuck because i don’t know if this is something i can do
has anyone else experienced this? being t4t and then the person you’re with detransitioned? how do i even know if i can do this or how i feel about it lol
i think also it probably is making me feel even more confused bc im just now hitting a year on hormones and my body is way different than before… idk, probably before this point i wouldn’t be okay with it at all. but in my head i just feel 100% like a guy now, i look and sound like one and nobody could really take it away from me.
idk if i am gay… like, i guess i am because i’m in love with a gay man now technically but is that really a life i’m allowed to live? not sure if that makes sense. feel conflicted and the fact i don’t want to end the relationship is making me feel even more conflicted. if anyone has any advice at all i really need guidance rn
