Trainwreck Alex Dacy / Alex Dzimtowicz / Wheelchair Rapunzel - 50% wholesome disability influencer, 50% that cash me outside girl

IDK I think both caregivers are exaggerating. Is Ari covered in bruises and scratches? Obviously not, we can see her bruises being consistent with a toddler learning to walk. Does Alex only drink when she goes out? Doubtful, she's pretty clearly drunk far more frequently than that. More likely is that Ari has the occasional unexpected bruise and Selena never personally saw Alex drinking simply because she leaves before Alex starts.

I'm personally still rooting for Noah. Overcoming mental illness is hard, overcoming addiction is hard, and overcoming a personality disorder is damn near impossible, best you get is learning to manage the symptoms. He is going to slip, but that doesn't mean he isn't trying to do better for his daughter. I could be wrong, I'm probably wrong, but the absolute worst thing to say to someone trying is that their effort is meaningless.
 
I'm personally still rooting for Noah. Overcoming mental illness is hard, overcoming addiction is hard, and overcoming a personality disorder is damn near impossible, best you get is learning to manage the symptoms. He is going to slip, but that doesn't mean he isn't trying to do better for his daughter. I could be wrong, I'm probably wrong, but the absolute worst thing to say to someone trying is that their effort is meaningless.
He needs to cut Alex out of his life. Yes, she's the mother of his child. She doesn't seem to give a shit about the child. Ari's a prop for cute photos. Make a Dropbox folder to fill with pictures and videos of her and send Alex the link. Alex and Noah feed off each other. Neither can get better until they are apart. I really do think Alex is the biggest thing holding him back.
 
Alex is having a meltdown.

First, she deleted the Instagram post drawing attention to her Youtube rebuttal.
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It’s been replaced by a baffling “how to” video about cleaning her wheelchair wheels:
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Based on the dirt that is left behind on the towel, I would guess Alex hasn’t actually cleaned her wheels in a long time if ever. Also her feet are the stuff of NIGHTMARES in this video. How do they get so DIRTY?!

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She replied to a comment about the absolute state of her nasty feet:
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This just in! Filthy feet don’t matter so long as they never touch the ground! Ari definitely NEVER puts her hands or mouth ANYWHERE near those disgusting hooves so it’s totally fine for them to be filthy and unsanitary.

She’s also posted a ton of stories continuing to argue against Hannah’s accusations and attempting to discredit her character. She accuses Hannah of attempting to flirt with Noah by asking him to LIFT HER to hang a picture on the wall.
 
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Alex is having a meltdown.

First, she deleted the Instagram post drawing attention to her Youtube rebuttal.
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It’s been replaced by a baffling “how to” video about cleaning her wheelchair wheels:
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Based on the dirt that is left behind on the towel, I would guess Alex hasn’t actually cleaned her wheels in a long time if ever. Also her feet are the stuff of NIGHTMARES in this video. How do they get so DIRTY?!

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She replied to a comment about the absolute state of her nasty feet:
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This just in! Filthy feet don’t matter so long as they never touch the ground! Ari definitely NEVER puts her hands or mouth ANYWHERE near those disgusting hooves so it’s totally fine for them to be filthy and unsanitary.

She’s also posted a ton of stories continuing to argue against Hannah’s accusations and attempting to discredit her character. She accuses Hannah of attempting to flirt with Noah by asking him to LIFT HER to hang a picture on the wall.
All to their own but that's not how I would clean my wheels.
 
She accuses Hannah of attempting to flirt with Noah by asking him to LIFT HER to hang a picture on the wall.
So Hannah is simultaneously big and imposing enough to frighten Selena, but small enough to not be able to hang a picture herself? Hmmmm.

Alex is dumb as fuck to be corroborating Hannah's stories happening at all, even if she's contesting the specifics. If she flat out denied them happening, it would be a complete "he said, she said" situation. Now everyone knows something happened, just that there's discrepancies on the severity. And Alex has never portrayed herself as a reliable narrator.
 
She’s also posted a ton of stories continuing to argue against Hannah’s accusations and attempting to discredit her character. She accuses Hannah of attempting to flirt with Noah by asking him to LIFT HER to hang a picture on the wall.

Alex is indeed having a meltdown. She removed the YouTube video but is reiterating the same talking points in her Instagram stories.

New caregiver Selena is seen passing through the background at one point. Of note, Alex blamed Hannah for her nudity, but she's topless in these stories.

I know Alex's voice is a hard sell, so here's what she's saying for those who don't want to listen:

She says that Selena wanted to help her do the YouTube video, that it was even her idea to do most of the talking. People had wondered why she seemed to be encouraging Selena to talk in the video, complete with notes, so this is her response to that. She blames Ari's choking on Hannah not watching her. A "veteran mom" at the party had to "pat" Ari's back, which I hope doesn't mean it was a Heimlich. DCFS thinks that she and Noah are "great" parents (not enough doubt in the world).

She refers to the current situation as "internet beef and drama," which is not how I would phrase a situation involving my child. Says Hannah did not sign an NDA.

Confirms that she did pee on Hannah. She'd fought with her mom and asked Hannah to come take her out (again, where is Ari?). Alex has had chronic UTIs (probably because she's grossly unhygienic and sits on a tuna towel) and has had urinary urgency since pregnancy. Says Hannah lifted her wrong, and that's when she peed on her.

This is part 1 of her stories; more to come.















Part 2: the rest of Alex's stories from today (so far, anyway, but she's on one).

More summary for those who can't listen to Alex:

She paid Hannah $20 an hour, cash. If this isn't already obvious, this implies a very dodgy payment and income situation on all sides. Also says that Hannah wasn't good at doing any of her assigned duties (the caretaking particulars), which could've been avoided if Alex didn't get her caretakers off Craigslist and run a cash-only business.

She never had Hannah sign a contract. That's probably true, because Alex is dumb and disorganized, but she's also throwing words like NDA and contract around, and I'm not sure she knows what any of them actually mean and might not always be saying the right thing.

Her atrophied hand smells like cheese because it doesn't get aired out. Blames Hannah for not cleaning her hand properly and says that's why it smelled. I know I'm not the only one thinking of the Hartley Hooligans.

Hannah also had a second job with a woman named Angela. Hannah begged Alex to make her full time because she didn't like working for Angela, who she said was crazy and OCD.

Because Hannah wasn't great at her caretaking duties with Alex, Alex sort of shifted her duties to care of Ari. This sounds just fabulous, doesn't it? Anyway, she wasn't good with Ari either and struggled with things like diaper changes and getting her dressed.

Cairo (aka Bubba; she calls him both at times) has been feeling the lack of attention since Ari was born. He liked living at the Smiths and misses it. He loved being with the other dogs and being outside. Her new apartment doesn't suit him because he doesn't have a balcony to hang out on. If Hannah offered to take Cairo, Alex doesn't remember it.

Cairo gets plenty of walking when she leaves the house, because he goes out with Alex whenever she goes out. He follows her, so she never puts him on a leash (wtf, Alex). She takes him everywhere, even restaurants-- so, what I'm hearing here is that Alex continues to weaponize her disability so that she doesn't have to follow the same rules as everyone else. She does the same thing with the nudity.

She shared this screenshot of a text exchange:

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Honestly, I'm a bit shocked that Alex just gets a stipend to pay whoever for whatever. I'm all for freedom of choice and less government interference in our lives, but that just sounds like it's asking for trouble. Like, yanno, a disabled Mom hiring random Zoomers with influencer aspirations who can't properly lift Alex? Using the stipend to pay for a carer for both her AND Ari? Pocketing half the stipend because she's hiring under qualified and cheap carers? I'm not saying that the IHSS process in Commiefornia is foolproof, but at least folks are vetted and (very marginally) trained. They get CPR certifications and are paid by the state, not directly from the disabled person, so their rate of pay is pretty (shitty, but) standard. They are also officially bound by HIPAA, mandatory reporter laws, and are covered by state insurance for on the job injuries.

I don't mean to Social Services sperg, but I just can't fathom how that kind of lack of oversight works out for the best. Like, kinda exactly what we're seeing here.

And Alex- saying "she was supposed to sign an NDA" is. . . 100% on you, cheesepaw.
 
Alex is vile. 20-somethings working 7 days/week for a drunk invalid and a 1 yo and a dog with a horny loony boy addict looming around. Sure hope she is paying payroll taxes and scrupulously tracking and paying overtime.

And how is it true both that Hannah's one job at the party was watching Ari and that the photographs she was asked to take at the party were unacceptably bad?

And good luck enforcing that unsigned text/oral "nda" that likely was "negotiated" after Hannah had already been offered and accepted the position. that was raised beforehand but I still don't see a signature. And Hannah didn't say "I agree" I'm those texts, just that she's totally discrete and not the type who would ever tell tales, ever.
 
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Her atrophied hand smells like cheese because it doesn't get aired out. Blames Hannah for not cleaning her hand properly and says that's why it smelled.
Wouldn't that one of the jobs she foisted to Noah? He’s well acquainted with her needs (doesn’t necessarily care, though). You’re only as good as the company you keep. She likes em young, dumb n underpaid yet expects to be provided with intuitive high level care. I’m having trouble locating my sympathy bone
 
That Dad Dude did that video with a clear agenda. I’m not sticking up for Alex here at all, but he’s not one to listen to.

Listen closely: each thing that Hannah said, he restated to make the situation sound worse, and she agreed. Sometimes she didn’t respond because it wasn’t what she said and he ran with his own story . Guy is slooow.

Frankly, I think Hannah is no more trustworthy than Alex. She got spooked with that devil joke and as a probably pentecostal-type Christian she started imagining all sorts of evil that didn’t exist. It’s gross that Alex peed on her but I suspect Alex has little bladder control to start with; urinary incontinence and SMA are linked. That’s kind of the job of a caretaker-they deal with pee and poop.

But the pants story is not an exaggeration. We’ve seen Alex without pants as long as we’ve watched her. The idea that she didn’t have pants on because this girl couldn’t lift her is ridiculous.

Alex should stop responding to these slap fights and just let CPS decide what’s good for Ari. Apparently they have -they decided the home is safe enough. Alex should hire professionals and not kids off Craigslist. Whatever her reason for bypassing the system-whether money or control, she isn’t doing herself favors. A professional might not do a two-for-one but they’d do a better job. And she should figure out how to be an influencer without putting her kid online.

Will she do that? Nah. Because I suspect she also has BPD and loves the drama and attention and chaos. I don’t think the dog or Ari are being abused. I do think mistakes are being made with Ari-like the choice of confetti.

But if a caregiver was to watch Ari she would have caught her playing with it and putting it in her mouth. My family boys would find stuff on the ground I had no idea was there and because my eyes were always on them I was able to remove it. That year they spend putting everything in their mouth has to be a vigilant year. That girl told on herself there. Still, Alex is Mom and it’s ultimately her responsibility and if she’s hiring 19 year olds with no experience than she needs to make sure the environment is safe.

The drinking is the most concerning. If she really is drinking all day, that’s a problem. A drink after the baby is down for the night isn’t. Still, we see lots of videos of Alex and just a couple does she seem drunk so once again, I think that girl exaggerated, spurred on by that dumb man.
Mas always, the truth lies somewhere in between.

So far, Ari looks healthy, smiley, unbruised and happy, so I’m going with that.
 
Whatever her reason for bypassing the system-whether money or control, she isn’t doing herself favors. A professional might not do a two-for-one but they’d do a better job.
I think the reason Alex doesn't hire a professional is partly money but also, she doesn't want a REAL caregiver. They might start making suggestions to improve Alex's care (a regular toileting schedule or stretching/ROM for her contractures) or recommend adaptive/assistive devices that "disabled" people use (AFOs for her feet/hands or a chest strap to help her sit upright). Alex doesn't want anyone to tell her what to do (as Barbarella mentioned: control) and she certainly doesn't want to be viewed as disabled - unless it is to her personal benefit, like allowing her to not have to follow the rules like everyone else does. She can manipulate the young girls from Craigslist and tell them what to do but the care she receives is not professional or best practices in the field.
 
She seems like someone who should stop looking for caregiver positions if she can't respect her client's/employer's privacy and dignity.
Milk or not, she has no business gossiping about Alex to some dickhole YouTuber. I'd be pissed if someone decided to discuss my bladder function like that.
She could have and should have notified the appropriate authorities if she was so concerned.
Any minimally functional/responsible employer/client would refuse to hire her if they caught wind of this little interview, and rightly so.
A child is being harmed in both the short and long term and it's been established in this thread and others that child services in the USA will not be able to help.
 
I’ve never had to deal with CPS/DCF because my parents loved me and I don’t post my entire life on the internet, but do the investigators typically give their personal opinions about the situation to the people they’re investigating? I do not believe her when she says that the people sent out by the government to investigate the profoundly disabled mother and drug addict father were basically like, “yeah this is sooo dumb lmao we just have to come check it out, you’re obviously great parents! Good job!”
 
I’ve never had to deal with CPS/DCF because my parents loved me and I don’t post my entire life on the internet, but do the investigators typically give their personal opinions about the situation to the people they’re investigating? I do not believe her when she says that the people sent out by the government to investigate the profoundly disabled mother and drug addict father were basically like, “yeah this is sooo dumb lmao we just have to come check it out, you’re obviously great parents! Good job!”
Some will do whatever is required to get in that house and assess that child.
 
Yeah I agree that that dad podcast guy is a bit douchey. Like the person above me said he'd kinda exaggerate some allegation and then run with it. Hannah had the decency to flat out say a couple times "I wasn't there" or "I didn't experience that." So I appreciate that it sounded like she was just sticking to what she knew.

Also from what I remember it felt like he was judging Alex for sleeping around...like who gives a shit. She won't live past 30 let the girl slut it up. Still though, I don't think k she is a good person at all so there's that.
 
A child is being harmed in both the short and long term and it's been established in this thread and others that child services in the USA will not be able to help.
The Smiths really are Ari's best shot.
Also from what I remember it felt like he was judging Alex for sleeping around...like who gives a shit. She won't live past 30 let the girl slut it up. Still though, I don't think k she is a good person at all so there's that.
My only worry would be that she gets pregnant again. It was a fucking miracle Ari turned out as wonderfully normal as she did.
 
The Smiths really are Ari's best shot.

My only worry would be that she gets pregnant again. It was a fucking miracle Ari turned out as wonderfully normal as she did.
Iirc, they put an IUD in her after Ari. Hopefully she won't be in a state to be sleeping around when she forgets to change it out in 5 years.
 
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