Are you lost needing femoid advice post here - For the poor bastard's who dare or are just curious

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I've got two IRL friends that know about KF/know I go on KF. One of them's a drama-following tea sipper who watches Turkey Tom and is okay with KF as a drama site, the other's a softie who was mortified to find out I use KF and is probably waiting for the other shoe to drop and for me to start doing seig heils in public or some shit. 🙄
Most of my closest friends know i go on it but don't really care. I've got another friend that's a mortified softy the way yours is, but I think he doesn't mind only because I'm not a guy so he just finds it quirky instead. I guess he thinks seig heiling is a boys only activity:P
Ive not told anybody irl about the tranny murder poopoo peepee site. Ive told a few people I used 4chan and that invited some disgust cause I told them what a goatse was and what meatspin was. I dont think theyd be okay with finding out Im on KF, a few people would probably and find it middling cause its a juvenile thing to say nigger on the internet but definitely nobody else. Most of my friends from school are the only friends I have and theyre all becoming increasingly adult ie absorbed into social justice, tech, social media all that. Ive earned my scoffs for saying rainbow gestapo in front of them when we left university, I guess KF will be my lil secret for a very long time.
 
Speaking of decorations, how important are they? I have a lot of interests but don't feel the need to surround myself with tokens of my hobbies. My apartment is pretty close to those stereotypical guys' apartment memes. Does that actually reflect really poorly on me to women?
If it’s way too bare bone try and get something that pops, like blue, pink, or yellow. When I briefly had my own place it was painted pink which was a good color, really draws your attention to it.
 
Women’s fashion, how does it work?? In all serious, I’m trying to do some character design and I don’t have the slightest clue how fashion works.
Women’s fashion is leagues above men’s but I recommend something simple for a combo. Khakis, Black shoes (sneakers can work), a button up shirt or at least a polo. Definitely get a belt or if you want to crank it up a notch get some suspenders. Then boom, you look like a different kind of freak.
 
Women’s fashion, how does it work?? In all serious, I’m trying to do some character design and I don’t have the slightest clue how fashion works.

Consider what your character does for a living; if they're a professional they might wear a pantsuit, if they're blue-collar they may wear utilitarian clothing like cargo pants, etc.. If it's a fantasy character that fights make sure to give them clothes they can maneuver in.

What's the weather like where they are? If it's cold, give them layers. Make their clothing make sense for their environment.

Fashion is fickle and really subjective, but there are classic pieces you can't go wrong with like the little black dress.

If you haven't already tried doing image searches, then do that. There's so much inspiration online.
 
Women’s fashion, how does it work?? In all serious, I’m trying to do some character design and I don’t have the slightest clue how fashion works.
Yeah I'm not sure what kind of designs you're going for here and for what purpose but just look through the closet of any top designer from the 90s-2000s. If there's any media franchise that you're trying to emulate, look up some old concept art for it and start there. Pinterest is extremely useful for stuff like this.

In high fashion there's couture and ready-to-wear. *
Couture is much like a concept car; superhuman, ridiculously extravagant, and not actually meant to be worn but to showcase a designer's talent in creativity and innovation. Haute couture is usually custom hand-made garments and they're expensive as fuck. If you want crazy supervillain-esque fashions, this is the spot for you.

Ready-To-Wear, much like the name suggests is what fashion houses actually sell to the masses. They're definitely toned down design wise, but you can actually see someone wearing them. These are mass produced accessible garments and while you probably won't see them worn out in public they usually still a staple in any high-end event. If you want a more realistic outfit for your characters it's better to look here instead.

* In recent years the line between couture and rtw is blurring heavily since everything is so shitty and crappy a couture show this year would've been rtw a decade ago. don't mind me.

If you're looking for something alien or edgy Alexander Mcqueen is your best bet. He's also had some wicked nature-inspired pieces, too.
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If you're looking for something majestic / triumphant Thierry Mugler is the guy for you. He had a more comprehensive style spanning multiple eras of fashion. Definitely recommend checking out his 1992, 1995, and 1997 shows.

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Vivienne Westwood was making some really neat tailored suits for women if you don't want to go for a dress or skirt. If you're going to give your character a suit it helps to remember that the coats typically preserve the shape of the waist and hips and don't fall straight down like the men's do. You also have the option for a wider pants leg, which you typically don't for men. Lest you want him to get called a faggot.
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And if you're looking for something sleek, simple, and clean then Versace has some minimalist gowns and mini skirts for you.
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Versace has more eye-catching collections too, they relied more on detailed prints and accessories, though. He was very flamboyant.
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Exceptions, of course:
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The 90s was really the best time for iconic designs and that's why you see so many celebs just re-wearing famous pieces from this era at their awards shows.
 
I'd also recommend Jean paul Gaultier. He's kind of a fag and all, but he designed very cool looking clothing. I think it was him who did the outfits for The Fifth Element as well as a bunch of Almodovar films.
 
Ive not told anybody irl about the tranny murder poopoo peepee site. Ive told a few people I used 4chan and that invited some disgust cause I told them what a goatse was and what meatspin was. I dont think theyd be okay with finding out Im on KF, a few people would probably and find it middling cause its a juvenile thing to say nigger on the internet but definitely nobody else. Most of my friends from school are the only friends I have and theyre all becoming increasingly adult ie absorbed into social justice, tech, social media all that. Ive earned my scoffs for saying rainbow gestapo in front of them when we left university, I guess KF will be my lil secret for a very long time.
It really depends on the political orientation if they are conservative and bit edgy they will no care and shake head at your " womanly" hobby gossiping about retards on the internet. Left wing you are taking that secret to the grave because you are going to be excommunicated for even looking at the number 1 tranny murder site or something.

I feel for ya not having anybody right of mao and Stalin to shipost with.
 
It really depends on the political orientation if they are conservative and bit edgy they will no care and shake head at your " womanly" hobby gossiping about retards on the internet. Left wing you are taking that secret to the grave because you are going to be excommunicated for even looking at the number 1 tranny murder site or something.

I feel for ya not having anybody right of mao and Stalin to shipost with.
They're not that extreme at least the guys. Girls from my school are definitely somewhere around Mao but guys are just standard socdem types at best. It's just that they're not exposed to internet weirdos and not as receptive to it as I am.
 
How much of a red flag was it when I never made my ex orgasm?
Not because I couldn't. But because when we got close, she'd literally push me away, push herself away, squirm, yell, etc. Basically do whatever to stop it from happening.
I did try to discuss it with her, and all I got was some variant of "we can do that later".
I've asked 3 lady friends now, and all 3 seem to lean heavily into "she's probably got serious sexual trauma". She was a real-deal sorority girl, and has told me some wild stories, including being drugged with Xanax or something. But no actual rape or sexual assault. She's almost 29 now, so that would have been 7-8 years ago, at least.
I'm not one to just assume terrible things or "that bitch is crazy"/she needs therapy/etc. But it is true that this last relationship was a doozy. It's about 2 and a half weeks after we broke up and I'm still unpacking shit.
So what do lady kiwis thinks about all that mess?
 
It's about 2 and a half weeks after we broke up and I'm still unpacking shit.
How long were you with her?
It's my flaw of pride and insecurity talking but if can't make my gf cum after 3 tries. I will end up breaking up with out of shame.
 
How much of a red flag was it when I never made my ex orgasm?
Not because I couldn't. But because when we got close, she'd literally push me away, push herself away, squirm, yell, etc. Basically do whatever to stop it from happening.
I did try to discuss it with her, and all I got was some variant of "we can do that later".
I've asked 3 lady friends now, and all 3 seem to lean heavily into "she's probably got serious sexual trauma". She was a real-deal sorority girl, and has told me some wild stories, including being drugged with Xanax or something. But no actual rape or sexual assault. She's almost 29 now, so that would have been 7-8 years ago, at least.
I'm not one to just assume terrible things or "that bitch is crazy"/she needs therapy/etc. But it is true that this last relationship was a doozy. It's about 2 and a half weeks after we broke up and I'm still unpacking shit.
So what do lady kiwis thinks about all that mess?
I'm a dude, but I seem to attract girls with trauma. Sexual trauma is a really difficult thing for a lot of women to talk about. You really have to approach the issue delicately, or would have if you were still in that relationship.
 
How long were you with her?
It's my flaw of pride and insecurity talking but if can't make my gf cum after 3 tries. I will end up breaking up with out of shame.
4 months. Not a lot of time at all, but a lot happened. A lot more than in my 5 year relationship in my early 20's for example.
We agreed to a trip to Norway on our 2nd date cause she found cheap tickets on a travel scanner site. We're in the US midwest for reference.
She (very drunkenly) told me she thought she loved me after 1 month of dating, on NYE.
That first month was wild, and she did treat me damn well. I guess I was pretty blinded. A few more months of that and I would have been thinking real deal about marriage.

I'm a dude, but I seem to attract girls with trauma. Sexual trauma is a really difficult thing for a lot of women to talk about. You really have to approach the issue delicately, or would have if you were still in that relationship.
Dude, fucking same. This is what is currently getting my goat. My last two gf's have both had this "anxious attachment" style. Its fucking hell now that I have become aware of it. Once that hamster wheel in the head gets spinning, it doesn't calm down. Nothing good you do is ever acknowledged, but if you even hint at saying the wrong thing, its the end of the world.
I wish that she could have opened up to me more. I wish that I could have helped. :( Maybe we could have made things work. But she never would. She would shut down and tell me she was scheduled to work when I'd ask if she was free to come out on a date or to hang out. Not too much you can do if the other party won't talk.

Honestly wondering if there is something about me that is manifesting this shit into my life.
 
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