Are you lost needing femoid advice post here - For the poor bastard's who dare or are just curious

[Big Miss Steak]

I wanted to ask, how do women cope with loneliness and imposter syndrome? I know it's more prevalent than how it's depicted and I know how the media stereotype is just girlboss and retreat to narcissism, "I'm too good and the world is wrong" all that. I just wanted a more honest answer than journo nonsense.

In my observation, a lot of women try to remedy loneliness by having a bf/husband/kids. Might work if you're lucky. I have struggled with loneliness most of my life despite my effort to make decent friends and although I haven't given up on making friends, I have come to accept that this is probably the thorn in my side that the Lord has ordained for me to bear.

I get imposter syndrome sometimes. I try to analyze why I feel like an imposter, and usually I can deduce that it is for a stupid reason and move past it.

I feel you. I like to know exactly what is going on and why

You're handier than I, but you have inspired me.

Joining various craft, dnd and social groups. Imposter syndrome just try your best and keep on trucking. Usually i just try my best and say its good enough. Remember there will be always people better at it but also worse at it. If you aren't the worst person in the room in terms of performance you are doing good.

How do you find DnD groups that aren't full of socially inept and brainrotted men that will hound you? I love TTRPGs but none of my irl friends and family have been able to commit to anything regular. I'm afraid to join an online group.

Is it ok to PL?

Women can be very unforgiving of social ineptitude, but if you're well-groomed and nice, it can be overcome. Where and how are you attempting to talk to people more?

Is it common for women to use perfume on their vaginas prior to sex?

Are you dating a black woman?

 

[Big Miss Steak]

Specialization exists, yes.



"Be instrumental to be treated a little less shitty" Being instrumental to someone does not mean they start to see you as a person. It means they see you as an instrument.

This comes across like "the office Milton will be less abused if the office Milton is more useful" which we know is a lie.

Sorry for the double post.

To recap. You want to find out how to have disagreements/arguments/difficult discussions with women without them immediately resorting to insults. You want to find out how to make women see you as a person and not an object.

As other posters have said, you cannot make someone see you as a person. Either they do or they don't. Cut contact with family or friends who don't treat you like a person. Break up with a girlfriend who doesn't see you as a person. You should not give a shit if your coworker sees you as a real human bean as long as they are polite and civil. Move on from this.

People have given you advice already on how to approach a disagreement with family/friends. You should not even be getting into arguments with coworkers to start with.

 

[Pendulous Dong]

Are you dating a black woman?

She called herself Aryan but she's very clearly Latina.

 

[umami's milk]

She called herself Aryan but she's very clearly Latina.

MANY SUCH CASES.

 

[Shidoen]

She called herself Aryan but she's very clearly Latina.

This is just like a comedy sketch

 

[Andoxico]

She called herself Aryan but she's very clearly Latina.

Well, is she Argentinian?

 

[NoReturn]

She called herself Aryan but she's very clearly Latina.

Never ask a racist the color of his girlfriend.

 

[isalaide]

She called herself Aryan but she's very clearly Latina.

There is your answer. It wasn't perfume. Your dick burns because she cleansed herself with Fabuloso.

 

[Big Miss Steak]

She called herself Aryan but she's very clearly Latina.

Blacks and latinas have some weird habits around vaginal hygiene. It is very possible she sprayed something up there or douched. It's also possible you're having an allergic reaction to a lotion/oil/cream deodorant that she had on her thighs or around the bikini area. Just politely bring it up to her and say you had allergic reaction to some product she uses down there.

 

[doodoocaca]

Sorry for the double post.

To recap. You want to find out how to have disagreements/arguments/difficult discussions with women without them immediately resorting to insults. You want to find out how to make women see you as a person and not an object.

As other posters have said, you cannot make someone see you as a person. Either they do or they don't. Cut contact with family or friends who don't treat you like a person. Break up with a girlfriend who doesn't see you as a person. You should not give a shit if your coworker sees you as a real human bean as long as they are polite and civil. Move on from this.

People have given you advice already on how to approach a disagreement with family/friends. You should not even be getting into arguments with coworkers to start with.

I'm interested in the general case. I personally have no problem whatsoever burning bridges to a fine powder.

If you're saying "don't bother trying to change people who are abusive" that undermines a lot of praxis trying to change how people treat each other and makes such political requests to change behavior to be useless.

I'm anything if open minded. If segregation works best, hey, why not?

 

[Shidoen]

Never ask a racist the color of his girlfriend.

 

[pork and beans]

One of my gf used coconut oil as a lubricant and moisturizer.

I associate the smell of it to her now.

Ok the smell association part is kind of bittersweet but if she used it DOWN there that’s horrifying, did nothing bad happen? I’d be scared. If she used it on her skin or her hair that’s all good, though

Women can be very unforgiving of social ineptitude, but if you're well-groomed and nice, it can be overcome

yeah I don’t know how to explain but unironically LOTS of women do like geeky, awkward guys, not must the good looking ones.

I know some people won’t believe that, but clearly you’ve never had friends show you a picture of the guy that is “SO TOTALLY DREAMY“ only to show you what is a guy that looks like he’d get used to convince guys in incel forums as blackpilling material.

but sometimes guys will be socially inept in a way we absolutely hate. Like. If he isnt not self aware but he’s also visibly insecure.

Being well groomed and having a good attitude does help wonders, for sure.

 

[Big Miss Steak]

I'm interested in the general case. I personally have no problem whatsoever burning bridges to a fine powder.

If you're saying "don't bother trying to change people who are abusive" that undermines a lot of praxis trying to change how people treat each other and makes such political requests to change behavior to be useless.

I'm anything if open minded. If segregation works best, hey, why not?

Individuals can't really change other individuals unless the person needing to be changed actually wants to be changed. You seem to be pointing to political policies about the treatment of others as an example, but I don't follow your line of thinking. Laws that make it illegal for companies to pay someone less because they're black or gay is completely unrelated to managing your interpersonal relationships with abusive people.

Yeah I don’t know how to explain but unironically LOTS of women do like geeky, awkward guys, not must the good looking ones.

I know some people won’t believe that, but clearly you’ve never had friends show you a picture of the guy that is “SO TOTALLY DREAMY“ only to show you what is a guy that looks like he’d get used to convince guys in incel forums as blackpilling material.

but sometimes guys will be socially inept in a way we absolutely hate. Like. If he isnt not self aware but he’s also visibly insecure.

Being well groomed and having a good attitude does help wonders, for sure.

I don't think being nerdy or a little awkward means you're socially inept. Social ineptitude is stuff like standing too close to people, poor eating manners in public places, laughing at the wrong time in conversations, steering conversations back to your autistic interests repeatedly, constantly interruption or talking over people, picking your nose or skin in public, etc.

 

[doodoocaca]

Individuals can't really change other individuals unless the person needing to be changed actually wants to be changed. You seem to be pointing to political policies about the treatment of others as an example, but I don't follow your line of thinking. Laws that make it illegal for companies to pay someone less because they're black or gay is completely unrelated to managing your interpersonal relationships with abusive people.

I thought the point was not just to say "sufficiently large companies in situations where it can be litigated, cannot shit on minorities anymore" but rather to change society and the views of the people that make it up.

If you're saying "that would be great but it ain't happening like you or I would like it; people are really stubborn" I would almost entirely agree. I would then point out views have changed. Maybe over a longer scale, maybe by young people with different views aging up in adulthood, maybe a lot of things I can't articulate, but there is change.

Obviously, on an individual basis, the best solution to the shithead problem is to remove the shithead or yourself from the situation. I cannot argue with that. I have cut more fat out of my life than a plastic surgeon and it is one of the best things I have ever done. I agree. You are correct.

I'm asking how to push groups to change expectations and challenge people. It's Friday, my brain's phoning it in, I hope I make sense.

 

[suspended animation]

This is why I don't really respect women who are not mothers in terms of their capability.

I don't respect men with dumbass takes like "women are incompetent unless they've given birth"

Once you realize it is all up to you and people or in this case a child will live or die because of you, you gain an extremely large and important chunk of wisdom.

Simply having a child does not imbue a woman with wisdom; have you actually read any of the lolcow threads here??

For example, Kelly Lenza: in whose case we know she knows her kid could die from untreated diabetes, but that doesn't stop her from feeding her child a shit diet because Kelly's own ego is at stake if she admits certain foods can be "bad".

Alex Dacy knows her child is vulnerable because Alex herself is extremely disabled and can't afford around-the-clock care and would be unable to do a damn thing to help her own toddler if something should happen. Her child has already choked once on confetti since Alex insisted that the caretaker she hired off Craigslist focus on taking photos instead of watch the baby. Alex didn't learn from this; she instead hired another 20 year old inexperienced caretaker off of Craigslist. Where's the wisdom in that?

And I'm not even going to get into any of the deranged women who forego safe birthing practices/prenatal care despite them already having had a retarded or medically compromised baby, but you can read about many of them in the Beauty Parlor.

I have a lot of respect for women who decide to have children, and I agree it shows strength and wisdom when they excel at being moms, but it also takes strength and wisdom to recognize when motherhood isn't a good fit for yourself and to abstain from having kids.

I'm pretty fucking sick of moronic men who can't perceive that

 

[California Newt]

I'd like to know if some women can give their thoughts on a few questions and observations:

• Is fujo stuff generally representative of female sexuality, or is that some sort of an aberration? if so, what are the main differences?
• I think that a lot of guys mistakenly assume that women are basically gay men in women's bodies, and get disappointed when that turns out not to be the case. I think that this is caused by the fact that most porn that they consume is drawn and written by other men, who necessarily self-insert into the woman characters. This is probably a big reason why tranny porn (no bottom surgery) is exploding in popularity. Would you agree, and have you ran into this or similar problems? Basically: have you run into the roadblock of men being gay.
• Moving on from the gay porn questions: how does female friendship work? Men, for example, are usually friends based off of compatible talents and sense of purpose towards which they collaborate (whether that be an intellectual, creative, or other pursuit). What do women do together?
• Would you agree that it's true that men are more world-oriented, whereas women are more person-oriented?
• What is it like when you're not in Estrus, when the tides are low or however that works?

 

[Major]

How does one initiate sex without being a weirdo?

 

[Friend of Dorothy Parker]

It sounds like you were doing pullups with your palms facing you and pork and beans is talking about doing them with palms facing away. Palms facing away will be easier when you get used to activating the latissimus dorsal muscles. Using a lat pull-down machine can help you isolate them.

From remote corners of my mind, I think it was both. Either way, I just didn't get it.

And lat pull-downs have always been among my favorite exercises - I have/had a strong back, just inexplicably did not "get" pull-ups. Or chin-ups. Or any fucking thing that involved a bar and staying above it, apparently.

Yeah, palms facing you are chin ups, right? and are more bicep focused exercise. Facing away is pull ups, more lats.

OH.

> 12 yo me trying to fake a flexed-arm hang.

 

[California Newt]

How does one initiate sex without being a weirdo?

What's the scenario? Have you introduced yourself?

Seriously though, if "being a weirdo" is even on the table as a reaction that she could conceivably have, you shouldn't try it. It's not the kind of thing that you do when you don't know where you stand. Do some (I hear a lot from buddies who've gone through it) women act like it's a problem if you won't have sex with them on the second or third date? Yeah, but those are dodged bullets.

If you're asking because of general confidence and room-reading problems, then that's something that you should grind out in the general social skills with women level before you put sex on the table.

No offense to women, and maybe it's different here, but you generally can't really go to them for systematic answers to these kinds of questions. You ask the salesman how to sell, not the customer. They might know how they felt or what worked for them in a particular instance, but they don't have the practical theoretical knowledge or experience to apply that in diverse situations.

This isn't exclusive to women: it's generally something that autistic people have to keep in mind when asking questions to non-autistic people. The world operates according to consistent patterns and rules, but somebody who doesn't have to struggle or engage with those often doesn't see it as doing so; sometimes they even think that that "ruins the magic".

In a way, you can think of all men as being autistic in relation to women. It's something we all have to grind unless we're just natural gigachads to whom women swarm without any effort or understanding on the man's part.

And no, I'm not saying that there's a magic spell or MKultra phrase you can use to brainwash women into sleeping with you (for the low-reading-comprehension individuals in the peanut gallery).

 

[Shidoen]

How does one initiate sex without being a weirdo?

It takes a lot of communication and a strong connection if you want to have meaningful sex. Sincerely in the long run if you just want meaningless sex it’ll just crush your soul and you’ll just feel empty inside after everytime. If you’re trying to woe someone just be yourself and just don’t expect anything even if you want to.

Or

Spoiler: The art of the woe