Coming Out (
self.NonBinary)
submitted 7 months ago by
AlternativeBest2967 to
r/NonBinary
I recently realized I am transfem nonbinary. I am a 39yo AMAB, married for 8 years and have a 4yo daughter. Both my wife's and my upbringings were deeply religious as are our families.
This recent revelation is very new to me and has given me a great sense of clarity and helped my anxiety. It has also given me a great sense of dread. A little history-
Grew up with 5 sisters and was curious from an early age. S
tarted crossdressing in secret at the age of 8 and still do to this day. I told my wife about it a year into our marriage and she was supportive. Said she never would have guessed in a million years. I was a nervous wreck the whole time, until we both laughed at her obliviousness to my feminine side. So here is the problem.
I have always entertained the thought of vaginoplasty throughout my life. I do not want to fully/socially transition but just feminize my body to match my mind and thoughts. However. I am not so sure my wife will understand my true self. She was raised in a very image conscious family. How do I begin this journey when I might lose the people I want to come with me? I can't continue suppressing this part of me. It has given me an anxiety condition that is hard to deal with. My hope is that this journey might bring some inner peace, somehow. Any advice will be greatly appreciated. Thanks-


