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I think my girlfriend is taking things too fast. She keeps talking about settling down and having babies even though we've only been together a few weeks. It's like every conversation finds its way there and it's more than a little weird. Is there a way to get her to calm down on the subject without it sounding like I'm telling her to shut up?
This sounds like textbook love bombing. Cut contact, man. It's weird.
for someone who struggles with allergies. Woke up and my face was swollen
Guys I feel so fucked because I dont think this is allergies at all, I think I have perioral dermatitis. Its only gotten worse.
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How comes every time I get my period, some medical complication arises as a result and fucks my whole fucking week up. GOD damn. Every single time. Its bad enough I get PMS.
 
Guys I feel so fucked because I dont think this is allergies at all, I think I have perioral dermatitis. Its only gotten worse.
If it is perioral dermatitis then you should certainly stay away from products with corticosteroids; Hydrocortisone and Clobetasone are the milder ones that can be sold over the counter. Since it flares up during your period you should probably try to see a gyno and later a dermatologist if you can to determine what's causing your hormones to be so out of balance.
 
What would be the best product to buy? In terms of Ret, HLA, and exfoliation.
I know this is the femoid advice thread and i'm a moid but i am into skin care like the european faggot that i am: As @Susanna said, everyones skin is different, you need to try out different products to get an idea what works for you and what doesn't. Some products work good for a time but then your skin decides no it's too much after a couple of months and it fucks your skin up. For example, Paula's Choice 2% BHA liquid exfoliant (which is magic in a bottle, pricy though) worked like a charm for me for around three months with twice-a-week usage but after that it started to give me brutal breakouts and i had to stop using it entirely.

My very basic routine is ultra-sensitive facial wash -> toner -> serum -> ultra-sensitive moisturiser in the mornings and just the facial wash and moisturiser in the evenings. I use the ultra-sensitive stuff because it doesn't contain alcohol, which dries out your skin, and any artificial perfumes, the less shit you read on the ingredients list, the better. I use store-brand that i know doesn't exist outside of my country for everything but the serum, which is Garnier AHA + BHA 4% + Niaciamide, it's around $10 for a bottle and lasts me around three months. The toner contains Niaciamide and Glycerin. I never tried anything with Retinol in it because i am pretty sure it is way too aggresive for my skin, YMMV. I am also not using anything with SPF in it, i got a grizzled junky face and no amount of SPF could reverse the existing damage, maybe that is an error on my part.

Other advice i can give is to not use anything face peeling with abrasive agents in it, it causes micro scarring and also stresses out your skin uneccessarily. Don't fall for the male-branded products, they mostly contain what the female-branded products or generics contain but usually at a price mark up. Also, beard oil is for faggots.

Edit: Whoops, i assumed you are male, reading your previous posts i am not too sure if that is actually the case, no offense.
 
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I think my girlfriend is taking things too fast. She keeps talking about settling down and having babies even though we've only been together a few weeks. It's like every conversation finds its way there and it's more than a little weird. Is there a way to get her to calm down on the subject without it sounding like I'm telling her to shut up?
If she can’t handle being told “Hey, this is a fresh relationship so I’d like to date for a while longer before we discuss children and marriage“ then dump her. People who dive to quickly into relationships very rarely have success in them. Best of luck to you.
 
I think my girlfriend is taking things too fast. She keeps talking about settling down and having babies even though we've only been together a few weeks. It's like every conversation finds its way there and it's more than a little weird. Is there a way to get her to calm down on the subject without it sounding like I'm telling her to shut up?
I hope you on top of your birth control game my dude. She sounds like she has baby rabies. Unless you misunderstood and she is trying to make sure you are on same page about family and kids .
 
I hope you on top of your birth control game my dude. She sounds like she has baby rabies. Unless you misunderstood and she is trying to make sure you are on same page about family and kids .
Yeah, I'd be interested to know the age ranges here, since I'm potentially going to be a little more understanding if she is 30+. Not condoning insane behaviour, but at the least, I would give the benefit of the doubt to her if she's just trying to weed out a guy who's not interested in marriage and children any time soon.

Stay in control of your own BC, seriously, don't rely on her. But also, don't string this woman along if you are in your 30s and not really interested in children in the future.

If you're in your 20s, just be honest. Something along the lines of "I'm a bit put out about how much you seem to be pushing for this so early in the relationship, *insert what you want re kids/marriage here*." Her response to this is key and will tell you if she is crazy and you need to run.
 
I keep getting cold feet about dating apps. Seems that's the easiest way to find anyone these days. Dating apps kill any confidence I have, and the amount of scam accounts gets on my nerves.
I don't really go out either, nor do I desire to. If I had a friend sure but I don't know anyone around here outside of work. Should I just swallow my pride and do it? Or continue to wait patiently™. Approaching my thirties and I get this sense of dread and I'm not sure why. Seeing friends having families doesn't help.
 
How comes every time I get my period, some medical complication arises as a result and fucks my whole fucking week up. GOD damn. Every single time. Its bad enough I get PMS.
Menstrual cycles fuck with everything including our immune systems. It sucks. Sorry you're having a hard time.
 
I keep getting cold feet about dating apps. Seems that's the easiest way to find anyone these days. Dating apps kill any confidence I have, and the amount of scam accounts gets on my nerves.
I don't really go out either, nor do I desire to. If I had a friend sure but I don't know anyone around here outside of work. Should I just swallow my pride and do it? Or continue to wait patiently™. Approaching my thirties and I get this sense of dread and I'm not sure why. Seeing friends having families doesn't help.
Dating apps are pretty crappy, you’re absolutely right about that. Unfortunately, you may just need to take a leap of faith and start pushing yourself to go out more. Approaching your thirties means there’s less areas for you to congregate- gone are the days of high school and college. I completely understand being a homebody as I am one myself. Your options here are trying to stick with the dating apps or looking for communities where you can meet regularly. Waiting around doesn’t always work out, your next course of action will be determined by how badly you want to get married and have kids. I will say, the most successful relationships I’ve ever seen have come from a place of accident and chance rather than intentional pursuit. Get into something and just see where it goes. Hope isn’t lost.
 
I keep getting cold feet about dating apps. Seems that's the easiest way to find anyone these days. Dating apps kill any confidence I have, and the amount of scam accounts gets on my nerves.
I don't really go out either, nor do I desire to. If I had a friend sure but I don't know anyone around here outside of work. Should I just swallow my pride and do it? Or continue to wait patiently™. Approaching my thirties and I get this sense of dread and I'm not sure why. Seeing friends having families doesn't help.
Woman? Or a man?
 
If she can’t handle being told “Hey, this is a fresh relationship so I’d like to date for a while longer before we discuss children and marriage“ then dump her. People who dive to quickly into relationships very rarely have success in them. Best of luck to you.
I talked to her about it and she agreed to stop. We're still both in our 20s and use protection, but she said that she's been single for so long that she just forgot how relationships work.
 
Unfortunately, you may just need to take a leap of faith and start pushing yourself to go out more. Approaching your thirties means there’s less areas for you to congregate. Your options here are trying to stick with the dating apps or looking for communities where you can meet regularly. Waiting around doesn’t always work out, your next course of action will be determined by how badly you want to get married and have kids. I will say, the most successful relationships I’ve ever seen have come from a place of accident and chance rather than intentional pursuit. Get into something and just see where it goes. Hope isn’t lost.
Yeah I know, just hard to on your own. I plan to go to church again but I am not there to date. Plus, most of the women there my age are married. And my other hobbies usually involve sweaty nerds and genuine autists. Actually stopped going to local gamenights in my town because the dudes there stunk like hell.
Oh and don't get me wrong, I'm not too worried or anything, but it does bug me from time to time. Been a hot minute since I've dated. Doesn't help I'm oblivious to flirting and fear rejection, as embarrassing as that is to admit. Online might be my best bet sadly.
Woman? Or a man?
Me? I'm a dude.
 
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Yeah I know, just hard to on your own. I plan to go to church again but I am not there to date. Plus, most of the women there my age are married. And my other hobbies usually involve sweaty nerds and genuine autists. Actually stopped going to local gamenights in my town because the dudes there stunk like hell.
Oh and don't get me wrong, I'm not too worried or anything, but it does bug me from time to time. Been a hot minute since I've dated. Doesn't help I'm oblivious to flirting and fear rejection, as embarrassing as that is to admit.

Me? I'm a dude.
You are at best age to date up 35 after that you better get your cats .
 
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I keep getting cold feet about dating apps. Seems that's the easiest way to find anyone these days. Dating apps kill any confidence I have, and the amount of scam accounts gets on my nerves.
I don't really go out either, nor do I desire to. If I had a friend sure but I don't know anyone around here outside of work. Should I just swallow my pride and do it? Or continue to wait patiently™. Approaching my thirties and I get this sense of dread and I'm not sure why. Seeing friends having families doesn't help.
Honestly? Apps rarely lead to healthy, long-lasting relationship. It's easier and better to meet somebody via similar interests. I've met my husband on a FB Star Wars group - turned out we had been friends on a Hellsing forum site 13 years earlier.
My advice is dont approach a woman with romantic/sexual intentions straight away. If you want a relationship to last, you need solid foundations - after first fascination fizzles out, everyday life kicks in - your wife should be your friend, best one even maybe. Sharing the same interestes, views and goals (to some extend at least) is crucial for a relationship to work. Spending time with her in different settings also allows you to check how she acts and treats different people, is there something very undesirable in her behaviour etc.

Sometimes it's just luck. My friend was in a shitty life moment - failing uni, no good job perspective, single. He went on a Eurotrip and ended in Tuscany where he lived in a tent eating nuts for days. His buddy got a job on a farm, but was unable to go and asked him to take his place. Now my friend is marrying the farmer's daughter and moved back to Poland.
 
My advice is dont approach a woman with romantic/sexual intentions straight away. If you want a relationship to last, you need solid foundations - after first fascination fizzles out, everyday life kicks in - your wife should be your friend, best one even maybe. Sometimes it's just luck. My friend was in a shitty life moment - failing uni, no good job perspective, single. He went on a Eurotrip and ended in Tuscany where he lived in a tent eating nuts for days. His buddy got a job on a farm, but was unable to go and asked him to take his place. Now my friend is marrying the farmer's daughter and moved back to Poland.
Oh yeah I never really do this except if I was drunk, which went as well as you would expect lmao.

Your story reminds me of a couple I use to hang out with who met each other playing WoW back in the day. They were best friends for awhile, and he had zero clue she was a women. Was blown away when he found out by accident, think it was something she said. She asked him out shortly after and they got married last I checked.
 
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To the above poster, most people don't know OF is a pyramid scheme and you earn a percentage of the profits from the women who joined after you, referred by you. Most of the money being made is from that, not people actually buying the porn. It's like all MLMs.
But the profits have to come from somewhere right? A percentage of £0.00 is £0.00.

I've met my husband on a FB Star Wars group - turned out we had been friends on a Hellsing forum site 13 years earlier.
I don't think shit like that can happen anymore, not in this day and age. Old internet and old geek culture died in the very early 10s.
 
But the profits have to come from somewhere right? A percentage of £0.00 is £0.00.
Yes obviously, but the average OF earnings is $180 per month- if you factor in that 20% goes to OF and something like (from googling) 5% would go to the referrer, they're earning basically nothing, and most of it is going to the house or upstream. OF saying that it is making bank doesn't mean that the creators are making money, only those at the top or who already have an outside platform to exploit will be.
 
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