Am I the asshole for filing for divorce because my husband over tightens all the jar lids?
I mean, I can see the logic here, I really can. Your husband does something that frustrates and inconveniences you in a way that can't be unintentional, and you ask him to stop multiple times but he doesn't. Even after it wears you down to the point of having a breakdown he still does it, and the fact he still goes out of his way to intentionally disrespect you like that even after seeing just how much it affects you is what brings you to the point of no longer wanting to be with him.
The thing is, this story is just so obviously fake. For starters, this whole genre is almost always fake for one simple reason: people going through terrible life events (for example, divorce) don't type up their story on a public website focused on competing for reader attention where people's only response will be to gawk at it like a juicy bit of gossip. On the offchance someone
was serious about getting help from reddit on this, it would probably be some sort of relationship support sub. Nobody actually going through something as turbulent in their lives as a divorce would intentionally give their story some out-of-context attention-grabbing clickbait headline to make readers think they were crazy (making it look like it's a kneejerk reaction over something trivial), on the same post where they're trying to convince everyone why their decision was rational. Nobody takes the piss out of themselves like that while
going through such a bad time in their lives, maybe
after in hindsight they'll joke about it at their own expense, but rarely
during while their feelings are intense. This is not genuine behavior, it's only goal is maximizing engagement. For that matter, they post on a sub about asking if they're in the right, but they're already very clearly certain about their decision and that it's final, they turned down all their husband's attempts to mediate. If they truly wanted anyone's opinion, to know if they're really in the right or just crazy, they would've gotten it at an earlier stage when things were more murky, not now after they've already 100% made up their decision and mind. Again, the only motivation for this is to make a post with lots of engagement to get their account more karma, not genuine behavior.
The real red flag is the way it's written; it's too formulaic. Redditor complains about some "little" thing their spouse does until it keeps ramping up to the point there's clearly something more to it, eventually they have some revelation about it and have a breakdown and make sure to describe in detail their breakdown so you feel bad for them. The neighbor is what really gets me, feels like a Hallmark movie guy. He shows up, nice guy who was always sort of in her life but kind of in the background, helps her out when she's down and is the one to open up her eyes to what she should've been seeing the whole time, he helps her but even apologizes for not helping her
enough while doing so, even bakes her a treat. He sticks out too much.
There is a 50% chance this story will have an update. If that's the case, there's a
100% chance that it won't be the only one, and that this will be a whole "saga". Here's exactly how it's going to play out: As she drifts away from her soon-to-be-ex husband, she's going to start telling us about more red flags she's been blind to in the past that she's finally starting to see now (to make her position seem more reasonable to readers)... the reason? Because she's started dating mr. perfect neighbor, and now that she knows what a
real relationship looks like she can see all the flaws in her last one. She'll elaborate on at least one of ex-husband's behavior's that's really a story unto itself, to make sure the update is entertaining enough to be engaging. Then, in the next update, her ex-husband will discover her and neighbor together and fly into a rage. He'll probably explain what was going on with the whole jar thing in the heat of the moment (to bring the story back around to the starting issue for the climax, full circle), which will be something like "I did it because I wanted there to be something you'd need me for, I was scared of losing you!" which he'd intend to be like a whole romantic "I need you!" thing, but everyone else would see it for the manipulative, controlling behavior it really is, especially with how manic he is in the moment. He might even incidentally reveal something even worse and creepier that he was doing without realizing how it comes across, if OP wants the story to have more spice. This will lead into his downfall: either he has a total breakdown after our main character still rejects him (and she has a "oh how the tables have turned/now you know how it feels" moment), he gets too crazy and the cops are called and he's arrested, OR he gets so belligerent he tries to take a swing at the neighbor for "stealing her/turning her against me" but the neighbor clocks him to the floor in one punch because he's kind, cute,
and a total beefcake that can protect her. Either way, our climax brings us right into the "they lived happily ever after" ending, because he's out of their lives for good.
"My energy for anti-Jew hate is limitless, trust me."
Same! You probably mean that in a different way than I do, though
