I can't stress enough how this reading this post was both cathartic and frustrating, because I know exactly what you're talking about due to experiencing something similar. Your friend truly sounds like somebody that loves throwing pity parties for themselves, so he can get other people to feel sorry for them but also under the same breath say "I'm too good for this!" when others would tell him to get a job somewhere at Walmart or McDonalds just temporarily, so he can have some sort of income while searching for a more better/stable job.
I can't stress enough how much I despise it when men put this self-pitying/I'm poor little worm façade only for it to fall off very quickly when the "I'm too good for this" mentality kicks in any time somebody suggest them to turn their life around by doing something they consider to below them. While this behavior and mentality isn't exclusive to just men, it's infecting a lot of them.
He wasn't dealt a bad hand. A bad hand is one that goes numb a lot lol, being born in a first world country with enormous wages for tradies is not a "bad hand"
Every time I hear some American man online talk about how they do not have any "job opportunities" because "America is gynocentric and favors women more in work force" (lol bullshit) or the "I am unlucky/got dealt a bad hand" excuse, it makes me want to pull them by their shirts and shake these men with this mentality I mentioned above, very violently.
Buddy, you have it so good! You don't have to leave your own country and family to go to a foreign country just so you're able use your college degree and skills to work a job that not available in your homeland or purposefully barred by idiotic selfish boomers! You can work job positions that are still unavailable in some countries to this day! You have access to so many workshops, courses and trading schools in your area that can give you a certificate for a job which you start working asap, something that other countries don't have, at least not in a proper way like Americans do.
They're so lucky to be blessed with opportunities, but instead of using them and let those opportunities help be carve a path for life, they bitch about the Demiurge, (((da jooz))) or whatever flavor of the week scapegoat is for keeping them down.
What always gets me are the dudes who will defend grown men wanting to screw 13 year old girls because muh evolutionary biology and peak fertility, but then they'll chimp out about how all trans people are inherently groomers. (Might be an unpopular opinion on this site)
"Hrr drr men had sex with underage girls in ancient history and they didn't seen it as harmful!"
Well, people did lots of other things in ancient history too. They loved to bash each others with rocks and threw anybody they thought was weird into gladiator pits to feed Caesar's
shitbull, I mean lion called Princess without a thought. Should we then return the tradition of bashing each other with rocks and throwing weirdos into the gladiator pits to get mauled by a lion, with you being the first example to be made of? I mean they did it in the ancient past, so there shouldn't be an issue doing it now, at least according to your logic.