Trainwreck Alex Dacy / Alex Dzimtowicz / Wheelchair Rapunzel - 50% wholesome disability influencer, 50% that cash me outside girl

[everybody in Portugal]

She literally should never post any pictures of Ari’s carseat or sleeping setup unless she’s mining for outrage engagement because that's a small child who deserves privacy and autonomy in terms of what's posted about her online and also because Alex has repeatedly promised to stop mining her small child for monetised content

FTFY

 

[TheCakeIsALie]

Was it th

The study that asserted that rear-facing was safer than front-facing was retracted in the last 10 years, if I recall correctly. I don’t know if there were any others published since then.

Honestly women on the internet can get extremely autistic and moralistic about carseat bullshit. Most of us mothers simply weigh the information available and do what is best and safest for our children without any comment.

The problem here is that Alex is an Internet Villain. She literally should never post any pictures of Ari’s carseat or sleeping setup unless she’s mining for outrage engagement because she can’t win no matter what in those two areas in particular.

Was It this one? It’s from 2011.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3256844/

There is a recent study here:

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1460408618755811

The AAP did revise their guidelines in 2018.

The black hole is with the effects of rear facing in a rear end crash. There’s data about front and side impacts, not so much for rear end accidents

 

[Barbarella]

At some point, you have to turn bigger kids forward facing because their feet and legs are pressed up against the back seat, even if they aren’t the required age. That can’t be safe either.

I agree with those that say Alex will never do anything right with some of these women. That car seat strap looks too high for sure, and Ari is too loses in it (where’s the insert), but she’s a big baby. And Alex herself did not install that car seat, won’t be putting Ari in it or driving her places.

She’s decided she’s going to show Ari-it’s her only content aside selfies. If so, she need to learn to blur backgrounds and use closely cropped shots.

 

[TheCakeIsALie]

At some point, you have to turn bigger kids forward facing because their feet and legs are pressed up against the back seat, even if they aren’t the required age. That can’t be safe either.

I agree with those that say Alex will never do anything right with some of these women. That car seat strap looks too high for sure, and Ari is too loses in it (where’s the insert), but she’s a big baby. And Alex herself did not install that car seat, won’t be putting Ari in it or driving her places.

She’s decided she’s going to show Ari-it’s her only content aside selfies. If so, she need to learn to blur backgrounds and use closely cropped shots.

I don’t know any two year olds (the minimum age to forward face) that are 3’7”to 4 feet tall (recommended height to start foward facing). Because that is the height when you can forward face. There’s also weight guidelines as well.

You’re supposed to rear face as long as possible, until the kid reaches 3’7 to 4” and weigh 40 to 50 lbs.

 

[Barbarella]

I don’t know any two year olds (the minimum age to forward face) that are 3’7”to 4 feet tall (recommended height to start foward facing). Because that is the height when you can forward face. There’s also weight guidelines as well.

You’re supposed to rear face as long as possible, until the kid reaches 3’7 to 4” and weigh 40 to 50 lbs.

My kids faced rear until 60 lbs but I remember one of my friends had a very tall daughter (Dad was 6’7”) and if I put her in my rear seat her feet would be pressed into the back of my car and her legs angled. It looked uncomfortable for the poor kid and not safe. Her parents had turned her seat around by then. Of course, I don’t know what she weighed, just that she was all legs.

That experience made me realize safety is not always cookie cutter.

But that isn’t Alex’s problem, her daughter seems normal size and weight. I just think Noah didn’t install it right or they just feel they have to watch her. Not sure why the straps are so far above her head.

 

[TheCakeIsALie]

My kids faced rear until 60 lbs but I remember one of my friends had a very tall daughter (Dad was 6’7”) and if I put her in my rear seat her feet would be pressed into the back of my car and her legs angled. It looked uncomfortable for the poor kid and not safe. Her parents had turned her seat around by then. Of course, I don’t know what she weighed, just that she was all legs.

That experience made me realize safety is not always cookie cutter.

But that isn’t Alex’s problem, her daughter seems normal size and weight. I just think Noah didn’t install it right or they just feel they have to watch her. Not sure why the straps are so far above her head.

To be fair, most kids don’t have 6’7” parents, haha.

It’s very possible he didn’t install it right or simply doesn’t know how to do it properly, which is honestly dangerous. Car seats are only safe under proper restraint

 

[TismFarmer]

My kids faced rear until 60 lbs but I remember one of my friends had a very tall daughter (Dad was 6’7”) and if I put her in my rear seat her feet would be pressed into the back of my car and her legs angled. It looked uncomfortable for the poor kid and not safe. Her parents had turned her seat around by then. Of course, I don’t know what she weighed, just that she was all legs.

That experience made me realize safety is not always cookie cutter.

But that isn’t Alex’s problem, her daughter seems normal size and weight. I just think Noah didn’t install it right or they just feel they have to watch her. Not sure why the straps are so far above her head.

We have a friend who is 217cm tall! His kids were all legs too. They had kinda the same problem and the advice given to them in Russia was: if you have an accident would you rather your child broke both legs, or their spine? Kid stayed rear-facing!

 

[Gerbgerb]

I'm Australian so our carseat laws are lot more relaxed than the USA- but when I saw that photo my first thought was that she was fucking *swimming* in that seat. So much room to bounce around like a pinball!

TBH while Alex should be the one to advocate for her daughters safety (which is ironic as fuck considering she plasters her all over the internet for her "internet Aunties") I wanna know who's car that was and who was driving. If there's any issue with car seat safety, the drivers choice is paramount. Who decided to put Ari in that carseat like that, and decided it was fine to drive like that? Noah? Jackie? The Smith's? Pilot girl? Alex can't do anything but sit back and slurr orders, but the driver can choose not to follow them in the interest of safety. That's why if you get pulled over with a passenger not wearing their seatbelt correctly, the *driver* gets fined.

 

[GainsGoblin]

My guess is this was an Uber with a car seat in it.

 

[bliblblblbbllb]

But should Alex be front-facing or rear-facing in HER car seat? Start asking the real questions.

 

[Mauve Olive]

Car seat mums are absolutely bashit insane. The Facebook groups dedicated to car seat safety are awful. Even if they are correct in their info, they are psychopaths. I'd never post a picture of a kid in a car seat publicly if I had a large online following.

 

[often puzzled]

I agree that Alex should never share photos like the car seat photo with the world at large, because it's just going to get ugly. She misinterpreted the car seat information she shared, though, and once again maintained that she knows these things because she's a mom, as if birthing a baby = being a good mother with up-to-date knowledge of car seats. General guidance now is not to put any child in a forward-facing seat before two years of age (it's illegal to have a child Ari's age in a forward-facing seat in some states; not sure about Florida), and the advice is also to keep children rear-facing as long as possible. It really gets under my skin that Alex is more interested in being right and in owning the haters than she is in making sure Ari is safe. If a flood of well-meaning people expressed concern about a child safety practice, most parents would panic and try to figure out if they're doing the best, safest thing for their child-- that would be their first concern, not clapping back at a bunch of anonymous people online.

All that said, whoever actually put Ari in that seat is also responsible. Another one of Alex's problems is that she won't admit that it's not her doing things for Ari, so we never get a peep about who's actually in charge of car seat safety.

I have an Alex backlog. I'd been collecting some stuff, then she posted the car seat saga, and then I just got behind with posting.

Sure, Alex:

Spoiler: random stuff from IG stories

One topless selfie of many.



You wouldn't know what it is to clean up after a baby.



No safety latches on the cupboards.

She got her nose repierced. Trigger warning for trypophobia because, holy shit, Alex's pores.

Spoiler: nose piercing

She also got a self-described "basic bitch tattoo."

Spoiler: nose piercing grid post

Cool story, Miss Betty P. Now go take your meds.

Spoiler: tattoo grid post

Ari tried to escape Alex.

Spoiler: crawl away

She's not happy to be on Alex and is trying to get to whoever's holding the camera (I assume Noah).

More to come, but I've also been slacking on Fat Alex's thread and need to go catch up over there.

 

[a hapless toad]

People with a piggy nose like Alex should really avoid anything that draws further attention to it...

Also JFC you weren't kidding about that trypophobia warning, @often puzzled. She's got literal craters on her snout.

 

[everybody in Portugal]

Those nose piercings are set too far back in her nostril, like 1mm further out and they'd look much better, as it is they're triggering me a bit... Did the piercing tech not draw out the dots first and then step back and look and see that they're placed poorly?!
Also, if her nose has the little upturn from using a bipap every night, how is that going to work while they're fresh? Is she just going to be in pain and risk them getting all infected for a few weeks while they heal or something?

Another one of Alex's problems is that she won't admit that it's not her doing things for Ari, so we never get a peep about who's actually in charge of car seat safety.

I agree with this, but also isn't she as mum/supposed primary carer ultimately responsible for what happens to her kid? Like she might not be doing the actual putting her in the seat but herself but if she sees something that looks wrong it's on her to tell whoever is doing the physical bit to redo it safely and appropriately, no?

 

[Terfatron]

Sure, Alex:

Like lol. She's really hellbent on this "prime caregiver" LARP she's doing.

Isn't it time for ari to start kindergarten soon? Imagine that puzzle.
We're getting closer and closer to Alex having to interact w other moms physically.
PTA meetings, progress conversations w teachers and so on.
I don't think the ladies at the kindergarten is gonna let the little crop tops and hard to move in sandals fly.
They will call her out with 30+yrs experience backing them up and she won't be able to croak "muh ableism".

Fantastic ️

 

[Breadbear]

Isn't it time for ari to start kindergarten soon?

Ari's only a year old. Alex will probably be dead by then. And if she isn't, she won't be in any shape to accompany Ari to school.

 

[The Judean People's Front]

I agree with this, but also isn't she as mum/supposed primary carer ultimately responsible for what happens to her kid? Like she might not be doing the actual putting her in the seat but herself but if she sees something that looks wrong it's on her to tell whoever is doing the physical bit to redo it safely and appropriately, no?

I keep thinking on this, and how fuuuuuucked up it is that Alex could be like "hey person, I noticed that Ari is not properly in her seat, can you fix it please?" And they could go "eh she's fine" and proceed to do whatever because SHE CANT STOP THEM. As a Mom I just got secondhand anxiety thinking about this. I rarely feel bad for Alex because she makes just the worst choices, but in this one way I have immense sadness for her.

I mean, sure, she can say "nevermind I'll call another Uber" if a driver won't listen, but she cannot physically stop people from doing whatever they want to do, really.

Ugh I made myself sad.

 

[everybody in Portugal]

I keep thinking on this, and how fuuuuuucked up it is that Alex could be like "hey person, I noticed that Ari is not properly in her seat, can you fix it please?" And they could go "eh she's fine" and proceed to do whatever because SHE CANT STOP THEM. As a Mom I just got secondhand anxiety thinking about this. I rarely feel bad for Alex because she makes just the worst choices, but in this one way I have immense sadness for her.

I mean, sure, she can say "nevermind I'll call another Uber" if a driver won't listen, but she cannot physically stop people from doing whatever they want to do, really.

Ugh I made myself sad.

You made me a bit sad, too. Maybe the refusal to ever admit she's wrong springs in part from an unwillingness to confront or show others how vulnerable she truly is, physically at least. Like, you know after the fact she would put whoever it was on blast to her followers, but at the time, there is very little she could actually DO to help herself or her child.

I hope she at least carries a rape alarm with her to blare at anyone that truly poses a threat (although I guess she doesn't or we'd have heard about her drunkenly setting it off at people who mildly displease her/fail to drop to her feet in supplication).

She's one of the few cows that I often wonder 'how different is she in person compared to her SM presence' occasionally. Then I remember all the firsthand accounts we've had of her being a dick to people and drop the thought like it's hot.

 

[TismFarmer]

I keep thinking on this, and how fuuuuuucked up it is that Alex could be like "hey person, I noticed that Ari is not properly in her seat, can you fix it please?" And they could go "eh she's fine" and proceed to do whatever because SHE CANT STOP THEM. As a Mom I just got secondhand anxiety thinking about this. I rarely feel bad for Alex because she makes just the worst choices, but in this one way I have immense sadness for her.

I mean, sure, she can say "nevermind I'll call another Uber" if a driver won't listen, but she cannot physically stop people from doing whatever they want to do, really.

Ugh I made myself sad.

Shes kind of in the same situation as Mums who have a totally useless ex who gets weekends with the kids. You don't know if the child is safe and OK and you worry the whole time they're gone. I'm not sure if it's worse for Alex that she's there but helpless or not. I guess she could screech at people.
Anyway, it's Noahs who has the totally useless ex, not the other way around. If I was him I would be panicking the whole time Alex is in charge.

 

[Terfatron]

Here kids start kindergarten around 1-1.5 (sometimes earlier).
If you have a active kid like she seem to have you kinda want them in kindergarten to get some energy out.
Maybe get some socializing in.

Again, not a burgerfag so other rules might apply but here the schooling in starts in August the year after you're born pretty much.

Like I never seen her taken ari to open preschool or hardly interact with other kids.
Like, no shade in kindergarten preference but from what I've seen of ari I just think she would thrive in that setting.