How do I not hate myself? - Username relevant

[genderfluidnigga69]

I am not transgender, I would never get any kind of surgery or even hormone therapy. There are some days that I feel good and masculine and amazing about my image. Some days I am disgusted and feel ugly and like I am not in the correct body. I know I am beyond screwed up in the head and am mentally ill, and I am in line to see a counselor. I feel absolutely alone in the world and like no one will accept me. I have found no solace in the LGBT community as they are a bunch of degenerate freaks, even though i struggle with not being that at times. I always hear Null talk about how people like me cannot be helped and he talks down to people like me. I feel like I am not welcome anywhere, but I am trying to fight it. I am trying to get help. Can any of you relate? Do any of you think that a retard like me has hope for remission? For lack of a better word.

 

[WE'RE ALL GONNA]

Do you treat yourself like how you treat others? Do you give yourself positive affirmations when you do things that help you (exercise, eat well, socialize) or do you dismiss them as nothing noteworthy? Do your expectations of yourself not fall in line? Are you physically healthy?

 

[Grub]

There's no such thing as being in the wrong body. That's retarded. You are your body. You are what you are, there's no way to change it and even considering there's such a possibility or the concept that there's such a thing as being in the wrong body will make you depressed because it's made up delusional nonsense. You need to stop believing in the idea of wrong bodies and genderfluidity or any of that nonsense because it's literally make believe nonsense.

Those kinds of delusional beliefs will inevitably lead to depression because reality will never, ever reflect your beliefs.

Don't worry about masculinity or femininity or any of that bullshit. Just act like whatever the fuck you want and don't worry about putting arbitrary labels or any of that shit on it. None of it matters at all.

Also, just generally, the opinions of 99.9% of every single person you will ever meet or interact with in life are worthless and you should not base your emotions or life decisions off them.

 

[glue eater]

I always hear Null talk about how people like me cannot be helped and he talks down to people like me. I feel like I am not welcome anywhere, but I am trying to fight it. I am trying to get help.

Null said the opposite, that depression is a state of mind. You can choose to be happy or sad, if you refuse to improve or change your circumstances and just decide that you cannot help yourself, then you'll be a sad sack of shit. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy.

 

[TheRaptorJesus]

Stop being a faggot.

 

[We Are The Witches]

So you feel like "nonbinary"?

Of course you don't feel solace in the LGBT community, as it's plagued with a lot of bad folks, however this doesn't mean that there aren't good transgender people in the world that you can meet; it's all about the individual, there are great people out there. Associate yourself with those who resonate with you; I'll always prefer to have 1 best friend than 20 bad "friends" (at that point they're just acquaintances at best).

As they've mentioned here, you are you, but you may desire to be in another body simply because you might think that your personality & how you want to be perceived as and therefore act upon that align best with that, so, from what you've typed, maybe what you want to be is a femboy.

More seriously though, at the end, gender (what people nowadays refer to as) does not mean anything to me, biologically you are what you are, however in terms of behaviour/ideals/personality you are your own, a unique individual with their own desires, strengths and weaknesses; these are not necessarily monopolized by a particular gender; being "more sentimental" does not make you "more feminine" and so on, you were born as [whatever], but your identity is yourself. Find people who accept you for how you are in terms of personality.

Although I'm getting vibes that you just want to be more stereotypically feminine, so... the femboy thing wasn't even a joke. You want to feel "pretty" which in your mind aligns with what society deems as more feminine.
Well it depends, I'm just speculating based on the OP, which is slightly lacking in info, but if I'm correct, you'd probably feel better with a change of "looks", although I'm not sure how feasible that is for you.

The paragraph above seems to be giving superficial advice, but sadly that's what your mind may crave; I've seen trans folks expressing happiness once they got to try "cute dresses" alongside their perception that they pass as women (even if a little bit), so that isn't ridiculous (like it's not a dude with a full beard in a skirt, but someone at least trying in a skirt).

Take this advice as you will, it's all I can say with the info on here.

 

[genderfluidnigga69]

Quitting porn entirely has done wonders for me and I recommend it to anyone who has lost themselves to that habit. Keeping a running tally of days without porn was the method that worked for me.

On another note, you can find redemption and healing in the arms of Christ. The parable of the prodigal son is one none of us should forget.

what a wonderful username

I thought this was going to be a bait thread and I was going to give an appropriate answer but so I'll try to give a half way sensible answer here goes.

Jesus loves you and he always will no mater what, You are Gods precious creation after all his final master piece that God using his own hands molded in his image and there is nothing you could ever do that God would find disappointing because God already knows everything there is and ever will be to know about you and will accept you despite all of your flaws.

All those who brought God into this, I am very suprised. I know there is a God, and He loves me, its just some days I can loose sight of him behind the porn, consumerism, and flashing lights that blind me to Him a lot. I did not think that the "worst site on the internet" would remind me that He is not a God of confusion.

 

[Chadikus Maximus]

what a wonderful username

All those who brought God into this, I am very suprised. I know there is a God, and He loves me, its just some days I can loose sight of him behind the porn, consumerism, and flashing lights that blind me to Him a lot. I did not think that the "worst site on the internet" would remind me that He is not a God of confusion.

Just remember no mater where you are in life you are never beyond redemption.

If you just want a quick way to give your self a confidence boost, get your self a proper fitting suite and go to a barber you know the kind that uses proper razors to shave people, get your self a clean shave and a good hair cut then go out side in your suit and come to the realization that you look better then 90% of the fagots you will be encountering

 

[dick brain]

If you just want a quick way to give your self a confidence boost, get your self a proper fitting suite and go to a barber you know the kind that uses proper razors to shave people, get your self a clean shave and a good hair cut then go out side in your suit and come to the realization that you look better then 90% of the fagots you will be encountering

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[Chadikus Maximus]

Despite clear Brit goblin ancestry he still looks classy thanks to the suit

 

[Maid Maple Ying]

as lot say you got live with skin suit your stuck with for body, work at put your mind and body at ez soldier.figer ware what body at build up form there here and work few way of safe discipline work out form there. Around you.

 

[CoolSixtyNiner]

Exercise, eat well, sleep well, limit your online activity. And of course, without question, stop watching porn. None of those things are truly difficult to do, only difficult to start doing.

 

[The Repeated Meme]

Sounds like most of your issues stem from a lack of self-confidence. Maybe like, learn to chill out or something? Idfk. maybe a therpaist can provide more specific guidance. I've suffered from confidence issues in the past and I've gotten over them. You should accept yourself for who you are rather than who you are not.

Just stop giving a fuck.

 

[Gangstalker #32194]

Let it drive you to become less stupid and weak

 

[2LtMashengo]

My best advice would to work on being comfortable with yourself and who you are. Even if you aren't religious you are the sum of thousands of variabilities and have to literally just bee yourself, you can change and take things you like to help define your character as someone you are proud to be. Be it a cowboy type or long hair 90s grunge look alike, If you carry yourself well enough you can get away with dressing a bit different or whatever. Best of luck
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That's not the full picture.

 

[FailurePersonifiedV2]

I am not transgender, I would never get any kind of surgery or even hormone therapy.

Based, Ws in the chat. A great place to be.

There are some days that I feel good and masculine and amazing about my image. Some days I am disgusted and feel ugly and like I am not in the correct body.

I don’t know what you look like but you’re not ugly. That’s your insecurities talking. It’s a part of the not-feeling-comfy-in-body illusion.
At worst you are average for a male.

I know I am beyond screwed up in the head and am mentally ill, and I am in line to see a counselor.

It doesn’t matter how “screwed up” you are, we all are homie. It doesn’t mean you’re any less capable of crawling out of it than any one else. It also means you are no more less worthy of help/healing/redemption than anyone else.

If you could see the skeletons I sleep with you would feel less fucked up (100% guaranteed).

I feel absolutely alone in the world and like no one will accept me. I have found no solace in the LGBT community as they are a bunch of degenerate freaks, even though i struggle with not being that at times.

Amen to that, the fags are among the most detestable of all creatures. They serve no purpose but an evil one.

You’re not alone. I’m about your age and what you say resonates a lot with my lived experience.

I always hear Null talk about how people like me cannot be helped and he talks down to people like me. I feel like I am not welcome anywhere, but I am trying to fight it. I am trying to get help. Can any of you relate? Do any of you think that a retard like me has hope for remission? For lack of a better word.

Josh is speaking to a very real type of person, but I don’t think he’s talking about you. He’s talking about troons and the fags; both of which fully accept their “identity” as disgusting sex pests fully.

The exception is not the rule, and while you’re “rare” you aren’t as rare as you or he thinks. He rails against the people you hate, but I don’t think you are in his mind when he’s talking about these fuckers.

First
1. Stop watching porn
2. Read the Bible/Find God
3. #2 will help a lot with the identity issue.
(You can do all of these at once, ez)

Fuck all these niggas man. No one‘s opinion of you or those like you matter, it’s what you do that matters, and you’re far from alone.
Stop comparing yourself to others, and allow your identity to be placed not in your sex, but what you can do and bring to the table and don’t forget that you’re made in the image of God and He made you this way for a GOOD purpose.

All proselytizing aside,
I’m just telling you the broad strokes of what I wish I would have a decade ago lol

 

[YHWH's Strongest Soldier]

I always hear Null talk about how people like me cannot be helped and he talks down to people like me.

Nigga, Null is an obese American expat that doesn't speak the local language after a decade in exile and he can't even sign his name properly. Stop sucking random people's cocks behind dumpsters, become friends with upstanding people and do something that you're proud of. Most importantly, stop trying to get affirmation from weirdos on the Internet.

 

[Lidl Drip]

You're not "gender fluid" you're just a porn addicted man who wishes he was sexually attractive and desirable, that's the only reason you wanna be a woman, because you think it will make people want to fuck you. It won't, unless you wanna fuck another dude, which you don't have to troon out for. Your self assessment of being disgusting and ugly are probably correct, but that's not "gender dysphoria" and won't be fixed by anything other than working out, taking care of yourself, doing something physical and getting some hobbies other than staring at screens and touching your dick.

 

[San Marino]

Remember: Never Goon

 

[Alex Hogendorp]

I know I am skeptical of the Christian faith but I strongly believe it is worth knowing many bits of it. If anything it has standards that could help you out. In this faith. Thy lord Jesus wants to help you out of bad situations. Even though I am no longer Christian myself. I still respect them quite a bit.

Also, I'm glad you grew some balls to tell us this. You made the right decision.

 

[Just A Fat Round Bird]

Just eat a shitload of packaging peanuts, and then some more!

helpful advice in Q&A.. oh how the west has fallen.. I shake my head