I think this is mostly a thing incels believe because of movies where high school romance is portrayed in an idealistic way. Plus they just can't get over Stacy rejecting them. Dating in High School actually sucks cause teenagers (especially boys) are sociopathic little shits and the only thing to gain from it is experience in what to avoid in a guy going forward. Puberty + heartbreak is actually a horrible combination and from my memory it was just constant drama and girls being pressured into having sex they weren't ready for.
I'm speaking from my own experience here, as well as few guys I know and I'm close enough with to share our experience with each other. I'm genuinely sorry if that's your experience, but mine despite few flaws in both my and her behavior was partly reminiscent of all that B class romantic movies, although definitely a bit different as I'm not a yankee, so no cheerleader-football player dynamic there lol. All jokes aside, I believe I made good effort to make my first partner comfortable, as I've delayed "the thing" on multiple occasions, and later on everything was pretty smooth as we both took "no" for an answer and both made effort to make sure if the other person is comfortable even if that person didn't communicate clearly that this wasn't the case. Honestly I wish every teenager, male or female, and adults too that healthy of a dynamic.
I definitely know what you're talking about - "sociopathic little shit" was a guy I knew, one of my female friends had a crush on him, I warned her and all, but she just couldn't accept the truth. Well, you know what happened next (although she later turned out to be a piece of shit as well, so I don't really feel sorry for her, but her experience helps me to understand your position). I knew a few fairly decent girls who got played/hurt by guys with bad rep, too. Never really understood how some women make such bad choices when every other guy clearly sees that this man is an awful candidate for a partner.
That being said, there was a lot of healthy relationships I was aware of as well - the nice (not "nice") guys I knew eventually all got a girlfriend, one is like 5 years already with his girl. This rhetoric that every man that age is evil by his very nature is just reversed incel-talk how "all women are whores". It's still a more grounded in reality take than "back in the day we just sent all useless men to war xoxo" (which is a wehraboo-level historical take), but still a very dumb argument.
Incels think this because it’s when girls are the most vulnerable. They hate maturity because it means they have to deal with the fact that they’re woefully inadequate compared to others, and therefore have nothing going for them that would make anyone interested
“Naive” in this case is the operative word. Kids are fucking stupid. Once youre 18 you’ll look back and realize how dumb cliques, paying $5 for vodka shots, popularity, or friend groups breaking apart over android “green bubbles” were.
No, both parties are vulnerable, immature, and not aware of their own worth as well as the negative sides of their respective partner. Stupid, naive, doesn't matter what word you will use. That's the point, it gives you enough experience to grow as a person. All the stuff you listed is just as important in the development of a person as teenage love is. You do stupid shit which at the time seems totally reasonable to you to learn, build character etc. Maybe aside from that "green bubbles thing, as it's an american thing that I can't really grasp.
No it doesn't. Another incel lie
Go on incels.is and see for yourself that half of the threads have at least one mention about missing out on teenage love, how they blame it on their shitty life and all that stuff; it doesn't have to be the reason, but you can definitely see it takes a big toll on their mental health, whether you feel pity, hatred or any other emotion towards them. Guys that decent fellows and never fell into that incel pipeline will also tell you the same thing, that they think of themselves as "lesser". Having no women be interested in you is no different than having no one talk to you (in a friendly manner).
Most teens don't even look at "love" as some checklist goal the way incels do
Because love is a normal thing like having friends, having a job etc. Normal people just reach that given goal without much trouble. Introverts, shy guys and girls, or just mostly freaks in this particular case struggle, have to "work on themselves" and all that bullshit to achieve that, which is generally why they tend to see it as a goal as opposed to normal occurence like regular people do. They realize they are not "normal"; all of them just react differently to it, some accept it and work on it, some embrace it, some people go nuts.