you’re only saying that to look good
No, I'm saying it as somebody who used to literally beat my arms and legs blue with my fists over the tiniest things all of the time and sucked the joy and life out of everything around me. I'm saying it as somebody who's been there and had to learn to make little lists every day of the things around me I could
actually control and worry about
those.
Get laid off? It happens, but there are temp agencies, labor fairs, and state resources out there I can lean on. Losing my home? Okay, it's rough, but I have some grandfolks and relatives in the area who I might be able to lean on, but let's not get ahead of ourselves I haven't even
spoken to the landlord yet so let's back up and see what they have to say before I start catastrophizing.
Neither of these two things were within my control, so there's no
sense in sitting and crying about them. So I can focus my energy on the things I
can influence. You need to be putting things into that sort of perspective whenever you can. It's hard, and shitty things happen, but at the end of the day the only thing that matters is what you
do about any of these things.
You are, and that's okay. There's fucked up things with a lot of us that we need help for. You ever hear that old cliche "the first step is acceptance"? There is a very good reason that phrase stuck around. Some of us just roll genetic dice badly. You would take one look at me irl and think "man
that's a failure of a man right there", but it just is what it is. It's not your fault. But you
can take action over it for the better.
