Does anybody else feel alone?

[Kiwi Love Thread]

I went on a spree of joining random groups, discords, steam, etc to just try and find people to get drunk and play games with and it's impossible to find anywhere that doesn't have any kind of psychotic interpersonal policing. I'm not even that racist or right wing (until the subject of native americans gets brought up) but it seems like everyone on the line is a tranny or christfag or hardcore anonymous. I used to have an assortment of weird online friends but the years have sent everyone apart.

Me, I'm in full-bore midlife crisis mode and have resorted to using Null, PPP & Andy as my background noise/borderline surrogate friends or just voices to listen to while I spend the odd weekend night drinking and gaming. But it's like, there doesn't seem to be anywhere I fit in anymore or just be my usual beligerant drunken self. IRL is out the window until next June-ish because that's when I go back to [IRL place] where I have actual IRL friends and not [current shithole] where everyone acts like a faggot.

I'd considered looking to see if there's any hangouts here but aside from SS13 (which I'm not autistic enough for) there doesn't seem to be anything. And I know that A. It's anti-thetical to what the sites about and B. Anybody willing to do so would be likely malicious or some miserable combination of rat/a-log/ideas guy.

It really feels like the internet is dead, and those who inhabit it anymore are Trannies, Nazis, Lolcows, Corpos, their "Chosen Grifters" and about a billion chinks, jeets and robots. I spend most days working and working and working and nightly stop to shitpost, youtube, drink & game. But I keep seeing all these posts and they're just shadows on the wall. The voices come from a PA system wrapped around my skull. I look outside and everyone is a strange creature I cannot relate to. I several times tried going to a variety of bars and it feels like nobody knows how to hold a conversation, or they're "kids" glued to social media or geriatrics who repeat phrases like an NPC in an MMO I clicked on one too many times. I've got both feet in the sewer with my head in the clouds and all I can seem to do is nightly cope and space until I can return home.

 

[DavidS877]

No. I have the squirrels in my yard to keep me company.

 

[Just A Fat Round Bird]

Just do mitosis, then you are your own company. Problem solved

 

[Tablet County]

>tfw you're a weirdo autist

Evolution has perfectly adapted me to this environment of isolation.

Seriously though, I'd recommend getting into tabletop. Look for the TTRPGs with the highest ceiling of entry you can find. And never EVER talk politics or pornographic preferences EVER. If you're in a discord server or something and there's a "debate" or "nsfw" channel, then run for the hills.

 

[Tonty]

I never considered this. Months and it didn't occur to me I didn't have to try to join others, but maybe I could make one myself. How do you create a group of people starting from yourself?

Try stuff. Go out there and do something new; anything. A user suggested a pottery class. Just go and talk to people and have zero expectations. I started doing this a few years ago and you make friends in the strangest places. Sure most people are boring as fuck and glued to their phones but they are easy to identify and ignore.

Also: Older people. Usually want to tell you their life stories and justify (to themselves?) their choices and how you should make the exact opposite ones. Usually there's some golden advice or insight in there.

Volunteer your time somewhere. "Acts of service" is feelgood. Don't beat yourself up if you try something and it sucks; just try something else.

EDIT: The internet isn't dead, it's just different because EVERYONE is on it now. It was better when normies didn't understand it and left us all to it.

 

[Hazel Motes]

“When I hear modern people complain of being lonely then I know what has happened. They have lost the cosmos.”
― D.H. Lawrence

 

[SofondaCox]

If you're unironically suggesting these things you're more terminally online than I could ever be.

I do everything dude suggested and while I havent made “friends“, my oxygen is justified every day. If you feel lonely or hollow, this will resolve your issue and revitalize your humanity and self respect.

Discord is never the answer to any problem.

 

[Hitchhiker]

I'll be your friend, lil' buddy.

 

[Poppavalyim Andropoff]

Maybe visiting an old folks home.

I used to read kiwi farms threads in different voices to a group of them.

The money collected stays 100% in our county.

the issue with the Salvation Army cunts is that so little of what you give actually goes to helping people & when people do want help they make you jump through hoops for the simplest of things. I have decades of close experience with them.
There are far more grass roots organisations that need the same help & funding.
I know not everyone is built for it but I always preferred just roll up where the homeless are or hang & drop stuff off be it food or whatever.

 

[Dysnomia]

The internet isn't what it used to be. The small communities are mostly gone and replaced with Reddit and Discord trannies.

Maybe try some volunteer work? Lots of food and toy drives go on this time of year. Maybe you can find something like that and help the less fortunate.

 

[Kiwi Love Thread]

I can't help at the animal shelter because I would legit want to fuck all the dogs

There's something seriously wrong with you.

 

[Haloperidol]

Okay I’ll give some serious advice because I can: Try a new hobby. Find a couple you like enough to spend an autistic amount of time getting good at them. Bonus if you take a class or it’s something you have to go outside to do. Go look up where other people doing the thing together. Even if you don’t make friends right away, at least it gets you around people, and eventually you pick up enough interests you can at least have a nice chit chat with anyone.

 

[Kiwi Love Thread]

Seriously though, I'd recommend getting into tabletop. Look for the TTRPGs with the highest ceiling of entry you can find. And never EVER talk politics or pornographic preferences EVER. If you're in a discord server or something and there's a "debate" or "nsfw" channel, then run for the hills.

The internet isn't dead, it's just different because EVERYONE is on it now. It was better when normies didn't understand it and left us all to it.

“When I hear modern people complain of being lonely then I know what has happened. They have lost the cosmos.”
― D.H. Lawrence

Okay I’ll give some serious advice because I can: Try a new hobby. Find a couple you like enough to spend an autistic amount of time getting good at them. Bonus if you take a class or it’s something you have to go outside to do. Go look up where other people doing the thing together. Even if you don’t make friends right away, at least it gets you around people, and eventually you pick up enough interests you can at least have a nice chit chat with anyone.

All this. These are good. Combined with the right under my nose idea of starting my own group from me rather than trying to failing to integrate into pre-existing groups. I'll have to shop around but these are giving me ideas on where to start. If I could mark multiple solutions I would, but you're all winners in my eyes.

Thank you.
~ Kiwi Love Thread

 

[OrionBalls]

I used to read kiwi farms threads in different voices to a group of them.

the issue with the Salvation Army cunts is that so little of what you give actually goes to helping people & when people do want help they make you jump through hoops for the simplest of things. I have decades of close experience with them.
There are far more grass roots organisations that need the same help & funding.
I know not everyone is built for it but I always preferred just roll up where the homeless are or hang & drop stuff off be it food or whatever.

Ours requires a shutoff notice brought in and doesn't handle rent. (The reason Guido gave me is that rent is an ongoing issue, so if you can't afford it this month, being able to afford it next month is probably also going to be an issue. I think it might be more because there just aren't the funds for it.) You can also only request help once a year. As in once every 365 days. So if the electric is about to be shut off once the first thaw happens, you can't ask for help with gas, next month, or even eleven months later. To be fair, I'm in a small county that is mostly rural. I'm not sure how the whole organization is run. I've heard horror stories about working for (paid jobs) Goodwill in their donation centers. But I know SA still runs some shelter/rehabs out west, at least, and always thought that was pretty decent.

My point to this little rant is that I know sometimes SA probably sucks, but I'm not sure how much the damage outweighs the good. I'm ignorant in that way. Also, I'm glad you subscribe to the "give a person food" mentality. And helping out local charities that know the exact needs of the community is always the best way to go! Never give a person cash. What goes a long way around here is a pair of gloves or even a really cheap hat. I get those ones that can be layered and pass them along as I can.

KLT, I'm glad you found the help you were looking for, and have a way to start solving your loneliness issues. It really sucks to feel isolated.

 

[Fat Gollum]

I feel more alone right now than I've ever felt in my life.

 

[Cats]

Yeah. Especially since I moved away from the college town I lived nearby for almost 10 years and I basically am alone out here. Things like I haven't gotten a new girlfriend or friend group since I moved out here because I don't know anyone in this area. I am starting to go a little stir crazy tbh, even starting to irritate myself a little bit. while I don't need to go back to work if I don't want to, I think I might want to. Just to have something to do. I spend all day with my cat and while I love my cat, this has been a bit of a shock to me moving away from all my friends and others, etc.

 

[We Are The Witches]

There are plenty of people on Reddit (yes, I know, I know) that just want a companion to play games with the mic on, search for someone like that. If that's what you want.

Another example: there are people in there that are into the pelpal thing, which can develop into more than just sending letters.

Now the key is to choose well and not just some bored rando, but anyways, it's possible. If you want IRL stuff, maybe search for the same but for people in your area. That cesspool (cough) I mean, Reddit, has even subreddits for specific areas. All you have to do is find the non-braindead one.

 

[CallmeCicada]

Yeah. Especially since I moved away from the college town I lived nearby for almost 10 years and I basically am alone out here. Things like I haven't gotten a new girlfriend or friend group since I moved out here because I don't know anyone in this area. I am starting to go a little stir crazy tbh, even starting to irritate myself a little bit. while I don't need to go back to work if I don't want to, I think I might want to. Just to have something to do. I spend all day with my cat and while I love my cat, this has been a bit of a shock to me moving away from all my friends and others, etc.

Spoiler

I wish you the best, I am troubled to hear your difficulties and I hope you find yourself some good friends soon. I can only advise you to take this time to enjoy being alone, because being alone and being lonely are not the same thing. Though you are alone right now, you are in the good company of yourself (and your cat).

I see so many people here appreciate you I can only assume you are at best a decent person. I senceely wish you well, even our most difficult situations are only temporary if we are willing to be more persistant than our problems.

When I am by myself I find playing music and dancing to be so enjoyable it feels almost spiritual. Especially if it is something makes me smile (or even melancholy),

Though reading your post inspired me to answer I believe what I said earlier is important to keep in mind for everyone who responded

God bless you all

 

[Daddy's Angry Juice]

Find something that grounds you. Having dealt with severe abuse and neglect, I can tell you, loneliness is but a mindstate, but if you let that determine who you are, you will turn yourself into a monster (and likely have a thread here)

Ground yourself, there are many things about this world you could like, find them. Then learn to love yourself, with all of your flaws. Then slowly remove those flaws one by one, I make it sound a lot easier than it is but it's worth it.

Then learn to love the world, and understand it has infinite flaws, but it's no better or worse than you, if you can accept that, then the world will become a friend.

(Sorry if that sounds like hippie shit but it's true,and it helped me, so I hope it can help you.)

 

[Fräulein Troonjak]

“When I hear modern people complain of being lonely then I know what has happened. They have lost the cosmos.”
― D.H. Lawrence

So I have.
I lost.

 

[Mound Dweller]

I'm kinda in the same boat except I don't feel sad about it, you'll never make "true connections" over an internet connection anyway. You actually have "people" albeit somewhere else right now? Well done you're doing better than some. I get the same experience going to bars and events, the people there aren't real if you know what I mean.
If you can't extricate yourself from this situation it's a great opportunity for an inner journey, disregard socializing and commit yourself to rumination, maybe lose a few more sanity points.