Are you lost needing femoid advice post here - For the poor bastard's who dare or are just curious

[CharcoalChkn]

Thanks everyone for the advice about Invisalign! I do want to go for it, just wanted to crowdsource some experiences that wasn't Google reviews and shilling since it's so damn expensive.

 

[crazedaze]

Damn its pricey for shampoo.

You're telling me, it's doubled after covid goddammit

Suggest something with a tshirt?

A t-shirt's fine as long as you're wearing it properly fitted

 

[Soi Woh Jak]

Have you tried linen shirts? They are more breathable and require less ironing. You could probably get away with just having it hung up on a hanger between wears without it getting wrinkly.

I dont think so but Ill look into them, thanks.

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A t-shirt's fine as long as you're wearing it properly fitted

Yeah I have like 5 of these, Im not chiseled though so it rather hangs off the bones instead of muscle, doesnt look like this like a dressed up rock.

 

[Mandy Stroyer]

Suggest something with a tshirt? Or is it unfashionable? I find shirts to be extremely uncomfortable especially on frequent use. Unless I go to a formal gathering or a dinner or something I don't feel like wearing buttoned shirts.

Im not chiseled though so it rather hangs off the bones instead of muscle, doesnt look like this like a dressed up rock.

You can make tshirts fashionable, it's important to accessorize though to add more variety and color. Watches, hats, or even socks are a good way to do that. Given your body type, I'd suggest something that gives more definition and bulk like jackets, cuffed bootleg or regular fit jeans, or overshirts/flannels you can leave unbuttoned and untucked.

 

[Friend of Dorothy Parker]

What does a decently dressed man look like from a woman's POV? All the resources I can find on the internet for dressing as a man is directed towards either gay men or a pretty gay looking preppy look which is not my groove at all. I dress pretty western, button down shirt with the sleeves rolled up, jeans, boots, that sort of thing. I've never gotten complaints, but I've also never gotten compliments.

I posted some links previously. But I suppose those basics may look "preppy." (N.B., those looks aren't "gay," but whatever.)

So: make sure your clothes are clean, not worn out, and suited to your body.

You like a Western look? Here are some items. And an article on stylish Western wear (Yeah, sorry, it references a TV show.). Short version: quilted vests/jackets, jeans that fit, boots taken care of/in good condition, fitting shirts. Wool, cotton, leather.

 

[Unicorn Fairie]

Where do I even find women in an environment in which I can freely flirt with them? It's awkward at church, inappropriate at work, unacceptable at the store. So, uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Help, please?

 

[Thé au lait]

I like to highlight the segment, hit 'reply' (it'll pop up in the box where you'd put a new reply), and cut/paste into my edit. It can sometimes be fussy about adding extra lines.

You can also hit "show bbcode" and paste everything before "[/QUOTE]"

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[DickMain]

Where do I even find women in an environment in which I can freely flirt with them? It's awkward at church, inappropriate at work, unacceptable at the store. So, uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Help, please?

"Hey, babe, how about we get a little reformist and I'll show you 95 things I can nail to your door"
(warning: these moves only work with the appropriate trim; I myself carry a copy of the 95 Theses in my wallet at all times)

 

[Big Miss Steak]

Where do I even find women in an environment in which I can freely flirt with them? It's awkward at church, inappropriate at work, unacceptable at the store. So, uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Help, please?

In all kindness I can tell from this post alone that you are autistic. I will still try to help you. What is your goal in flirting?

 

[Unicorn Fairie]

In all kindness I can tell from this post alone that you are autistic. I will still try to help you. What is your goal in flirting?

To interact with women. They seem fun.

 

[Dagoth AMOGUS]

To interact with women. They seem fun.

Women are purdy

I also like that 99% of them always smell nice

Thank you to all women, and I’m sure other men appreciate it as well

 

[suspended animation]

unacceptable at the store

Unless the woman in question is an employee or is acting hurried or seems somehow vulnerable (like she is making large purchases and would be unable to easily walk away from you), then I don't think it's unacceptable to flirt at a store.

Try to catch her eye and smile at her; if she reciprocates, then approach and make light conversation. If she doesn't return the smile, then leave her alone.

(This advice not applicable in certain places such as lingerie or maternity stores)

 

[Local Farmer]

What are some romantic activities and gifts I can do for my fiancé, I’m going to give her some flowers and chocolates tonight, what are other good romantic activities I can do for her.

She’s been kinda down lately and I’ve been busy with work so I want to make her really happy.

 

[Hubelublub]

She’s been kinda down lately and I’ve been busy with work so I want to make her really happy.

Stop buying shit for her. Any faggot on your street can buy her $20 of chocolate and flowers.
Clear your fucking calendar and dedicate that time to her. Just her. Turn off your phone, ignore your emails, and give her an evening where she feels like she is the only person in your world.

Listen to her, let her talk about her life and her problems and her wishes, all while you appreciate the person she is.

Giving her your time, the most priceless and irreplaceable thing on this earth, will mean more to her than the nicest box of cocoa powder and palm oil your money can buy.

 

[Friend of Dorothy Parker]

Stop buying shit for her. Any faggot on your street can buy her $20 of chocolate and flowers.
Clear your fucking calendar and dedicate that time to her. Just her. Turn off your phone, ignore your emails, and give her an evening where she feels like she is the only person in your world.

Listen to her, let her talk about her life and her problems and her wishes, all while you appreciate the person she is.

Giving her your time, the most priceless and irreplaceable thing on this earth, will mean more to her than the nicest box of cocoa powder and palm oil your money can buy.

But also flowers are nice.

Spoiler: Every comment is a thought prompt sometimes

Fr, I like them, and beautiful things are hard to hate, even if you don't love them.

Side note: I was once in line behind some old guy buying flowers for his wife. He had bought her flowers every single month on the specific date of the month that they had met (or went out for the first time, or whatever) - for 50 years. Pretty cool. Not bc "oh he buys her things," or bc he was performative about it (the conversation drew it out of him/ he wasn't advertising it) , but bc it was his way of telling his wife that he thought about her in a very active, present way and appreciated her and that she was in his life. OTT in a way, but tbh 50 years on he was actually excited and actively thinking about her when getting the flowers, not box-checking.

But I would also say that the things @Hubelublub mentions are important and are things to incorporate into your time together generally, when you can.

The key to making a nice time for someone is knowing what they like and appreciate, or what they never get (and would enjoy), or what they respond to, and doing that.

Personally, I'M HERE YOU HAVE MY ATTENTION LET US FOCUS ON THIS NIGHT THAT I HAVE DECIDED THAT WE WILL FOCUS, doesn't always hit my mood.

But if she's a good person and your relationship is good, any effort for each other is good.

Other note...don't get offended if she says at some point she'd rather you did x - remember if you're trying to do nice for someone, then what is great to them is what matters. I've had men insist on doing xyz even if when it was known I didn't like xyz, bc they thought I should. Weird.

Also temper your expectations for a response. If you don't often do big gestures, or she is unused to them, her initial reaction might not be a Disney swoon. Doesn't mean it's not appreciated.

Omg, too much thoughting. Tonight, flowers will be nice, a sweet is nice, put the phone away, talk over dinner. Order food if she likes that, rub her back if she likes that, dress up and go out if she likes that instead, do the dishes / take out garbage/ whatever if that would give her a break from her usual.

You're good.

 

[Trump's Chosen]

Try to catch her eye and smile at her; if she reciprocates, then approach and make light conversation. If she doesn't return the smile, then leave her alone.

This can work but it's rather timid. This is basicly waiting for an invitation. Most men can wait their whole lives without getting one.

Instead, take some calculated risks and try and make light conversation, and try and be aware and notice who enjoys it and who doesn't, so you can eject early if it's not appreciated.

Also, the best way to learn to do this well is to try it on everybody, not just girls you find attractive. Because everyone is a practice target to have enjoyable small talk with. And once you learn this skill, it's kind of stunning how many opportunities open. Just remember that if you say have a 50% success rate of having a good conversation that'a fine. If you learn to not make it awkward the majority of the time, you can use it to chat with girls and flirt.

It also allows you to steer conversation back to non-flirting if she responds positively to converstion but not flirting.

 

[No Thank You v 2.0]

Where do I even find women in an environment in which I can freely flirt with them? It's awkward at church, inappropriate at work, unacceptable at the store. So, uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Help, please?

I agree with the advice given regarding eye contact and small talk, and I also think the store is a good option, given the exceptions mentioned above. With regard to stores, find a reason to go to a craft store. Don’t haunt the Hobby Lobby aimlessly, but if you realize you‘re out of glue or you need a pair of scissors, go there instead of the Target. You’re more likely to find women who are there pursuing something they’re passionate about (which they will probably want to talk about as most people do), but that probably keeps them at home and in a similar situation as yourself when it comes to meeting new men (as in, they wouldn’t flirt at work, and it’s awkward at church for them, too).

A woman at Target is more likely to be in a rush, getting her errands run, etc., but at the craft store (or another hobby-related store, like a book store, garden supply store, etc), she’s probably enjoying herself a little bit more, taking her time, and likely more receptive to introductions. I know when I go to a store like that, I‘m there because I’m actively looking for new things; my mind is already open to new experiences, and I’m “hunting,” if you will. That is a great time to catch my attention, if someone were so inclined.

Developing a hobby of your own, instead of just going to hobby stores when you need a specific item, can certainly help the situation as well, but it’s a start.

 

[Hubelublub]

Instead, take some calculated risks and try and make light conversation, and try and be aware and notice who enjoys it and who doesn't, so you can eject early if it's not appreciated.

Also, the best way to learn to do this well is to try it on everybody, not just girls you find attractive.

This is great advice, as it will help you become known around town as the guy who constantly talks to strangers. Women love that.

It will be especially helpful if you frequent hobby and craft stores, walking through the aisles, a pair of sharp new scissors in your hand, looking for lone women to engage in conversation. This will do wonders for your local reputation.

At no stage should you consider meeting women organically through your own hobbies or social networks. Don't even bother having your own hobbies, and if you don't already have any social networks of your own, this is definitely not something worthy of introspection. Not having friends or your own interests is perfectly fine, and won't worry any woman.

Just wander through town and try to talk to women you know absolutely nothing about. This always makes a woman feel so special.

waiting for an invitation. Most men can wait their whole lives without getting one.

If no woman wants to talk to you, this is a sign. Trying to force the interaction by using her social graces and inbuilt politeness will get you exactly that: social graces and politeness.
It might get you a date with a crazy person if you're lucky.

A lone woman in public is not free target practice for men. Why shouldn't women be free to go about their daily lives without being accosted by desperately lonely men with no other options?

 

[crazedaze]

This is great advice, as it will help you become known around town as the guy who constantly talks to strangers. Women love that.

It will be especially helpful if you frequent hobby and craft stores, walking through the aisles, a pair of sharp new scissors in your hand, looking for lone women to engage in conversation. This will do wonders for your local reputation.

At no stage should you consider meeting women organically through your own hobbies or social networks. Don't even bother having your own hobbies, and if you don't already have any social networks of your own, this is definitely not something worthy of introspection. Not having friends or your own interests is perfectly fine, and won't worry any woman.

Just wander through town and try to talk to women you know absolutely nothing about. This always makes a woman feel so special.

If no woman wants to talk to you, this is a sign. Trying to force the interaction by using her social graces and inbuilt politeness will get you exactly that: social graces and politeness.
It might get you a date with a crazy person if you're lucky.

A lone woman in public is not free target practice for men. Why shouldn't women be free to go about their daily lives without being accosted by desperately lonely men with no other options?

Don't you feel bad for him "ablooooo sexual dimorphism exists and men never getting an invite"?
"Unattractive women are a free practice target" amazing moid advice.
Fuck off

 

[isalaide]

Where do I even find women in an environment in which I can freely flirt with them? It's awkward at church, inappropriate at work, unacceptable at the store. So, uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Help, please?

I am not saying this to be funny, but have you young folks forgotten how to go out drinking?

The answer to your question is in the bar, or the club? This is where dudes hit on you and it is expected and not inappropriate? People are also slightly disinhibited by the alcohol so will be more willing to talk?

why the fuck are you kids trying to get laid in CHURCH and in the STORE