In that era sodomy was punished by jailtime so there wasn't really any acceptance to be had. It was meant to fix any kind of same sex attraction.
Ironically, lesbians were an afterthought. Ulrich treated us like we weren't even there. It took Richard von Krafft-Ebing to look at everyone, and go 'i think those chics are fucking each other.' Technically speaking, nothing illegal was happening. No adultery, no proven sodomy, and no babies. Lesbians were even ignored in the bible, so spiritually we were ordained by god. The only person I know who was ever taken to court in relation to inversion was Radclyffe Halls. She went to court for writing
Well of Loneliness, a lesbian story about a cross-dressing woman joining the army. And she only got charged with obscenity. Lesbians were barely a problem in the legal courts and the court of public opinion. For fuck sake, the Victorian era encouraged female companionship and promoted it. There was a woman who joined a convent to fuck nuns and got away with it. Mind you, not a nun, multiple nuns. She bedded so many women, it was obscene
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A lot of gay men did get away with sodomy actually. In order to actually get charged with it, you had to get caught in the act or bosting about it. For example, Oscar Wilde only got put in jail for gross indecency. All they could prove was that he was romantically involved and, by proxy, sexually with men.
"Before the trial began, it is believed Wilde got romantically involved with Alfred Douglas, whose father, Sir John Sholto Douglas, found out and accused Wilde of sodomy. Queensberry told his son Alfred to stop all contact with Wilde or he’d “disown… and stop all money supplies”... Queensberry provoked Wilde first by slipping him a note that said “For Oscar Wilde, posing sodomite” (Source 6). As a way to defend himself, he went on to convict Sir Douglas of libel. However, Douglas argued that Wilde solicited twelve men to commit sodomy with him between the years of 1892 and 1894, which the court seemed to sympathize with in the first trial. On the third day of the proceedings, Wilde's Lawyer found there was “abundant evidence of clients guilt” and he chose to withdraw from the case..." (
https://editions.covecollective.org/chronologies/oscar-wildes-gross-indecency-trial#:~:text=On May 25th, 1895, Oscar,by accusing Douglas of libel.)