I didn't want to post 'couples' shit, since - and I did tell her this - it would only compound the humiliation when (not if) she inevitably dumps me. She posted quite a lot of that stuff, though, and then promptly DFE'd the lot, after we split up. Like I never existed. That didn't twist the knife...
Okay, I have to ask, I'm sure there's a reason - but
why did you say this? I don't think there's any circumstance where I'd ever say that to a chick where I was dating. I mean, I've said 'when I dump you' but never 'when you dump me'. Did you do something? Did she do something? Were you just young n dumb?
I'm more inclined to think that it's the other way around. The propensity for violence is what makes men attractive, not that attractive men will have their violence excused.
Also, I've said it before and I'll say it again, the most emotion women are most attracted to is anger. Anger equals aggression which equals masculinity for some reason.
If a girl tells you to add her to instagram you already lost.
You pass her your cellphone and make her write down her own number.
See, that's what I told my friends. They asked what do I do and I told them, just open the new contacts page and toss them your phone. Even girls I thought didn't like me put their number in. We either just texted or we didn't, but I got the damn number. I think only once was a girl like "no I'm good".
I have the good fortune to know an intelligent, self-aware woman, and she explained it, a man who can protect a woman from danger is sexy, but there's only a hair of difference between a man who protects from danger and a man who is the danger, and it can be really hard to tell at first.
I've actually said this in the other thread a very long time ago. The problem is, you're combating a natural instinct and it's hard to filter obvious red flags when you're battling against your own head. That's why women waste so much time on men that don't like them or guys who want to use them. They're attracted to them, and it doesn't matter what their heads say, they're fighting against their instincts and it's always a losing battle.
Women did not always act like this. I'm old enough to remember. Society certainly understood that women who were not properly socialized could act like this. Society knew they could be like this.
I agree, I'm on the older end too. I don't think it has anything to do with expectations, but rather just social media reinforcing bad behaviors and bad personalities. Your bad personal traits only get reinforced on social media.
Saw this in another thread. It rings very true.
I think this is something every guy has to eventually learn and just cope with. Nice guys finish last and they always do and always will. It's not that kindness is weakness, but attitude and dickish behavior is misconstrued for true confidence. Confidence is attractive, and therefore dickish behavior = attraction. I've dated plenty of girls who tell me "Actually I thought you were kind of an ass hole, but you weren't an ass hole to me."
Media doesn't help. Media always makes the nice guy the winner at the end. Media always makes the die hard romantic look good. But if I showed up to a woman's house with a stereo playing "our song" and saying "I love you", I'm pretty sure she'd say "It's 2AM, fuck off".
Foid response: "he's not a nice guy at all, since he thinks he deserves anything. He's actually an even bigger creep than Henry."
I fucking hate this more than anything. Nothing pisses me off more than the denial of this reality. I have more respect for the women who flat out say they prefer douchebags than the women who say this garbage. I've heard plenty of women ask why the red pill/Manosphere is even a thing, but the reality is-THEY CREATED IT.