While I understand that women shouldn't be mistreated or abused or exploited, a lot of women's expectations are more out of fear of loss of luxury than actual fear of survival. I like living in the first world, but I also blame how society treats women who do socially and emotionally manipulative henious shit as doing absolutely nothing wrong and many of those more ill inclined take this as "I can do anything I want". Female psychology also takes the idea of societal living situations as equivalent to survival conditions, which unfortunately does not always equal the case.
Mothers and sisters honestly need to teach their girls the value of hard work, the ways of how the world works on the outside, and to not abuse their own unique gifts and rights as women, which has not been on a very good track record recently.
Have you ever asked women what they really want? You might be surprised. Don't use internet articles or blog posts and TikToks by entitled harpies to gauge that. I'm sure your mom had hopes and dreams that never panned out. But she learned to be satisfied with what she got because there were some joyful things in there. Just like anyone else. Male or female.
Both men and women wish for a happy life. It is not unnatural to want more than you need or aim your standards high. You shoot for the stars and hope you at least clear the roof. Most women aren't thinking "I'm definitely going to land that 10/10 gym god with the six figure salary who showers me with gifts". But they do think it might be nice if it does happen. It's no different than hoping you win the Powerball. Unlikely but anything is possible, right?
I think a lot of modern men are very ignorant of what women really want and assume we want the whole world just because we dared to have some standards. Social media doesn't help. Influencers are pure cancer. Those vapid types make women look bad. But they are a small portion or women and they are just doing it for attention and freebies. Just ignore them.
The problem becomes when those same hopes and dreams cancel out the more reasonable alternative, which is what we're seeing. A woman would rather hope the 10/10 notices her than date the 6/10 that actually asked her out.
The problem becomes when those same hopes and dreams cancel out the more reasonable alternative, which is what we're seeing. A woman would rather hope the 10/10 notices her than date the 6/10 that actually asked her out.
That's the other problem too. A lot of girls and women are being mislead that the radicalized feminist groups barking loudly and all of society preaching on and on about fairness in their ears by the news and the television means "everything will be okay". The reality is, it's not. And most of all, if they are raised to be passive princesses who are helicopter parented and coddled all the time from even bumping their toe into the table or from doing simple shit like washing the dishes, guess what they'll become? They're not going to be "badass self dependent need no man amazons", for one.
I mostly blame Hollywood, too. They still have a very, very powerful grip on women, and knowing the shit show they are, Hollywood is still first and foremost a flesh trade, in both labor and in carnal indulgences. I know everyone blames the internet nowadays, but who established the foundations for influencers and e-thots first before they ever became a thing? Who pumps out vapid shit like Taylor Swift and modern pop and homogenizes and strips away all originality and creativity from those who knowingly or unknowingly sell their soul in order to be known by fitting into the mold? Who turns girls like Britney Spears into shambling barely coherent messes who shit themselves uncontrollably after making them pop stars? I know I'm sounding like a total "shock the system man" shill and that no one is ever that original, but you can't tell me that The Entertainment Capital of the World got its name for a reason and that the glowies did not notice its influence on soft power. As much as choosing to watch is a choice, I wonder how often this maxim is told when one buys a television or a computer and a subscription to streaming services or as in my day, cable or antenna? I wonder who sells advertising space and makes that a huge part of their budget as much as their production for movies and shows? I wonder.
Niggas, @Dawdler got banned from the Femoid Advice thread and now he's convinced that all women hate him in perpetuity without good reason. It's as simple as that.
3 things:
-What do you bring to the relationship? Are you independant with your own job? A lot of women, contrary to popular belief, are more interested in responsibility than money. Being in a managerial position is seen as highly respected, even if it's just at a mcdonalds. Are you decent at open communication, i.e. not just saying your grievances, but listening to the woman?
-Are you enjoyable to be around? Do you have friends or family that go out of their way to hang out, especially female friends or family? Some girls get jealous over if you have female friends but getting along with female family in incredibly important. Do you also have hobbies or fun interests you could try involving her in? Or willing to try some of her interests as well?
-Are you a good communicator?
I know I included it a lil bit in the first part, but I'll go more in depth. Are you good at standing firm but not being a dick about it? If you aren't sure, ask a mother, sister or coworker. Female friends tend to only see one side of you, same with women with male friends.
Can you resolve conflict with an SO, family member, or friend without having to resort to yelling or fighting? Can you express feelings you have in a relatively healthy way?
Women like social intelligence (because we specialize in it and are specialized very young, so if you can't, you essentially speak another language we don't understand), responsibility, and feeling safe.
Of course everything I wrote down applies to men looking for women as well. Never ever try to date a woman who tries to shut down any calm discussions/disagreements because they think they're right. There's going to be a handful of things that they could, but the reverse is true for men.
Examples women don't understand:
-how men can punch eachother in the face and be best friends after
-how men can become friends without even knowing one anothers name for the first week of knowing one another
-ball pain
-mens obsession with doing stupid shit they know will hurt them.
You unironically do have authority over this.
For things men will never understand:
-constantly being vigilant for potential dangers, we do it with men AND women, usually anyone bigger than us, that's why super short girls are extremely aggressive naturally. A regular sized woman isn't going to worry about a sameish sized woman, but men tower over us. Even an athletic woman would struggle from the strength of a guy who doesn't work out. I will admit we can over worry sometimes, your job as a man is to make them feel safe enough to rely on you to protect them.
-reproductive pain: this includes birth and periods. Just like we could never know how badly it hurts to be kicked in the nuts, you will never know how we feel. It is just a natural divider. I'm of the opinion women handle internal (like organ, migraine, aches) way better than men, but men handle exterior injuries much better than women. Too much estrogen as a hormone is known to cause a lot of problems in women like chronic migraines, muscle aches, fatigue, and irritation. Extended spergging about this:
Men handle physical harm better because they're used to doing stupid shit or trying to look strong for girls they like.
Also, best descriptor I have for period pain, your entire dick getting roadrash, like removing a layer bad, as well as the muscle. And that same muscle making your bowels irritated (we have a muscle anchoring our lower intestine and uterus near each other, which is why period shits smell so awful)
-our obsession with colors/design: we gathered berries, so being able to tell the slight differences of color that made something ripe and unripe was important. It's a fact women see a wider spectrum of color, and are more likely to have a strange mutation in having an extra cone. Men are much more likely to be colorblind because you didn't need to see color as much, just movement. Oh and for decoration, maternal instinct. We expect to spend a lot of time in our home regardless of if we have a child or not, so personalizing is a big deal for us.
-sight differences.
Women see the full area better than men do, men see in a conical shape much better than women. We're built to sense danger for our safety, most female mammals are. It's why women sighters are extremely important for snipers, just like men are extremely necessary for the fast trigger work and better aim.
(Will also explain why a woman might not see something in front of her but will notice something ajar across the room)
This may sound rediculous but I cannot tell you how often I and other women get nitpicked for our "ocd" nature. It isn't ocd, it's just women having another biological difference.
-men will never understand why emotions are so important to women: you may notice women sometimes prefer to shit talk or complain and get mad when you offer a solution. This is another biological difference, it's a form of emotional regulation. We understand the solutions, we just prefer to bitch about things. It's how a healthy woman can get over a breakup or death of a loved one 3x faster than a man can. Keep in mind this isn't the same as only bitching, we will ask for help if we need it, promise! But we like venting first.
-obsession with true crime and brutal, gorey murders:
To be fair, I don't fully get it either. Maybe because it's a safe way to be scared because its real, it really happened, but we know the person is likely caught and if not, we (hopefully) know how to avoid it.
-our hilarious infatuation with cute things:
Men like cute things too! But you'll notice women react to a lot more stuff, which can include super fluffy, soft and tiny things. This is entirely instinct, small thing make woman think of baby unconsciously, even for women that hate children. Things with big eyes/ears also make us think of children. I won't say we're more emotionally driven, but we are more in tune with it. The only time we seriously can't control it is pregnancy or a hormonal imbalance.
-why women travel in packs to bathrooms and socialize there.
Safety and community. It's usually one of few places we can go where we know no men are, including family. Think of it like when guys decide they're all going to do something extremely stupid in the bathroom at highschool, like playing a bunch of instruments or shoving themselves in a stall with as many guys as possible. You do it because it's fun, right?
Same, just a different kind of fun.
Oh and women also do stupid things for fun, it's just safer. We like to laugh at penis shaped things and extreme baking fuck ups.
Personally my favorite thing was throwing flaming pinecones at my brother but ai'm also a bit of a tomboy. I'm sure if you get a girl drunk enough, she'll start doing stupid shit with fire/water.
SHORT AND SWEET VERSION:
meet defensive woman who is hating on you, say "I'm not a woman, when ai say something I mean it, it's never an insult or slight."
Women will still get mad at you, you will be slapped a few times and called misogynistic, but I promise? They either leave you alone or have a genuine respect for you.
Oh and instead of saying calm down, ask if the woman is alright,l. They may still be mad but it won't be at you like if you tell them to calm down.
Tell her to calm down to calm her down. Then call her hysterical after she looses her mind. When she starts throwing insults just say, that she's exactly like her mother.
50% of the time, it works every time
"I was sixteen and my mom made me get a job. Again. Learn the value of work. She was right, it’s a lesson I retain decades later: the value of work is less than fucking zero, a negative eating away at your soul and your life."
Unironically, he was very smart and insightful and he spoke well on a number of topics, even if I didn’t agree with his perspective. That is: he was well educated and good natured.
Unfortunately, he was adamant “no kids” and “must live in cold weather” so it was doomed from the start.
The Woman Questions is quite simple: ever since the world has been cursed by their discovery of politics their ideology has been nothing but childish and unrestrained individualism. All their political victories have been nothing but getting rid of this and that responsibility to their men and/or to society. Unfortunately for them we have reached the point at which we as men said that if women do not want to have any responsibility to us then we should not have any responsibility to them as well. The rest is commentary.
3rd wave feminism fucked it all up for both sexes. Birthrates are low, people are depressed "incels" and "femcels" refuse to take responsibility in their lives.
