sex life wrapped 2024
I saw Emma Alamo post a 2024 Wrapped about her sex life, and I wanted to as well. CW: casual sex, sti & health stuff, brief mention of assault, kink
From Jan - mid-August I only fucked my husband. Then from late August 'til the end of the year, I fucked 18 individual people. This doesn't count a few people I only made out with (2) and doesn't include several people I fucked online/digitally (5). I've had 1 UTI, 1 BV, 1 Chlamydia, and 1 panic attack. I've had mostly good sex overall; I had 4 repeat offenders, one of which i will never fuck again, and the remaining 3 I'd go again with for number 3. I have several people who I wish were repeat offenders or have plans on the books to make them repeat offenders. I was assaulted once. I've tested for STIs 6 times. I've bought 5 new dildos and an uncounted number of impact tools, butt plugs, and slutty outfit pieces.
After hovering near the edges of kink my whole adult life, i've jumped in with both feet. same for polyamory; spouse and i have been open for a while but i was not pursuing casual sex or kink until this summer. it has really opened my eyes to a lot about myself and about how my relationships tend to go, and there are things i can observe about myself and others that i couldn't before. i'm still learning all the time. the way power exchange dynamics are hot has really sunk in and unlocked an understanding and interest in many kinks I wasn't into before or wasn't sure about (chastity, pup play, piss, body odor, incest fantasies), and has also helped me understand my desires as a sadist.
I feel most proud of how much more confident I am after the last few months. I still have regular and devastating anxiety and self-esteem crises, of course, but going to fuck a lot of strangers, sometimes in public and in strange and unfamiliar locations, has really reduced my general anxiety just by repeated exposure and practice. I also understand myself better and am not afraid to talk about being a sadist and how much hurting people turns me on. I have a better understanding of my marriage and spouse, i have a better understanding of friendships and the kinds of boundaries that hold firm or fray . I have learned a lot about my deepest fears and desires. i want to bite everyone.
some stuff i want to leave behind this year, w practice: discreet and dl hookups; any cis het man that says "i'm exploring my sexuality" and wants me to peg them; chasing partners who aren't matching energy
some stuff i want to do more of in 2025: BIRD RULES (see
here); figure out more strategies for managing jealousy; make more erotica/porn art an additional thought: i also have a core group of lovers and friends rn that i like talking to and i feel like there have been days where like. normally i would become very insecure and upset w spouse because i was feeling disconnected. like i'm actually starting to have days where i am actually getting social/emotional needs FILLED and i am able to avoid the big insecurity meltdowns with spouse. like. polyamory working as intended towards the original goal!! waowwowow