Strange things women do/have/endure - That guys wouldn’t know about

[anliteralidiot]

Shithead men telling us that we have to "make babies" all the time.. while they simultaneously hate their mothers, hate their wives, hate "mommy bodies", hate spending time with, or money on, their own kids.

And hate women for having sex, and refuse to acknowledge that it takes two people to even make a baby...

 

[Roast Chicken]

Yesterday evening I passed a pea-sized clot into my pad with a disgusting stringy trail on it after a day of intermittent fist-squeezing-your-uterus cramps, then I tried to sleep, still with cramps, got up to go to toilet, felt the urge to shit which can be a very confusing sensation when you also have period cramps and I ended up feeling very hot and nauseous, dry-wretched a few times, successfully shat at least and went back to bed.

THEN I got up again because I wasn't sure I was done; uterus decided it wanted to bully my bladder as well as my colon. Then after about 10 minutes of sitting on the toilet after I got up I was hit with very painful cramps that had me doubled over next to the bed. Finally managed to get to sleep after the kvetching organ ended its tantrum.

My periods are normally smooth sailing compared to other women but that was truly rubbish. Hope it's a one-off.

 

[Brenda Holiday]

Periods has to be the number one thing. Couple months ago I had to leave work early, made the excuse I must've caught the stomach bug that was going around. It was actually because of my period. Felt so weak and like a failure until I realized if a man suddenly felt the pain I was feeling he'd be going to the hospital, yet women are expected to work through this horrible pain, and act like everything is normal too.

 

[Jaws Of Hell]

Sexual assault endorsed by family (esp. female relatives). This is a hard one to talk about, I only opened up to my therapist of many years in mid 2024.

Spoiler

I had a tard distant relative (I think he died), idk what he had, maybe some kind of palsy? He was always in a wheelchair, coudn't move his arms and hands very well and drooled a lot and his eyes pointed to different directions. He was maybe 20 years older than me. I didn't see him many times because like I said he was a distant relative.

One of the few times I saw him was at a family gathering. I was around 14. I arrive and my mom and grandma take me around the house to say hi to everyone, people I never met before or since. Then we go inside the house and this guy is in a room by himself. They tell me to go and talk to him, say hi. I'm kinda uncomfy bc he's visibly disabled and I'm a kid. Then they tell me to sit on his lap. Weird but... ok? They leave. I think they left the door open, I can't fully remember this detail.

He starts touching my body, running his arms and hands over my arms, torso and breasts, lightly bc he doesn't have much strength. I just freeze up. He's a tard, he doesn't know what he's doing right? I should pity him. Poor guy, doesn't have much control over his body. He's got one eye looking at me and he's drooling. I want to leave but I don't want to be called insensitive or perverted for seeing malice in his perfectly normal tard behavior. Then I feel his hard on under my leg. That was the first time i felt a man's erection. I get up immediately and run away. Idk how long that was, 5 minutes, 30, no idea.

I run to my mom and grandma and tell them what happened. They look at each other with this pitying look and tell me I should have let him, because he's never going to have an opportunity like this.

I should let this tard molest me because as a male he's entitled to the body of a woman no matter what. That was devastating. I barely spoke the whole night. Never brought up this subject again because it was so embarrassing. No one was on my side, no one defended me, in fact, the women closest to me made it happen. It's fucking surreal.

That wasn't the first or last time I was groped by a male relative of course and it wasn't the only time I was dismissed for being upset, but it was different.

This memory doesn't pop up often, thankfully, but I'm laying in bed thinking about things rn and it did, and I needed to vent.

 

[lego racers]

They look at each other with this pitying look and tell me I should have let him, because he's never going to have an opportunity like this.

horrifically evil and negligently dumb. they lack not just a maternal instinct to protect and nurture, but basic human empathy. i hope for your sake you're no contact with them, and that your path to healing is smooth.

 

[Jaws Of Hell]

horrifically evil and negligently dumb. they lack not just a maternal instinct to protect and nurture, but basic human empathy. i hope for your sake you're no contact with them, and that your path to healing is smooth.

Nah, I'm visiting them rn lol. Maybe I should go nc, but I feel an insane level of guilt over distancing myself. I think that's another topic for this thread: guilt over everything, including over being victimized.

 

[Mandy Stroyer]

Nah, I'm visiting them rn lol. Maybe I should go nc, but I feel an insane level of guilt over distancing myself. I think that's another topic for this thread: guilt over everything, including over being victimized.

It does seem like a uniquely female thing to feel guilt over being victimized. It is something I struggle with too, not going NC but for not fighting harder to make it known someone was dangerous and them going on to hurt more people. I was a child though and the adults did know, so it was out of my hands and the blame is on them and the boy/man they let get away with it. I imagine you weren't the only one they pressured or ignored.

Spoiler: Spoiler

I used to feel guilty about NC with my sister until I tried to discuss it and immediately got dismissed or had excuses thrown at me. It doesn't help I am mentally ill, which presented years after it started. I was very cognizant and had plenty of evidence that she and my mom got rid of, admitted to getting rid of, and that I have evidence of them getting rid of the evidence because I was sick of being gaslit about it. They feel no remorse running defense for him and anyone who finds out is either told it's a lie or that he's "special needs", he's not. I feel no remorse telling everyone they're protecting a pedophile who has three different victims to my knowledge, all incidents they swept under the rug, and that's why I don't speak to them.

 

[Hubelublub]

It does seem like a uniquely female thing to feel guilt over being victimized

Women are more likely to have an internal locus of control, so it's natural that when something goes wrong, our first instinct is to look to ourselves and our own actions to see what our part was and how we can change to avoid it for next time.

Men tend to have an external locus of control, which means everything is someone else's doing. Combined with natural male arrogance makes for a deadly combination. Very deadly. Reject a man, and he may just kill you, because there's nothing wrong with him or anything he does, so you must be at fault.

If you're really unlucky, you're also surrounded by crabs in a bucket women, who, because they don't have the wherewithal to speak up for themselves, want to quash your self advocacy.

All of these factors combine to make it very hard for women to speak up and point the finger when they are victimised. Our natural tendencies are to blame ourselves foremost, and the incentives from men mean that speaking up can have life ending consequences.

 

[Major]

Has anyone posted this guy walking around in drag getting creeped on by men?

He's not a tranny, just dresses as a woman for views basically. It's quite eye opening.

 

[NoReturn]

Has anyone posted this guy walking around in drag getting creeped on by men?

He's not a tranny, just dresses as a woman for views basically. It's quite eye opening.

The girls around 20:50 were on top of things. You can spot them first 19:43.

 

[Hubelublub]

The girls around 20:50 were on top of things. You can spot them first 19:43.
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Things women have to endure is constantly looking out for other women, even complete strangers, and then debating internally whether or not to do something, and even then what to do, while 50% of the population acts totally blasè because men really do not give a single shit about women they don't know.

 

[Jhonson the Two]

Younger kiwis maybe don't remember but the "blue waffle" joke came from a real illness some women endure on their genitals because of extreme hormonal imbalance.
I'm not good enough to explain but Med school Insider made a video on it.

 

[necross]

Sexual assault endorsed by family (esp. female relatives). This is a hard one to talk about, I only opened up to my therapist of many years in mid 2024.

God this one was a downer to read, my condolences. Nobody should ever have to go through that and that your family even said you should've let him abuse you is INSANE. These things scar you for a lifetime but I hope you're doing better, kiwisister I respect your strength in sharing your experience.
It's terrifying to think how common it is for relatives to sweep these cases under the rug, it also happened to me except it wasn't by a relative.

Spoiler

I was 10 when I was accepted by a private art teacher. He was the grandfather of a classmate of mine I was close with so they arranged I go to his classes free of charge because I had talent in his eyes. Unfortunately, it didn't take long until his true intentions were revealed. Every time we were alone in a room he'd touch me inappropriately. The first time it happened I just shook it off as a slip of the hand but it kept happening. I'd learn to ALWAYS avoid being alone with him by tagging my sister along or following the other kids when they go to the bathroom...But there were times when I was stuck and had to endure it by dissociating. I wanted to stop going to his classes but my parents considered him a saint for letting me study for free (we were poor) and wouldn't let me because I'd be missing out on a future career. Eventually one summer the teacher went TOO FAR, it wasn't just groping anymore and it made me realize that if I didn't get out of there one day he might actually rape me. What's worse is it happened in the middle of the day, with my sister and other classmates in a nearby room. When I came back to draw with them I had to pretend nothing happened despite being pale and stuttering from shock. That night I told my sister what happened and she helped me cut ties with him, often arguing with my parents. To this day they still shit on her for it but she's my hero.
It took 3 years until I got the courage to tell my mom and she told me that "Men are just like that. It happens." and that I shouldn't tell my dad about this. Because of those 4 years I spent under that teacher I had nightmares and PTSD that I couldn't sit in the same room with an older man without crying or hurrying out of there, even if it was my dad for a good year. Didn't even get therapy for it because I couldn't come out about my abuse to anyone else since then. The comment about men made me distrusting and distant of every guy I met until I grew up and managed to heal some on my own and get a few male friends I trust. I still want to believe men aren't all like that but it's very bleak with how a lot of them act nowadays. I feel like a lot of them don't realize the sheer number of women who have to live with trauma of sexual abuse; it's so depressingly common that a lot of them internalize it and this cycle repeats.

 

[invisibult plus+]

Sexual assault endorsed by family (esp. female relatives).

It's terrifying to think how common it is for relatives to sweep these cases under the rug, it also happened to me except it wasn't by a relative.

I’m sorry that happened to both of you, especially since your families enabled it. It’s egregious because they were supposed to protect you. I hope you’re in a better place now.

 

[necross]

I’m sorry that happened to both of you, especially since your families enabled it. It’s egregious because they were supposed to protect you. I hope you’re in a better place now.

Thank you kiwifriend Though I've lost some of my prominent years due to this I can say I'm doing tons better now as an adult having met good people I can trust wholeheartedly.

Spoiler

Sadly even if my family protected me and got the legal system involved, it would be even more of a shitshow. What makes pedophiles especially evil is that they often know what they're doing when they prey on kids.

Being young I didn't know what the law involved; whether my family had the money for court or how I'd prove my case, as there were no witnesses or any solid evidence of sexual misconduct since the fucker made sure of it. It didn't help the classmate I was close with was a sweet girl and didn't deserve to have her life ruined by her grandfather being outed as a pedophile, only to get jailed for a little while (judging by similar cases in my country): especially since he was VERY well known locally. Considering how poorly I was treated at school I also feared I was going to get bullied and accused of lying about it for attention. I felt so terrified and guilty that to me it sounded best to just get out of there and forget it ever happened. As an adult, I can't do much about it now considering the man is dead, and afaik there's a statute of limitations on these cases.

I still love my parents as they were always very caring of me, knowing my dad would beat the fucker to death if he knew and my sister did her best to be there for me despite also being young at the time. As for my mom, she sounded like she went through something similar and internalized it as result as a general bias against men, since she didn't blame me and felt bad I didn't tell her sooner...otherwise she would have immediately cut ties with him for my sake. I guess she just didn't want to burden my dad with guilt knowing he couldn't protect his daughter in time and was also unsure of bringing it to the police considering it's been years since it happened by then.

These things are complex and difficult to talk about as result. What's sad is I've heard a lot of stories of both women & men going through similar cases and only speaking out years later. Sexual abuse is fucked up for that reason because it's more often done by someone you were supposed to trust.

 

[Narr Then]

Nothing, really. Unless you're willing to knack yourself to please a bloke, then nothing is off the table

What do you do to please a woman (except for washing your knob, which *should* be a given)

Weird Q tho innart

(not getting into abuse stories, we'll be ere all night and end up smashing the world to bits lol (peculiar, not haha))

 

[2mm and 99 others]

What I don't get, is how even one's parents see their quiet pre-teen kid (speaking generally now, not about anyone particular) who visibly flinches every time a man touches them, wears some baggy hoodie, stares at owns shoes when talked to, and then they think the kid is doing pretty much anything, let alone making up stories of sexual assault, for attention. The kind of attention that would make others ask very private and sometimes inappropriate questions.

Where's the source material or a precedent of the premise, that schoolgirls tend to make sexual assault stories up for...well, why even?
I know some kids make up lies, but those are more likely made with the intention to harm some other kid, not a figure of authority (whose boots they lick).

 

[Mandy Stroyer]

quiet pre-teen kid (speaking generally now, not about anyone particular) who visibly flinches every time a man touches them, wears some baggy hoodie, stares at owns shoes when talked to

A good chunk of pre-teens are like that. That's part of the issue. This abuse is common, not even just among teachers, relatives, family friends, pastors, but other students whether they're older or not. I'd leave middle school for the day after hours of dodging being groped in the hall just to get cat called and offered a ride from some guy in his car on the walk home. Of course I'd be moody, not talkative, and want to make myself as unappealing as possible. Temperamental, hostile pre-teen girls are never taken seriously because it's seen as normal. Just a few years ago you were a sweet kid picking dandelions and playing with your dolls, what happened? Likely sexual assault/abuse. But no, it's just hormones and cliques and boy bands putting you through the wringer so it's dumb and annoying and a burden on everyone else and you need to just get over it. You're probably on your period anyway.

Looking back on a good half of the girls who bullied me, I would not at all be surprised if they had been sexually assaulted or abused as well during their elementary-middle school years. Girls who once sat with me to color were suddenly lashing out violently at everyone. That is not normal. I watched an unrelated video earlier today but a quote from an article mentioned in it reminds me of this.

But they also imply that what she calls "unacceptable behaviour" could never be a legitimate protest. She often describes raging children as "having a laugh", but they seldom look very happy to me. Isn't she curious about the reasons why?

Where's the source material or a precedent of the premise, that schoolgirls tend to make sexual assault stories up for...well, why even?

Men who want to get away with abusing schoolgirls.

 

[Cane Skretteburg]

Nothing, really. Unless you're willing to knack yourself to please a bloke, then nothing is off the table

What do you do to please a woman (except for washing your knob, which *should* be a given)

Weird Q tho innart

(not getting into abuse stories, we'll be ere all night and end up smashing the world to bits lol (peculiar, not haha))

Unfathomably br*tish

 

[Meiwaku]

I have never in my life met a woman who has not known another woman on a personal, intimate level that has been raped or sexually assaulted or who she herself has not been inappropriately dealt with sexually (even if not the full deal)

Every woman knows one.