Kelly Lenza / LividLipids / softbodytendermind / ass_child / photopotamus - "Radical body liberationist”, Intentionally Repulsive, Uber woke middle-aged SJW influencer wannabe, doxed her former therapist for getting WLS, ate her way to heart failure

[GloriousScarf]

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this whole past year i was depressed and kinda like. in a cocoon trying to break free. and i started to break free in aug fuckin around and getting into kink. starting t in oct.
looking for more resources for my high support needs kids and finding basically jack shit is available. i am the main one doing medication, health, school management for the kids plus managing the house and all our dumb services. i take care of all meals mostly. i clean and tidy and shit. i have been taking care of 4 disabled ppl (including myself) for ten years and i am burned out and just like. all the docs and therapists and everything in everyone's care teams is like, have you looked for this, looked into that, how about this program. we make too much money to qualify for most services and we make enough money to share with friends and family and buy stupid shit but not enough money to pay for private services. most of the services my kid would qualify for have waitlists that are literally like. 2-4 years so like we're on the waitlists but

the old plan was like, i get to start my life again after both kids start school so like 5-7 years of being fulltime mom then go back to some kind of work. and like that hasn't happened because they needed different shit and it's like round the clock care garbage. so like i still have to find a way to take care of myself enough and enjoy life enough to want to keep living it and caring for my fam. i love them desperately but like they are really hard ppl to live with rn.

kids are really pissed at me for starting to get out of the house once or twice a week, they are pissed and unhappy that i have started to tell them that the way they're talking to me isn't okay and i'm walking away if they keep being rude to me. the kids misgender me and i'm starting to correct them and they are mad about that. I'm being a hardass about making them clean up their messes and doing self-care tasks

i had my psychiatrist appt tiday and she's like have you tried this service? that one? and i'm like yes. like everyone asks the same stupid questions like i haven't been trying to get help for literal years this doesn't even get into all of it. family of origin struggles, CPTSD and trauma therapy for four years, boom and bust financial cycles. i know you're not supposed to mention the stalkers and trolls, but yeah y'all of course it is a huge mental health burden to know there are people very personally invested in you dying, losing civil rights, calling and leaving threatening voicemails, doxxing your kids. when it comes up people are always absolutely horrified that people do this shit to me and others and they are convinced there is something that can "be done" about it. there really isn't. and anyway everyone with power wants fat trans queers like me dead anyway. what's the point of running or hiding how i feel or what's up with me, good or bad, on social media or with ppl i actually care about?
anyway i am just like. done. i have been telling jerry every month the past year i can't keep living like this but like he's been chronically depressed and is disabled too and really relied on me covering everything he couldn't. and like, it's a not a one-person job. i am going to take my fuckin t and do my fuckin kink and have hobbies again and rest myself so i don't fucking keel over and die or start cutting again cuz like nobody else can step up and do it for me.

TLDR: her kids misgender her, the kids and Jerry are hard to be around, she has done her part in raising them now is putting herself first.

I'm sure if what she is saying is true, it would be hard to do all that by yourself. But the solution isn't to ignore the family and go out fucking around multiple times a week, that's not going to solve anything.

 

[Breadbear]

i am the main one doing medication, health, school management for the kids plus managing the house and all our dumb services. i take care of all meals mostly. i clean and tidy and shit. i have been taking care of 4 disabled ppl (including myself) for ten years and i am burned out

In which Kelly discovers that parenting is hard work, and that stay-at-home mothers and wives actually do things.
She's almost relatable, then she says shit like... Well, everything else here.

Also:

it is a huge mental health burden to know there are people very personally invested in you dying, losing civil rights, calling and leaving threatening voicemails, doxxing your kids.

Just to be clear... None of this is us, we just collect publicly available information or information that she put out herself and paste it together. And make fun of it.

 

[LonesomeDud]

Who all is invested in Kelly losing civil rights?

Who all posted Kelly's kids naked on the internet?

I'm going to come down on the kid's side on this one. Kelly does not work. Jerry and the girls work and go to school. Kelly leaves them to have sex with strangers. I think Kelly should make the girls' beds and clean their rooms and do some acts of service for them if she has so much energy and needs to leave them twice a week for hooking up.

You wanted these children, Kelly. Children don't ask to be born. Go raise them, or don't be surprised when your nArC cHiLdReN block your number in a decade and don't put up with your BS just like your mom didn't when you were a young adult.

 

[Zemblan Physics]

Had she (and Jerry, through being distant) not been 100 % dysfunctional as parents I don’t think those kids would have had this level of special needs. Far be it from me, usually, to put blame on struggling parents, but holy shit, Kelly - what do you expect when you don’t even give your kids basic socialization and when their adult female role model is a whining, self-centered narc who weaponizes imaginary disabilities?

I know a guy who grew up in a cult. He was subjected to abuse, there was no socialization, parents were obviously bonkers and he was homeschooled with his siblings. This guy has the social graces of a severe autist but does not, in fact, have autism. The girls make me think of him. It makes me both MATI and genuinely sad.

 

[Free the Pedos]

I’m sympathetic to her to an extent because taking care of disabled kids sucks I know because I work with them, and parents often get a lot of the same useless info before they find good sources. It’s bullshit that medicare waivers are so hard to get. But I agree that her kids wouldn’t need this much support if it weren’t for their shitty parents.

I’m also slightly suspicious that she wants a much higher level of care than her kids really need. They don’t need an in home nurse to help with the things she listed. I wonder if she was hoping someone would pay for a lot more services than is strictly necessary to make her life easier. Also, all of this would be easier if she weren’t carrying an extra 300 lbs.

 

[Spicy Meatball]

Kelly: “I have to engage in dangerous, self-destructive activities (sex with randos and T injections), or I’ll cut myself”. If anyone wasn’t already 100% convinced this woman is Borderline and absolutely ruining her children, here it is. I’m sure they’d have far fewer needs (and not be obese) if they’d been raised from birth by different, better parents. The T1D can’t be helped, but the behavioral problems are due to their negligent upbringing.

 

[Ass Dan]

She's almost relatable, then she says shit like... Well, everything else here.

This is precisely the reason Kelly is so maddening. It's like... yes. Parenting is hard work that requires constant self-sacrifice, and you do have to make an effort to carve out time and energy to fill your own cup. I'm a mom too and I get that. But this doesn't mean openly resenting the children you created and fostering an adversarial relationship with them. They shouldn't be viewed and treated like obstacles to you living your true happiness. That is what she's doing, and it's guaranteed to perpetuate the harmful cycles of dysfunction that she is always complaining about with her own family of origin. I find it impossible to believe that none of her therapists or healthcare providers have called her out on this.

 

[Friend of Dorothy Parker]

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It's not YOU; it's the entire world bc the world does not change to make (literal) room for YOU. I know it's Kelly, and I know this is a cow hallmark, but DAMN the absolute maladjusted cheek.

And I truly can't wait for furry everything to die.

I think it's likely him not wanting to pay for alimony, for the cost of a divorce, and the lawyer costs he might need to get full custody (even though I think he wouldn't have any trouble getting full custody). I think he's lazy and complacent enough about the situation that, as grim as it feels, he's honestly just rather wait for Kelly to die naturally and then start his new life. If he's worried about having to pay alimony anyway, it's probably cheaper for him to just support her in his house and mentally check out in the mean time.

Why does anyone think he would want full custody?

And alimony's not a given. Does she earn at all?

But I've known a number of people who stayed in dead/ disordered/ unhappy/ weird/ dishonest marriages Just Because. Bc they don't want the hassle, for social standing, bc you just don't divorce, bc they hope for better, bc it's cheaper, bc they get the best of both worlds - all the approved trappings and all the freedom to go and live as they want otherwise (including affairs with an ironclad "out".).

 

[autogynephobia]

Being scolded by your mom, the WOMAN who conceived, gestated, birthed, and nursed you, for "misgendering" her is such an abusive mindfuck.

 

[Griffpants]

There's always a chance he just doesn't give a shit, that he's happy enough with his job, hobbies, and friends that he doesn't care one way or the other about his household. As long as he has some spending money and viddy games, he's good.

Why does anyone think he would want full custody?

This. I've seen no indication in 600+ pages of this thread that Jerry is any less useless of a parent than Kelly is. The poor kids are fucked no matter what happens vis-a-vis divorce/custody arrangements/etc.

I'm going to come down on the kid's side on this one. Kelly does not work. Jerry and the girls work and go to school. Kelly leaves them to have sex with strangers. I think Kelly should make the girls' beds and clean their rooms and do some acts of service for them if she has so much energy and needs to leave them twice a week for hooking up.

I have zero sympathy for stay-at-home moms like Kelly who whine all the time about how exhausted they are. It's not like she's some trad wife making homemade flour. This is YOUR JOB, bitch. If you don't want to do it, get a job outside the home and help pay for a nanny.

 

[a hapless toad]

I'm just sat here with my jaw on the floor. Like I can't even come up with anything coherent to say.

I can't remember the last time I saw such narcissistic horrid fuckshit like that.

You're their MOTHER, you toxic selfish piece of shit.

Honestly I hope she dies, and soon, because those girls will be better off without her black hole of a personality in their life.

And yes hats. All of them. I'm furious.

 

[Plantation Barbie]

the kids misgender me and i'm starting to correct them and they are mad about that.

You are their MOTHER Kelly.
And they are well within their rights to call you that.

 

[Mall Goth]

Those kids are gonna call her a lot worse than female when they get old enough to comprehend how badly Kelly and Jerry have fucked them over by being neglectful, selfish parents. If she thinks they're sassy and disrespectful to her now just wait until they hit their teenage years.

 

[DefCon Dumb]

I’m glad she doesn’t post full length whines more often and I’m glad I’d eaten hours ago because if not, I’d be puking with rage.

Let’s be fair; very few first time parents have any idea how hard parenting is even if they have the money for a lot of hired help.

Babies and very young kids are chronic bundles of need and will make your life miserable if those needs aren’t fulfilled. That’s as it should be; those behaviours are essential for survival. Those behaviours are guaranteed to produce endless hours of grungy work. Nobody likes dealing with dirty diapers, puke or a 3 year old having a very screamy melt down in public. But most rightly see that as the parent it’s your job to deal and often you’ll be dealing through gritted teeth, trying not to cry.

First one tougher than expected? Don’t have a second. Don’t make the mistake of thinking very young ones can be raised as free range children and do well. Most kids need sensible routines and limits. If nothing else, it gives them things to challenge as their personalities develop.

I don’t know her or her family but feel comfortable in thinking the kids’ behavioural issues are entirely the fault of disengaged, indifferent parents.

And now Kelly is trying to change that for her convenience? The worst of it; she’s unhappy because they’re MISGENDERING her?

Don’t want to ruin the rest of my evening so I’ll zip it here save to say one last thing. I’m nastily, smugly happy that Kelly is having a hard time but my heart aches for 2 very small kids who don’t know if they’re coming or going.

 

[stupid frog]

the kids misgender me and i'm starting to correct them and they are mad about that.

Good. Fuck you, Kelly.

 

[Berserker Armor]

anyway i am just like. done.

Annnnd here comes the downward spiral speed running itself. Who knows what’s gonna happen from here..

 

[VinegarPussy]

I’m sure they’d have far fewer needs (and not be obese) if they’d been raised from birth by different, better parents wolves, as in Rudyard Kipling’s classic The Jungle Book. At least Mowgli had consistent love, discipline, nutrition and structure.

FTFY

 

[Otterly]

e round the clock care garbage. so like i still have to find a way to take care of myself enough and enjoy life enough to want to keep living it and caring for my fam. i love them desperately but like they are really hard ppl to live with rn.

They don’t need more round the clock care than any other kids. One has T1 diabetes, that’s one notch up in the anxiety scale for sure but it’s not like they’re wheelchair bounds and require full toileting care or anything. She has two children entering teen years, they’re not toddlers or babies requiring an eye on them 24/7. They are at school most of the week day anyway.

The girls are sassing her and misgendering her and she’s having a narc rage moment because it bursts her bubble.
She’s an absolute disgrace. Those poor girls. They should be happy and carefree and growing up with minor worries like hairdos, homework and school pettiness, not a father who has checked out and a mother who sees them as an inconvenient block to getting laid and performative perversion. She doesn’t work! She has all the time the girls are at school to clean the house, cook decent meals for them to manage their diets and do house stuff.

 

[Breadbear]

They don’t need more round the clock care than any other kids. One has T1 diabetes, that’s one notch up in the anxiety scale for sure but it’s not like they’re wheelchair bounds and require full toileting care or anything. She has two children entering teen years, they’re not toddlers or babies requiring an eye on them 24/7. They are at school most of the week day anyway.

The girls are sassing her and misgendering her and she’s having a narc rage moment because it bursts her bubble.
She’s an absolute disgrace. Those poor girls. They should be happy and carefree and growing up with minor worries like hairdos, homework and school pettiness, not a father who has checked out and a mother who sees them as an inconvenient block to getting laid and performative perversion. She doesn’t work! She has all the time the girls are at school to clean the house, cook decent meals for them to manage their diets and do house stuff.

At least one of them is homeschooled.

 

[stupid frog]

Waiting patiently for Kelly's response to Trump.