Off-Topic Losing people to transgenderism support thread - Support group for trans widows and other people who lost loved ones to troonism

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She's always been a bit funny about her gender and dislikes the feminine aspects of her body. I'm not aggressive with it, but I do send her funny anti-tranny memes and she always gets a chuckle out of them. I emphasise her beauty and femininity when I can.
If you have to work in any way to emphasize she's female just to support her self-image, you've lost the battle. You're getting sucked into a black hole that's going to eat you alive.

My best advice to you is to not dance around it. Talk to her seriously. Get to the point. And if she's in any way waffling, leave.

I’ve known he was faggy for years and he never told me, mainly because he’s a retard and can’t hide anything to save his life, but I just knew something was off this time.
I'm not convinced that you failed, more than fell marginally short (people ultimately make their own choices), however, there's a general theme I'm seeing in this thread, and that is: people don't seem to be direct about this shit.

And I think we've been trained that way by the general feeling surrounding troons, but most of the problems I've been seeing in this thread lately would be alleviated - at the very least to relieve some consciences - by putting it out there that being trans is in no way acceptable. Be direct, be honest. If you're someone they respect or claim to respect, tell them you're sorely disappointed in this turn in their personality, that you're not going to support this, and that you will in no way acknowledge their new gender because it's not real and the effect of too much consumption of bad influences, and that this is a vicious cycle of depression, co-dependence and an unhealthy amount of medical interventions. Let them know you will help them out to get away from those influences to lead a happy and more fulfilling life if that's what they choose, but that they're on their own if they go that route, and that you'll convince anyone else in their orbit to feel the same way, as you would with any addict.

That may lead them further down this path, but be resolute and stoic. No screaming or crying. Make yourself as the sensible adult. The one that won't be shaken by emotional blackmail or special pleading. But draw the fucking line, and hold it.
 
as you would with any addict.

That's actually a perfect comparison when it comes to troons and loved ones.

The addict falls in to a bad crowd or has mental issues, gets hooked on drug, loved ones don't wanna hurt them or cause issues so they feed the addiction.

But in this case, the addict is a troon, the bad crowd/issues/drugs are Discord/Roblox/AGP, and feeding the addiction is playing along with the delusions and buying them dresses.

At some point, the addict needs cut from your life if there's no fixing them. They'll either love rock bottom or die on their way there. I won't even be surprised if TLC starts Intervention back up again but with troons at some point.
 
Sorry for the double post but he later came out in a full dress, my parents told him to BTFO and move out if he’s pissed, and he started screaming and crying and threatened to call the cops.

:story::story::story:

From a terrible circumstance to my own personal lolcow. What a couple of days.

:sighduck::sighduck::sighduck:
My heart goes out to you. I'm really glad to hear your parents are on a similar page to you and hopefully you are able to support each other, but what an awful thing to have to have to go through.
 
Meanwhile. the trans refugee pooner in my life is now working at a children's clinic and posting the usual fears of conservatives out to kill her despite now living in one of the bluest states in the country. Pronouns are still he/they. She recently posted a selfie and despite taking T for over two years to my understanding, she looks exactly like she did when I last saw her in real life, only slightly more gaunt. She also has changed her current name to be the initials of her birth and trans names. She has one of the most extreme lack of selves that I have seen in a pooner, as she's always changing her name, religion, gender, etc. A swing back to her very feminine birth name, even by initial, is intriguing. Not getting my hopes up, though. I will simply observe from afar like I do most of the other pooners I've known to see how it goes.

So I just saw that she announced on social media that she's been off testosterone for months. Of course she still sees this as her being spared immediate fallout from Trump's latest EO about there only being two sexes. Oh, and her condolences for the people that will not just be seen as an uber masculine women like she will be (note: she still looks like as feminine as ever despite the T and top surgery in photos; she barely even grew pcos level chin hair nine months after starting T). Definitely trapped in the cult, but yet another shift towards detrans that I had been expecting for awhile. Not that that in itself is a victory, as I've mentioned before and above. Intriguing all the same.
 
Alas, it happened. "Troons envy me bro lmao" faggot friend trooned out and not a day later one of his xissies killed themselves. Not a wake-up call to him though, obviously. He always chased bbc and zippertits exclusively, but with the rise of Barq it's no exaggeration to say that enabled him. Suddenly he was at parties non-stop, living in fucking bumfuck nowhere, and becoming the third wheel plaything of an actual straight couple.

His taste in furry art was always very female coded. Hyper-detailed, 2 rows of nipples, breeding type shit. Which I guess is why he attracted so many zippertits. Yknow, women. Who like female enticing art, such as his.
My heart goes out to you. I'm really glad to hear your parents are on a similar page to you and hopefully you are able to support each other, but what an awful thing to have to have to go through.
"Theyre gonna put your real name on your gravestone"
 
My friend sent me a bunch of very obvious troll "TERF" posts he was outraged over.

I told him that I do not wish to discuss trans issues with him anymore, but I was vague with why. Hopefully the boundary is respected. Though I've grown to think even less of him after discovering he is skinwalking "Finnster" and their ex. I'm torn between holding out hope that he'll eventually snap out of this, the way I snapped out of cult-like leftist views, or just avoiding him completely and not speak to him.

Though, part of me wonders what he'll come out as next.
 
Small update from my post about a month ago now

He's crossed the troonbicon fully now. Some friends sent me some posts of his and it's not pretty. He's decided to take offense to me distancing myself from him when he attempted to come onto me sexually, despite my protests that I had recently gotten into a relationship.

He's decided to adopt several of my current girlfriend's mannerisms and style, with his new name being her name but spelled slightly differently (pronounced the same). He's been doing this weird exhibitionism shit where he's walking around town like a retard claiming people are trying to hunt him down and he's also done one good thing, decided to leave his poor folks alone because he made a big song and dance about housing security when they threatened to kick him out.

Part of me feels sad I wasn't able to talk him down but it's not my responsibility to, and quite frankly I would've never been friends with him if I had known what kind of sick freak he really was.

P.S. Excuse my spergery, I found out about this about an hour ago off a different guy I was friends with in secondary (bong highschool) who lives near to him and this is pretty much the only place in the world where I can get a sane response to this shit.
 
Also I think one of my exes is gonna poon out. To that I say lol, lmao, xD.
I have a pooner ex. I'd feel bad if she wasn't such a retard. Too bad, she was a gorgeous woman.
Small update from my post about a month ago now

He's crossed the troonbicon fully now. Some friends sent me some posts of his and it's not pretty. He's decided to take offense to me distancing myself from him when he attempted to come onto me sexually, despite my protests that I had recently gotten into a relationship.

He's decided to adopt several of my current girlfriend's mannerisms and style, with his new name being her name but spelled slightly differently (pronounced the same). He's been doing this weird exhibitionism shit where he's walking around town like a retard claiming people are trying to hunt him down and he's also done one good thing, decided to leave his poor folks alone because he made a big song and dance about housing security when they threatened to kick him out.

Part of me feels sad I wasn't able to talk him down but it's not my responsibility to, and quite frankly I would've never been friends with him if I had known what kind of sick freak he really was.

P.S. Excuse my spergery, I found out about this about an hour ago off a different guy I was friends with in secondary (bong highschool) who lives near to him and this is pretty much the only place in the world where I can get a sane response to this shit.
You should look into filing a restraining order. Your gf probably has a good case, (seems like e-stalking) but if you live in Britain, they'll probably tell you to get fucked.
 
I have a pooner ex. I'd feel bad if she wasn't such a retard. Too bad, she was a gorgeous woman.

You should look into filing a restraining order. Your gf probably has a good case, (seems like e-stalking) but if you live in Britain, they'll probably tell you to get lfucked.
Yeah. That's exactly why I haven't really brought it up with friends or family because me being stuck on this retarded island means I can probably be arrested if I tell this guy to go fuck himself and stop skin walking my girlfriend. I don't even know how the fuck he found her, since I practice proper opsec on normie social media platforms too (don't disclose relationships and the like) and I didn't even know her back when he and i were friends.

I really don't wanna give out too much info about specifics of what he's done because he seems to think the farms is after him despite the fact he's quite literally just some random fucking guy but hes fantasized about killing the People who use the forums before.

But for me before all the skinwalking shit with the other girl I mentioned in my first post on the site was the time he went into some adult section at a comic con and asked if he could keep his tranny porn comics in my bag. I said no (he also had a backpack) but I reach for my drink 20 minutes later to find he's stuffed them in there anyway.

This guy was like a brother to me and now he's been replaced by this thing. This shit sucks man.
 
Yeah. That's exactly why I haven't really brought it up with friends or family because me being stuck on this retarded island means I can probably be arrested if I tell this guy to go fuck himself and stop skin walking my girlfriend
Insanely fucked up. I feel the urge to fedpost rising. I'd say "thats what you get for being British," but no one deserves that, not even the Brits.
This guy was like a brother to me and now he's been replaced by this thing. This shit sucks man.
You're not alone dude. I lost my favorite cousin to this shit and that entire side of the family turned on me too. I wish you had the freedom to speak out and tell the disgusting tranny what you really think.
 
Hey, longtime lurker here, and I want to tell my own story about an ex friend of mine who, after becoming trans, essentially ruined the friendship I had with my old friend group from highschool and ruined any lingering doubts I had in my mind about troonery. For a name, let's call him Bob.
Bob already had a shitty lease on life: he was your stereotypical autist, with long, greasy hair, a nasal voice, exaggerated mannerism, and extreme social awkwardness. Couple that with a father who had him at fucking 55 and an apathetic, absentee mother, and you'll begin to understand what kind of guy Bob was. Because of that, he got bullied a lot in middle school, and held a lot of that resentment years after the fact. I'm not going to go into too much detail about our friendship at this point, other than that he was, at least on the surface, nothing more than your average middle schooler with autism.

Going into highschool, however, I noticed that he started acting odd. He'd paint his nails, talk more about politics, and seemed to progressively get more and more into Tumblr. This went on until covid, and that's when things really took a sharp turn to the worse. Out of nowhere, he messaged the group chat we had with our mutual friends that he was coming out as "non-binary", and wanted to go by his new name that eerily sounded like Lilith. That was a shock to me, because, up until that point, he never gave any indication that he was struggling with "gender identity". Being supportive, I thought nothing of it and decided to play along, but in hindsight I shouldn't have knowing what would happen later.

When the lockdowns finally ended, and I met up with him again, seeing Bob again was like meeting a completely different person. Motherfucker gained 30 pounds, got bitch tits and a potbelly, wore Chris Chan style clothes, shaved half his hair off the side of his head, wore a choker, and wore cat ears every day of the week. Needless to say I was shocked, and yet no one else questioned it, and all supported Bob and his "journey".

His behavior changed for the worse, too. Bob was never a totally clean guy, but I swear this motherfucker began to stink like he'd never taken a shower in his life, wearing the same set of clothes sometimes a week in a row. His vocabulary also changed, too, always inserting gross sexual remarks and always turning the conversation towards either tranny shit, politics, or Yuri anime. The craziest thing about this was the complete apathy on the side of my friends. I was always the more right leaning person in our friend group, but even still I was surprised that they didn't even seem bothered by how much Bob changed and who he was now, tranny stuff not withstanding.

There was so much more embarrassing shit that happened during this time of me playing pretend with him, but the worst was him burning his own birth certificate out of spite of his parents when they, very slightly, showed signs of pushback on his choice of training out.

What finally did it in for me was when he threatened suicide and was committed to a psych ward. I never learned why he was committed, but after meeting up back with him and trying to learn why he did it and to try and offer my sympathies, his response was to say that I could never understand his pain as I was "a straight white male" and that I should just be a "supporting friend" and essentially kiss his ass. What sucked even more was the fact that our friends sided with him, and basically told me that I was being an asshole for not being accepting enough and not just blindly supporting Bob and his trans identity.

After that, I threw my hands up, and never looked back. For a few years after graduating highschool, I still had Bob as a friend on Steam, and saw that all he did with his time was play lesbian dating sims. After a while I just unfriended him, and now I have no idea what he could be doing.
 
Insanely fucked up. I feel the urge to fedpost rising. I'd say "thats what you get for being British," but no one deserves that, not even the Brits.

You're not alone dude. I lost my favorite cousin to this shit and that entire side of the family turned on me too. I wish you had the freedom to speak out and tell the disgusting tranny what you really think.
It's insane how much power they have on speech over here. I'm not from Ingerland (I probably would've roped if that were the case) but it applies to the other countries too.

He lives far away now so luckily I don't have to deal with him much anymore but the whole experience left me really socially stunted as he demanded we walk on eggshells for like 2 years. I wish I peaked earlier than I did
 
he had a strange affinity for pirates
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Right there right there.

But in all seriousness, sorry about your friend. Don't blame yourself, you can't help/stop other people from making their own decisions. It's their choice at the end of it all.
 
its depressing seeing him be in such denial, being like "no no this is it, this is all the answer, oh if only my mom will see me as who I am".
He has actual psychosis, and not to PL but I dealt with psychosis too. You dont know... Until you know. Until its over. Until you "wake up". if you ever wake up.
And to me thats horrifying.
Hes gonna wake up, and its going to be too late. Some of his friends already killed themselves and in his fucked up mind all it is is just reinforcement for his beliefs. Like I get it though, its hard to accept that your friends killed themself over something like this. It would feel like betraying them in a way if you were to go back on these beliefs. But if anything, its betrayal to act like they died due to society. To call their last moments of pure human suffering "trans joy".

There are people who get trafficked, people who are abused and treated as slaves, veterans, nurses who have to witness the most traumatizing medical shit, etc who all have a lower suicide rate. Youre telling me that you, a crossdressing man, have it harder because society... what? What doesnt society do, exsctly? Oh they think you look weird? Ah okay, they think a lot of people look weird. Oh they wont give you your hormones? Well they do, they gave it out freely for years despite the harm. Oh what about trans kids? I dunno man, gotta ask yourself- why does every major mainstream corporation support it to the point the US President at the time was talking about? Despite no science regarding it. Oh you cant join womens sports? Yeah because you are a biological male that will be putting biological females in danger. I cant inject T for a couple years and be like "welp! Time to go compete against men", they tried that lol, a whole trans sports team full of pooners, they all lost.

Theres no genocide camps, theres nothintg. I guess I should follow the advice on here and treat this dude like hes already dead, hes too far gone mentally at this point.
Whats crazy is that he literally only got into this stuff due to sissy/trap femboy porn, I am not joking. LITERALLY due to porn. And now hes one of those people who unironically obsess over magical girls and shit and is connected with other likeminded losertards talking about "magic" and whatnot, even changed his last name into something relating to it.
He doesnt pass at all. In any way. And will never pass. Neither does a lot of his "friends" who he thinks pass, and people he compares himself to. He looks like a 50yr old crossdressing prostistute despite being in his early 20s.

Im sorry man Im just so frustrated, its like seeing someone trying to look for something and they keep wallking past the thing they are looking for yet ignores anyone who tries to point out the obvious.
Ive been through more than he has, like in regaards to life in geeneral. Ive been through more and yet I am more resposnible and better off than he is despite him being raised with a privileged upbringing. So you'd think, oh I dont know- that my mere existence debunks all of his nonsense? Im literally disabled too. Hes a straight white male raised in a Christian enviorment, who went to private school, turned prison gay porn addict who pretends he is an anime girl with a bunch of overweight /anorexic trannies who do drugs and pretend to be Therians/Wiccans while all being some flavor of poly. How the hell are you caught up in all this victim-esc mentality? Jesus christ, just GROW up. For the love of God just realize the people you hang out with arent your real friends, and fucking find better ones who arent promoting self harm. They don't care about you! They like you because you enable their shitty choices!!
 
Said never-gonna-troon troon has been spamming me texts ever since his outening, replacing the odd racist 4chan meme with "Maybe I should lose weight" etc. Something melancholic in ignoring him. So easy to lean into this person who now finally texts me a lot, but I'd sooner not talk at all than reward that retarded decision of his. I genuinely believe he'll revert out of it but to think even an adult with money and hopes of a real relationship in the matter of half a year becomes a poly-pooner is nuts.
 
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