Are you lost needing femoid advice post here - For the poor bastard's who dare or are just curious

[The Stranger]

If you're a moid, be more gentle when applying your shampoo/conditioner and try some magnesium-enhanced shampoos.

I don't think I'm rough with it, just use my fingers to get the shampoo down to the scalp and massage it in and lightly swipe conditioner through the hair.

let's be real, it's 32-in-1 shampoo, conditioner, body wash, face scrub, toothpaste, toilet bowl cleaner, wood varnish, etc.

Actually, I use a water activated gel cleanser then a honey almond body scrub, and on the face an exfoliating gel scrub. Then I apply an herb mint facial mask which I leave on for 10 minutes while I prepare the rest of my routine.

 

[A Cat in a Minefield]

I don't think I'm rough with it, just use my fingers to get the shampoo down to the scalp and massage it in and lightly swipe conditioner through the hair.


Actually, I use a water activated gel cleanser then a honey almond body scrub, and on the face an exfoliating gel scrub. Then I apply an herb mint facial mask which I leave on for 10 minutes while I prepare the rest of my routine.

How long is your morning routine

 

[Big Miss Steak]

How much is a normal amount of hair to come out when shampooing & conditioning? This is the first time I've had somewhat long hair and don't know if it's normal or I'm balding

I have very thick hair and I shed like a dog. I lose nearly a fistful of hair per hair washing, and I wash my hair every 2 - 3 days. I have so much hair that the salon has told me I am not allowed to book with them past 6 PM, so that the staff can get home at a reasonable time.

Part of the reason I lose so much hair during my washings is that I don't comb/brush my hair due to its consistency, I just fluff with my hands. If you see a lot of hair come out when you brush AND you're losing a lot during your showers, could be cause for concern. Speak to your hairdresser about it, tbh.

 

[Friend of Dorothy Parker]

How long is your morning routine

(It's an American Psycho reference.)

 

[A Cat in a Minefield]

(It's an American Psycho reference.)

Oh... Thanks for letting me know. One more reason to watch that movie.

 

[Red flag]

How much is a normal amount of hair to come out when shampooing & conditioning? This is the first time I've had somewhat long hair and don't know if it's normal or I'm balding

The perception of lots of hair fall varies from person to person. It's completely normal to lose anywhere from 50 to 100 strands per day.

Do you have hair loss or hair shedding?

 

[Susanna]

Oh... Thanks for letting me know. One more reason to watch that movie.

Bateman is pretty messed up. He exfoliates four or five times in his morning routine alone.

 

[A Parroting Puppet]

I think there's more credence to @Hybrid Hubris' story than some people would believe, even if he's reading a little too deep into things. There's a subtype of tall (like, 6'4"+) gangly men who get an utterly inexplicable amount of female attention. I can only presume that some women really like tall guys.

The dudes I know who meet this criteria aren't any more likely to have long-term partners or anything, though -- you could be blessed with Adonis-tier genetics, but it doesn't mean anything if you can't figure out whether you're supposed to smile and say "hey" to a girl who sits next to you in the library.

What do you actually want out of this, OP? It doesn't seem like you're particularly interested in these girls.

Agreed. I have seen many other dudes who match more or less what you said, and I think, in hindsight, I was one of them too lol. I don't think it's particularly height. My theory is that some women really like the """allure""" of a "different man" in general. And, depending on where you live I'd say, that would be a more aloof/introverted man, in the case of a society where even the man are usually very extroverted/sociable.

Spoiler: Rambling about that

I was an extremely broody guy, and without power leveling, it was due to personal issues. Yet I'd see women doing the whole "looking at you and looking down the instant you catch on", etc etc, not gonna go on an autistic "body language analysis". I think you get the point.

So, specially after getting over myself (we will get to that) and starting talking to them, the impression I got when asking for feedback was that it was the "pattern break" for many of them. From all these dudes trying to socialize hard, or even get in their pants, and then they just see some guy who comes, does his thing and leave, was different (in this social context). Also apparently I had strong eye contact, although I didn't realize.

TL;DR: I think plenty of women love the aloof 'tists and schizotypals under certain contexts.

Of course I'm attracted to them, but with how many girls have done this to me over the years, it's become normal, so it doesn't feel special every time it happens over and over again. I'm still baffled at why they are attracted to me in the first place. As I said I'm very antisocial, so I can only conclude it is my height and my looks and nothing else. Sometimes I do like them back, but I never have the courage to go and talk to them because I know they will stop caring for me when I show my true personality, and their fantasy of me will disintegrate. I do want to do something other than autistically ignoring them, I don't think it's good for me or the girl.

As for you, if you believe I've been there, here's some brotherly slap to the back of the head:

Spoiler: Moid advice (Apologies if it breaks any rule): get over yourself

Stop with the forecasting autistic obsession retard, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. You DON'T know if they will stop caring for you when you show your "true personality" (what's that supposed to mean? you're faking your personality? if so, you have bigger problems than what their reaction will be).

And even if they do, what is the issue, exactly? Just move on. Just see it as, you two didn't have chemistry, and that's that. Or do you need their approval and attention, and if you don't get it you will feel SAD? That's faggy and egocentrical as fuck, stop taking yourself that seriously. Make your move, you perfectionist, needy cretin.

I'm assuming/hoping you're an adult, considering the rules here. As someone wise once framed it for me: mature people don't get "rejected". They have self-worth (don't need to "mask" to "seduce"), understand there's an incompatibility of interest and move on.

Or, you could always come out of the closet as a tranny eunuch! Cut your dick & balls, give it to a pooner who might make more use of it! Men are more likely to make the first move, and they don't care about personality, or so I heard!

If you really struggle talking to people, I actually want to point out Isalaide's post. The advice of humoring/paying attention to the subject the other person wants to talk about works on so many social contexts it might as well be "a social hack", as stupid as that sounds. This might blow your autistic mind: people want to be/feel heard!

Good luck and I hope this spergy "effort ramble" wasn't in vain.

 

[Chromeo]

Bateman is pretty messed up. He exfoliates four or five times in his morning routine alone.

Yeah, that's why Patrick Bateman's messed up. Too much exfoliating.

 

[3X0D14]

How much is a normal amount of hair to come out when shampooing & conditioning? This is the first time I've had somewhat long hair and don't know if it's normal or I'm balding

Some is normal, but what specific shampoo brand are you using? Do you buy it at your local grocery store? I went on the hunt for the perfect shampoo because every single one I used eventually caused my hair to get greasy despite using a clarifying shampoo once a week. I found out that most easily accessible shampoo brands contain ingredients that cause hair loss, or is overall very bad for your hair health.
These include sulfates (SLS/SLES), phthalates, formaldehyde, etc. Some brands are/were going through lawsuits due to these ingredients.
I did my own research to find a decent Korean shampoo brand specifically. Korean because they pump so much into their beauty industry and have high standards and better quality ingredients as a result.
I like AROMATICA and I haven't had to buy a clarifying shampoo since, I have to order it online.
You can also use herbal methods like letting rosemary sprigs and cloves marinate in your shampoo, or make a spray from fresh rosemary to promote hair growth and health.
I would also invest in a scalp massager to gently massage your scalp when you shower. It stimulates blood flow and circulation to the follicles which promotes thicker hair growth. Also be mindful of your diet and don't eat like shit, drink more water. If you don't brush your hair regularly, it's normal to expect more fallout in the shower.

 

[The Stranger]

Some is normal, but what specific shampoo brand are you using? Do you buy it at your local grocery store? I went on the hunt for the perfect shampoo because every single one I used eventually caused my hair to get greasy despite using a clarifying shampoo once a week. I found out that most easily accessible shampoo brands contain ingredients that cause hair loss, or is overall very bad for your hair health.

I got the big 1L bottles of Redken Brew shampoo and conditioner a little while ago. I figured they were a good brand because they're in a bunch of hair salons, and the Brew product line is the only one for mens nowadays. I don't know if it has those damaging ingredients you were talking about but I'm probably going to get a different brand next time because I don't care for the gimmicky malt stuff so thanks for the recommendation.

Also be mindful of your diet and don't eat like shit, drink more water.

I have a pretty good diet, eat plenty of fruit and veg, limit processed foods, drink about 1L of water a day, etc. I think the hair in the shower really is just a normal amount going off of what everyone here said, I just hadn't been used to it.

 

[A Cat in a Minefield]

I got the big 1L bottles of Redken Brew shampoo and conditioner a little while ago. I figured they were a good brand because they're in a bunch of hair salons, and the Brew product line is the only one for mens nowadays. I don't know if it has those damaging ingredients you were talking about but I'm probably going to get a different brand next time because I don't care for the gimmicky malt stuff so thanks for the recommendation.


I have a pretty good diet, eat plenty of fruit and veg, limit processed foods, drink about 1L of water a day, etc. I think the hair in the shower really is just a normal amount going off of what everyone here said, I just hadn't been used to it.

I have Redken and love it! You can also use the female line. Their scents are pretty neutral IMO. I don't think that there is a justification for why there is a men's line... I'd understand it, if the scent were really floral of sweet, but it's actually OK.

 

[Pendulous Dong]

How much do you spend on a ring?

 

[NoReturn]

How much do you spend on a ring?

Assuming you mean engagement ring, you should discuss this with her.
The old marketing shit about rings doesn't hold up anymore, and diamonds especially are in the dumps. It's absolutely not worth spending X amount to get a "traditional" ring unless that's something she herself values. If you want a diamond ring because diamonds are hard and will hold up on daily wear, then you're better off with a lab-created stone, because then it will last forever and you don't gotta worry about things breaking.

As a fun example of how rocks hold little value, check out this video where the guy melts down the gold in her rings and keeps it as "credit" towards her new piece, but he returns the gems for "sentimental value." You know it's bullshit. If the stones were worth anything, he'd have traded them for credit, too:

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/sRgnqAxt_nA

As a small tangent, I think the Chinese are on to something with the idea of the "Si Dian Jin". 24k gold is soft, and not something you can use for daily wear, sure, but as a wedding gift it's pretty cool, and then you get something you can sell for a good value later, rather than dumping money into a diamond that won't maintain its value.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MZn3oOxzKwc

 

[Susanna]

How much do you spend on a ring?

Just talk to her. It's a piece of jewellery she'll be expected to wear all the time, so it's only fair that she gets something she genuinely likes. Or just take her along when you go to buy. If she picks the ring you'll be sure she gets something she likes. She'll hopefully be considerate enough to not pick something outside your means.

 

[Executive Petrel]

There is this artsy girl. She's getting bullied by multiple moids.
As an ally, I tried to defend her but it got me in conflict with the boss. The boss said I should not interfere as I don't know what's going on. But the boss is a bully himself that's why he kept gaslightning me. Can I fix her or encourage her to fight back? She doesn't value herself so she is always with the wrong crowd and neglects well-meaning people. His ex bf was an abuser she told me.
I feel her pain. As you have to be the change you want to see in the world, everyday I thrive to fight toxic masculinity by being not like the other guys, listening and supporting em queens intrinsically, without gradually becoming more passive aggressive for not getting pityfucked, like those dumb soyboy numoids.

 

[NoReturn]

There is this artsy girl. She's getting bullied by multiple moids.
As an ally, I tried to defend her but it got me in conflict with the boss. The boss said I should not interfere as I don't know what's going on. But the boss is a bully himself that's why he kept gaslightning me. Can I fix her or encourage her to fight back? She doesn't value herself so she is always with the wrong crowd and neglects well-meaning people. His ex bf was an abuser she told me.
I feel her pain. As you have to be the change you want to see in the world, everyday I thrive to fight toxic masculinity by being not like the other guys, listening and supporting em queens intrinsically, without gradually becoming more passive aggressive for not getting pityfucked, like those dumb soyboy numoids.

Sometimes the best move is not to play.
Sometimes it's best not to stay there. There's no reason for her to stay in an environment where she's getting bullied. You don't always gotta fight everyone, nor does she, but sometimes leaving is the correct decision.

 

[Executive Petrel]

Sometimes the best move is not to play.
Sometimes it's best not to stay there. There's no reason for her to stay in an environment where she's getting bullied. You don't always gotta fight everyone, nor does she, but sometimes leaving is the correct decision.

Omfg so true sometimes you have to let go even if it hurts.

 

[Hubelublub]

There is this artsy girl. She's getting bullied by multiple moids.
As an ally, I tried to defend her but it got me in conflict with the boss. The boss said I should not interfere as I don't know what's going on. But the boss is a bully himself that's why he kept gaslightning me. Can I fix her or encourage her to fight back? She doesn't value herself so she is always with the wrong crowd and neglects well-meaning people. His ex bf was an abuser she told me.
I feel her pain. As you have to be the change you want to see in the world, everyday I thrive to fight toxic masculinity by being not like the other guys, listening and supporting em queens intrinsically, without gradually becoming more passive aggressive for not getting pityfucked, like those dumb soyboy numoids.

You should marry the boss.

 

[CharcoalChkn]

There is this artsy girl. She's getting bullied by multiple moids.
As an ally, I tried to defend her but it got me in conflict with the boss. The boss said I should not interfere as I don't know what's going on. But the boss is a bully himself that's why he kept gaslightning me. Can I fix her or encourage her to fight back? She doesn't value herself so she is always with the wrong crowd and neglects well-meaning people. His ex bf was an abuser she told me.
I feel her pain. As you have to be the change you want to see in the world, everyday I thrive to fight toxic masculinity by being not like the other guys, listening and supporting em queens intrinsically, without gradually becoming more passive aggressive for not getting pityfucked, like those dumb soyboy numoids.

I'm sure you mean well, but my femoid advice is to please learn to communicate in a way that is less embarrassing. I don't know if you could have made this post sound anymore cringe if you tried.