Gonna respectfully disagree with you, men can be extremely destructive energy vampires. I’m standing firm on this because my inner armchair psychiatrist is fairly convinced that Ian has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, which is widely considered at least one scientific explanation for energy vampires.
Hear me out - I suspect he intended to use Anisa for his own ego. He dates a “girl next door” Twitch thot which he thinks is a win, slaps her in the her face on camera to show what a “man” he is (while smiling), and makes her do OF like a pimp to get that cow to earn him some money. On top of that, claims to never had empathy until 30, threw all his male friends under the bus when he did an image change to gain clout (only to apparently decide to do Content Cop again!), and literally is saying in front of his wife in public that he wants to open a brothel which is of course a form of using people. When I write this all out, you can just see how abnormal, immoral, and stupid it all is but that’s an NPD nigger for you! If Anisa was a nice girl without BPD, she would be the one with abuse victim face. Ian just miscalculated and got played hard.
I am more familiar with NPD energy vampirism than BPD. What I find interesting is that her looks and career plummeted along with him. Her looks being destroyed seemed 100% intentional to ruin Ian’s day, she doesn’t look tired or stressed but she definitely doesn’t look energized! So she also absorbed his life force and seems to have nothing to show for it. My best guess as to why, is that BPD people don’t have that driving goal or dream that most people have, so if they get extra energy/money/fame they don’t know what to do with it.