1- week following 2nd revision surgery on external aesthetics
I had my original SRS in 2023. The vaginal canal was left disconnected from the vulva. No labia minora. Surgeron gave me 2.5” of death and doesn’t know why depth failed. I had mounds on my mons, and it was a wreck. I had a depth revision in 2024 but got bad stenosis I struggled to deal with and I am left with ~3” of depth and can only use the purple dilator. I just had an external revision to try to fix the aesthetics. Removed the lumps mons. Try to get the labia closer to the introitus, and my urethra was lowered to be closer to the introitus.
The introitus was left so disconnected and low from first surgery that it seems impossible to ever get labia down that low and around it. I have now had three miserable surgeries and I’m not closer to sexual function. The clitoris has continues to feel raw, like a horrible sunburn to be avoided at all costs. No pleasurable sensations there. I can orgasm from vaginal stimulation but because of size and depth I can only use a small purple dilator. No human would fit inside me.
What do you think? What should I do?
First surgeon gave me failed depth and doesn’t know what happened. Repeatedly told me everything looks good! She’s also confronted me about Reddit posts so she will not be named. I still deal with constant discharge and granulation tissue even 16 months after surgery and I still need support from that clinic.
2nd surgeon- non event. Didn’t do anything Winthrop aesthetics. Depth revision, depth gone despite dilating more than needed.
3rd surgeon has been very kind, is very accessible and very honest. I will not name her because the first surgeon seems to be intensely all over Reddit and doesn’t care for me and I don’t need more drama. Would I say YES, avoid first surgeon, of course I would. Can DM for surgeon names. But I’m tired of the drama of being honest on here about my experience and the surgeon creating issues for me because she recognizes my Vulva. I’m thankful for finding the 3rd surgeon and them taking an interest in my situation.
Please be brutally honest. What do you think? What would you do? I have no functional depth and width, and I have no pleasurable clitoris. Everything is swollen and hard and the way the fat was moved it feels like it might always feel a little hard and numb. I 1000% regret ever having the first surgery and losing sexual function and being stuck in a loop of needing surgeries, needing surgeries, needing to dilate, and trying to maintain hope for a sex life in the future. It’s really difficult to mentally accept that I had a surgery that didn’t produce aesthetics, or functional depth, took sexual function. I don’t know how to live with this regret and I’ve often been in an intensely dangerous place mentally. But, roast me, tell me what to do. How can I make my situation better? Current results are so fresh we won’t know what it’ll “look like” but we know the introitus still stands alone, depth isn’t functional, clitoris hurts, and I don’t get labia minora.
Invent a Time Machine and I’ll go back and kick my own ass to prevent this suffering.