TW: transphobia (i think)
Okay, so most of my family is at least not outrightly transphobic except for, I think, my sister. She wouldn't say she's transphobic, but feel free to pass your own judgement in the comments.
So firstly we were discussing the supreme court ruling in the UK, now this one, could be due to a) my bad explanation of it b) her lack of understanding. She doesn't understand how the ruling and the EHRC guidance directly contradicts gender recognition certificates, because "they're about gender, not sex, and the ruling is about sex". I tried to explain that the whole point of a GRC is that under all circumstances you are your preferred sex, but bc the certificate is a gender recognition certificate, she wouldn't get that. She also says that the ruling was "needed" as, "Previously, female and male referred to sex. This new law is defining what a woman is in law which has never been done before." because a woman is gender. She also says that a grc enabling you to change everything, will change, because "no one is saying a trans man can't be a man, it's just not their b-word sex". She also then said that it doesn't exclude intersex people because it's just not about them. I said the law is shoving everyone into "2 neat little boxes" and thats why it excludes intersex people she then compared it to why abortion law doesn't include men "it's just not about them.".
She then asked "how do you envisage that an employer would include trans people that do have a certificate (but not those without one) when having a certificate is confidential." I said: "Let the employee self identify and treat them corresponding regardless of whether they have a grc or not.". She just responded "that's not possible".
Then she goes into the whole "cis men could say they're trans to get access to women's spaces" thing. I said men could just walk into the bathroom, she went on about how they can't as if a cis man was being creepy in the changing rooms he could be removed, but apparently the moment he claims to be a trans woman, they can't be removed. I failed to articulate that if anyone was being creepy in a changing rooms, regardless of their gender/sex whatever, I'd ask them to be removed. She then went on about how some spaces need to be afab women only (not using that terminology, but the b-word) to protect women.
The topic moved on to self ID and she said if you could just go online and change it, every teenage boy would do so for "sh*ts and gigs". I mentioned how maybe that's more of a societal issue, about how we raise boys, and she went on one about how you can't change how ppl raise their kids, I say how I didn't mean we can change it, i was just talking philosophical.
I lose it a bit and drop the bomb that I've been referred to a GIC and she asks why (bear in mind I've been out as enby for 5 years, to which my sister initially responded, that's not real). Then I have to explain the whole enby is a spectrum still and doesn't mean perfectly in the middle. She then asks if my transness is linked to my autism, and if it's just an extension of my anger because "hated being perceived normal as a child and just want a group to be in with that aren't mainstream".
I express why she's the last one I told out of all my family, (she's very, very judgemental, with everything) and I fear that, she just sends a laughing crying emoji.
Sorry, that was long, but i'm done now.
Just to clarify I'm 20FTM my sister is 26F
