Black friend has the damning factor: single mother. The father is nowwhere in sight. Single mother gave her (I'll call the friend B from now on) conflicting information like "I want you to learn how to be an adult" but never teaches her how to be an adult. So B does the classic: "Fine, I'll do it myself" with the help of the internet and other adults.
Then Mom made the biggest one. "I want you to be successful."
So B tried. B tried to tell her to teach her how to drive so she can get a job.
"You wouldn't survive out there." "No." "Soon." And so on. Hardcore 'crabs in a bucket' mentality.
It was like some facade broke from B.
All this time, in her mid-20s, she has holding up several things she never told her family. She told me that her family is 'too tribal', blames her for so many things and never once sees MoM blaming herself (even in times where B was not in the same room), her hometown is filled with crazies (her way of saying theres way too many niggers blasting guns all around), her Mom is too focused on politics, and so on. She hopes that she can find a way to move away from her Mom- which is hard to do, since the only thing that is stopping her from not knowing how to drive and there are no driving schools in her hometown.
Last time I visited her years ago, there were schools around, like 5 schools. Now, they're gone with 3 remaining. She even told me that her schoolfriends even saw the warning signs and moved out to greener pastures when they reached their 20s. One of the schools even changed to a cemetery like what the fuck.
What really got me at the end of all this was that she wanted to move to a mostly White state, and showed her research. Towns she was thinking of, changing car licenses, and all.
