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Not a very proud papa: despite having already had gender-affirming genital mutilation, a TiF has to go to literal fucking therapy to cope with the fact that her wife is pregnant with a beautiful baby boy because she is preemptively jealous of the size of his infantile crotch. This post made me a worse person to have read - and they say we're the ones obsessed with genitals?
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This tranny thinks that his friends failed some sort of litmus test of acceptability by dissing on troons in his presence, but all I can think is that I wish more of them would try this shit so the trash can take itself out. Also, yeah, when you reveal yourself to be part of a malignant pervert-class in society, tides turn quite quickly for most people! Shocker.Parenthood and meta
I had simple meta and scrotoplasty about 4 years ago. My wife is pregnant with our first child…and the baby has a penis. And I’m kinda freaked out about it.
Note: I’m in therapy and getting my shit worked out before baby is born.
I don’t want to carry any resentment towards my baby for being born with the genitals I desperately wish I was born with. I don’t want to have any feelings either way about the sex of my child but was hoping for a daughter because of my dysphoria. I’m trying to prepare myself for years of diaper changes and bath times and potty training but I’m so concerned about the effect on my already strained relationship with my own penis. I can’t imagine allowing my kid to see me naked (“why is my penis bigger than daddy’s?”). If my wife were to draw any comparison between our penises (even in her own head) it would devastate me. I had hoped that meta would allow me to not fret about my dick so much (and it has somewhat) but this is taking up so much mental energy. It turns out I’m not as comfortable with having a tiny penis as I thought I’d be pre-op.
I am pursuing phalloplasty and have a date for the fall but am considering postponing until our child is older so my wife won’t have to be my caretaker while pregnant. I’m not sure how to “make it work” for the next few years.
Does anyone have any experience parenting after having metoidioplasty? Especially if it affected your dysphoria.
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A troon so autistic that he's on SSDI is finding it difficult to continue threading the needle of transitioning, contemplating suicide as a result of how disappointing transition has been for him so far. I can't believe what I'm reading here, are you telling me transition doesn't fix everything and doesn't even consistently prevent suicide? I'm having conniptions over this! Quick, someone fetch me my #FreePalestine smelling salts, I may faint!I keep losing friends
So basically me and some people i met like a week or two ago have been playing peak since and talking everyday. Today the topic of being trans comes up (I'm a passing trans woman so i ask as a joke) and they have a bad reaction to it calling us basically against nature and bad (nicely said). So i left the group chat and told the one person i thought i could trust in it about why i left.
Yeah they blocked me afterwards. I'm just pissed that people are still like that when not even an hour ago they were saying I'm cute and a good friend of theirs
Tl;dr. People are asses sometimes and im venting it out
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This is so poorly written that it almost feels like a schizopost, but I found it hilarious to imagine some tough-talkin' li'l Russian dood trying to present a brave and stoic front only for people in her neighborhood to refer to her by an insulting nickname regardless. But I don't entirely believe her, given that she seems to struggle with a grip on reality and claims to have CPTSD as well as autism, anorexia and agoraphobia. A notable pattern in her posting is that she fears her own emotions to the point of obsession, so methinks a mood stabilizer would be a more suitable treatment than transition, but what do I know?How do I push through when everything feels pointless in my transition?
Genuinely. I am in a state of mental decline and decay I couldnt fathom 10 years ago. I'm 29, I'm clocky but pass when I put in an ungodly amount of effort into grooming, clothing selection etc and keep my mouth shut. My voice instantly clocks me. My medical transition is miles away from my social one and part of that genuinely is my autism holding me back. I live in a state of fear, anxiety and hopelessness. My mind keeps ruminating on "this life wont be as good as a cis woman's." The past 10 years have been lies in told myself denying being trans, failed stunts in college, an associates degree that took 4 years to get, 2 year gap, 4 years back at a four year school delayed getting HRT (waited until 26, was living with my mom until 27), she would gas light me into not getting HRT. I finally got it 10 days before my 26th birthday. Two years later I'm on the psych ward and kicked out of her house. Last year I had my orchirectomy, probably the last time Medicare will cover a trans surgery for me, since my medicare came from my SSDI status because of my autism, now I have a $184 premium every month. Job history is basically swiss cheese. I'm living in an apartment now paid for by a Medicaid consolidated waiver for autism support, 70% of my rent is paid, if I got rid of it my rent would jump from $465.50 to $1495 a month. I have went nuclear with job applications. Over 300 applications and only two interviews, one where I was lowballed salary wise because of "experience" the other a car sales job they refused to let me do part time. My gender is fucking DLC hidden behind a paywall. Could I flawlessly pass with multiple surgeries, intensive gender therapy, voice training, wardrobe redesign etc? Yes. Will I ever be able to afford it? Probably not. I graduate in the fall with a bachelor's in history. Utterly useless. I'm a pariah in trans spaces for having trans med adjacent views and being the utter antithesis to trans joy. I hate being trans. I hate being autistic. This exsetensial nightmare refuses to end. The Cosmological mismatch is so massive I think about killing myself every day. Already had an attempt last year, and before that. I eat to cope with the pain and sensory hell. I'm at 270 lbs and I cant stop eating. I think I'm at the point of bulemia I'll try to puke it all out.
I don't know what to do anymore but I'm in so much pain. The only thing that makes me not kill myself is that I think I will reincarnate as a cis girl and there's a friend of mine (Let's call her Abby) that would be DEVASTATED if I died
Please, give me some suggestions because I'm at the end of my rope..This is my honest transgender experience
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Rose-tinted glasses, smashed: two FTMs discover that they don't really like the way men speak of women when they assume a woman is not present, leading both to worry that there really isn't a place where they belong after all. I always find it funny when both troons 'n' poons act as if nasty locker room talk is something only they are privy to in terms of recognizing how grotesque it is; you must really believe women are too stupid to understand how men interpret them, huh? Trust me, spend long enough on the internet and you become very aware of it.how can i cope with harrassment from the public
everyonr where i live calls me "scary mary" screams at me to make fun of me and tease how reactive to my surroundings i am, i find it very upsetting becauss my self worth depends on being as vacant apathetic and expressionless as possible so much. old people tell me to smile more, iver overheard members of the public refer to me as "that GIRL that lashes out", people catcall me and laugh at me. i am constantly infantilised. i was oncr ridiculed for using manners.people that i do not even recognise at all seem to know who i am and make fun of me accordingly.
i do not feel safe in my neighbourhood at all, i hate being trest like i am over reacting. i avoid leaving the house at certain times.
even further afield complete strangers shove female things in my face and make sexual comments.
it makes me want to cry. i am traumatised by not just not passing but being read as ths total opposite of the kind of male i want to be so badly.
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Cis men and sexual culture making me uncomfortable. starting to get worried I’ll never belong
Hi all.
I’m curious on other people’s experiences of this. Recently I’ve been trying to go the next step with my mental masculinity, and I’ve been feeling more connected with my guy friends. However , I’ve noticed there is almost exclusively sex talk within some of my guy friend groups. It was fine and reasonable at first, and even felt a little affirming, but I feel like it’s always taken too far and honestly makes me really uncomfortable. I’ve heard a lot about how men’s culture is just talking about women and such , and im a huge feminist so im just worried that I’ll never really “belong” either way. With women or men.
I guess I was really excited to finally fully be apart of men’s culture, but I find myself a little disappointed and sometimes disgusted at what I’ve been seeing.
Anyone else experience this?
So close, you can almost taste it: a gooner troon who was once a misogynistic blight upon society continues to be a misogynistic blight upon society, but now feels a bit bad about it given that he now aligns himself more with his victims than as their perpetrator. I like when they assume just putting a frock on their cock somehow shifts paradigms so successfully that they can have borderline rabbinical wrestling with their own morality like this! No, you're still a toxic, chronically masturbating misogynist, but now you're also protected as a precious purse dog for Democratic activism.Since coming out to my (male) best friend as a trans man, he's 'unlocked' his locker room talk around me.
As the title says, to be honest. I had a huge amount of respect for him before I figured out I was transgender, but since coming out, he's relaxed what's clearly been a filter he was using to converse with me before. I've heard him coming out with some remarkably crap, out of pocket things regarding women, other men, and life in general, though it's the women-stuff that bothers me the most. Part of me thinks it shouldn't bother me as much as it does, or that I'm being unfair by judging him in this way, but I can't help seeing him in a very different, and if I'm honest, slightly disappointing light. Please tell me others have experienced this. I'm also ready to be told I'm wrong.
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So is it possible that I'm just a jerk in disguise?
21, transfem. My experience is so far from innocent that it makes me uncomfortable. I have lived as a boy for 19 years, and as a teenager I was absolutely the most evil type of boy: full of hatred and bad taste, and all I did every day was post toxic, misogynistic comments and masturbate to erotic yuri comics. Then I stumbled into the trans subs on Reddit, and now I am 21and 1 year on HRT.
If I am a good person now, how could I have been so evil two years ago? I can't help but wonder, am I just an incel posing as an innocent trans girl in order to infiltrate and prey on the community? Or am I just making some spur-of-the-moment decisions that aren't actually my intention?

