Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
Are we just going to brush over the responsibility those “men who have no desire for long term relationships” have in these situations? Men aren’t at fault, but also some men perpetuate the problem, but they don’t count, is that it?
What responsibility again? I think it's shitty, but at the end of the day you have two adults doing consensual sex.
The problem isn't that some people have sex outside relationship. The problem is women keep choosing men who are not interested in dating them, and then bitching about it.
And it's not because they lack options. Most men don't except pure maidens. Average women have men in their circle, be it work, be it college, be it some friend groups. The issue is that average men are just not that exciting, and are often rejected multiple times until they give up.

Women are choosers, and they choose casual sex. Again, why is it fault of man who also go for casual sex?
Do you count yourself among these virtuous men that got snubbed? Be honest.
Not really. I am quite attractive, but I was overweight till my early 20s so I have strong sympathy for incels. I also used to have a lot of girl (space) friends when I was fat, as I used to be fun safe dude for them. But you lose respect for women when you see them fail again and again for dudes that clearly just wanna hit.
I don't resent them for not wanting to date someone like me back then btw. But there def was middle-ground.

I also know first hand how women act towards attractive men, so I don't buy that they are tricked. If you are really attractive, women act worse than simps.

And again, are we just going to act like these “men that don’t care” don’t count for being part of problem? It sounds like you have accidentally made my argument for why men share some blame here.
Not really. Because again, women come with hidden expectations that are not gonna be fulfilled, and then blame all men for it.
There are women who date within their circles, and they usually stay in long term relationships, and I have nothing but praise for them.
But if they go for dudes that just wanna smash, it's their fault.

At the end of the day, I don't really care that women hook up.
I care that there is constant blaming of men that they don't police other men, when they have no means to. I care that average dude is called creep for being awkward, where women do shit like Tea beacuse their bitter over their own choices. I care that men are shamed for caring about body count. And I care that women try to demonize age gap relationships, when they usually have much more sexual experience over their age peers.

I also care that women always blame everything but themselves for their choices.
 
Average "woman" on the tea app.


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I'm having a hard time believing any of these people are hooking up at all.
I'm not having a hard time believing it at all. There's a guy on pornhub who reviews what it feels like to put your penis in a fleshlight filled with various food items. Men will fuck anything. These women might not be getting with a 10/10 Chad but they're getting with ugly men, or average men who are desperate enough.
 
You obviously don't understand that literally every man is a rapist or a rapist in hibernation, moid.

The vexing part is, there are men who are bad enough to warrant being called out, and yet it seemingly never happens through these channels.
Right. If only this was an app to warn other women about rapists or scammers, it'd be fine. It never is. It's about scorned women saying "erm, this guy is bad because he smells bad, he has aids".

The app only accepts United States ID, because according to them they can't verify any other country's ID and they need to 100% ensure you're a true & honest woman.

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This Aryan Beast seems to have gotten through their "stringent" verification process, though.
This is the Punisher!
 
I'm not having a hard time believing it at all. There's a guy on pornhub who reviews what it feels like to put your penis in a fleshlight filled with various food items. Men will fuck anything. These women might not be getting with a 10/10 Chad but they're getting with ugly men, or average men who are desperate enough.
......why do you know that, and in turn why did you have to let ME know that?
 
Yeah this is exactly what I expected. Ignored and/or dismissed every point I made (again), made up retarded shit about "muh exceptions" to justify it, and always ended at the conclusion that women should not be criticized for their word or actions. With a nice dash of "but what about blaming men?!", as if you have had any shortage of that thus far. You are the purest embodiment of my point about estrogenated men.
Ngl, the way westoid men simp for their women being retarded, useless and/or whores is pathetic. It reeks of not knowing how traditional gender roles actually work, where the man and the woman both put in time and effort to be productive members of the household and a relationship and putting on a show of faux masculinity to cover up that insecurity, in addition to redefining masculinity to being a slave to women/pussy instead of the actual definition of protecting and providing for his family and friends and those that can't defend themselves from unjust persecution.


Whores, shrews and generally unpleasant women were mocked and ostracized for a reason. You don't have to beat them to put them in their place and tell them that they should fuck off to whatever retard friendly fantasyland they want to live in. Enabling womenchildren is just as deleterious as enabling manchildren.
 
......why do you know that, and in turn why did you have to let ME know that?
I saw a screenshot of the video thumbnails somewhere ages ago, can't remember where. Might have been on Ovarit or in a group chat somewhere? I had to suffer with the weight of this knowledge and now you do too.
 
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