Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
So what I’m getting is: this dumb hole didn’t like Null’s choice of verbiage, as it implied his sweeping for her hugbox was less than absolute as she previously believed. She then ran to said hugbox, only for her opinions to not be as universally echoed as she desired. So now she’s calling it quits at being XX-HHH.
Yeah basically.

That sounds a whole lot like the BPD behavior known as "splitting."
A BP regular having BPD? I am thoroughly shocked.
 
This entire fiasco reminds me of the app Peeple which was a similar attempt at creating a centralized gossip website where you could review people online. Only it wasn't specific to men. It was shut down very quickly though due to lawsuit threats and now no longer exists. Jim made a video about it way back when.
 
Gonna be real here, the difference between us and them is negligible. Everyone wants to gossip about retards, we just do it with better opspec.
But they’re talking about the dudes they know, nobody here knows about Joe who was going through a divorce and absolutely stalking his, in his own fucking words, ‘soon-to-be-ex-wife’ and was absolutely a weirdo.
The people I know and who worked with him and I are absolutely down to gossip about ‘Hey Joe’ as I called him, but you guys don’t care and don’t know about him.
For a reasonable person, going on the Internet with your government name directly attached to your comments about people IRL should be unfathomable, and yet here we are.
 
This app was flawed from the start. Who would ever write something positive.
Who would encourage more woman to compete for a man she likes.
If I had more free time I'd slap together a quick app called Mudshark that allowed men to anonymously report and shame women who had slept with black men.
I have no doubt that it would be declared the worst hate crime since the Holocaust in under 24 hours.
If you were smart, you'd twin this with an app for BMWF dating.
 
Man I only posted the article because of the insane panopticon shit of an id-gated app for a-logging your neighbors I didn't think it'd get this fucking autistic
man, you're still new if you think it wouldn't, especially considering recent happenings
I never watched Chinese cartoons, so even though I keep getting reminded it's some kind of Dragonball thing, my mind goes back to think it's a seatbelt reminding you to be safe.
holy shit
i wonder if there's even more people who thought that
 
This leak was hilarious because all of the women on there are the same ones who’d post and shit talk one another on facebook with their legal names and face as their profile picture.
If I had more free time I'd slap together a quick app called Mudshark that allowed men to anonymously report and shame women who had slept with black men.

I have no doubt that it would be declared the worst hate crime since the Holocaust in under 24 hours.
I mean they did that with coalfax. They had that shut down as soon as they discovered it.
 
My genuine question is why on Earth would you upload your ID to an app about gossip when literally every woman I know IRL is more than happy to gossip about anyone at any time.
I think that's just niggercattle doing niggercattle things. Only paranoid autists ever consider the possibility that tech bros might be unethical and not care whether your data gets leaked.

It's an app on their phone, therefore it's trustworthy.
 
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why do all these women look like this
and feel the right to trashtalk everyone without for a moment considering that they're the problem.

is that it?

Tea was a FEMCEL app?
 
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