Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
That's the thing, though, it never would be a thing men do to this extent.

With the exception of extremely niche incel groups, men spend all of about 3 hours hating women after a break up before realizing that it's retarded and unfair to hate all women because a couple women in their life are assholes. Men have almost no motivation to create something like this.

The past 2 generations have been educated from birth to believe there is no such thing as a harm too great to commit against a man and no such thing as a man undeserving of harm. Many women these days buy into it hook, line, and sinker. This could only ever be a woman thing, or hidden away on a perpetually deplatformed incel forum.
No, never. No man has ever done this. It's completely unheard of. Only women post in revenge online.
 
Who here remembers Coalfax and dontdatehimgirl.com being shut down in a New York minute over privacy concerns? Apparently they could have been successful if the founders had just had bigger noses and almost no top lip.

Tea app founder and soc-med director below. Look at those gigantic honkers.

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Nice to see Skibidi Toilet has a career to fall back on once his 15 minutes of fame are up.
 
No, never. No man has ever done this. It's completely unheard of. Only women post in revenge online.
Thanks for proving exactly what the fuck I said.
"hidden away on a perpetually deplatformed incel forum"

These things are always a small group of dudes who jump site to site trying to do the same thing over and over again. Not a one of them has mainstream support, media support, or is allowed to operate without being shutdown by hosting companies or governments. Virtually no men participate in or advocate for these shitholes relative to the women participating in or advocating for their man-hate sites and rhetoric.

edit: except for South Korea where the men and women for some reason live and breath just to make each other miserable 24/7
 
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Women getting to compare notes on men is an important societal function (as it elevates decent men, and protects women from indecent men), but the implicit trust given to anonymous users of the app is indeed likely to be abused by a vocal minority of vindictive women. As usual with these things, a single app cannot repair the social fabric of society. (For the butthurt womanhaters ITT, please consider that a society where women can freely gossip about men will result in your physical appearance mattering less. Male physique is only so important because women have to make dating decisions with so little information.) (This is one of the valuable functions of regular Church attendance that has been lost.)

Also the people who made it have already had a massive data beach, so it's might be getting shut down anyway ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

lol

You're bullshitting, bitching, sneeding and lying, to try to get men to carve out a place for certain women to bitch bullshit lie and sneed. Everyone knows the point of this is to let shitty women like you gossip behind anonymity, provided by men, and a complete lack of accountability.

From the feminist POV, you're saying women need to gossip and sometimes be "vindictive" for their own good, which is precisely the stereotype feminists have tried to dismantle. You are literally arguing for weaponized gossip as women’s empowerment while admitting it's destructive. I'm now thinking that feminist POV was actually reified by a man who helped feminism out just like how Anita Sarkeesian needed that help.

For those who believe women’s social power needs to be managed, you’re giving us all the ammunition we would ever need. Not only that, you hand wave away how irresponsible these women were with their personal data with a shrug and a joke.

lmao even

Old Testament:

Proverbs 11:13
“A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret.”

Proverbs 16:28
“A perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip separates close friends.”

Proverbs 18:8
“The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to the inmost parts.”

Proverbs 20:19
“A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid anyone who talks too much.”

Psalms 101:5
“Whoever slanders his neighbor secretly I will destroy; whoever has a haughty look and an arrogant heart I will not endure.”

Exodus 23:1
“You shall not spread a false report. You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness.”

Talmud:

“Whoever speaks gossip (lashon hara) is as though he has denied the existence of God.”
— Arachin 15b

“Lashon hara kills three: the one who says it, the one who accepts it, and the one about whom it is said.”
— Arachin 15b

“The tongue is so powerful that it can kill, even at a distance.”
— Arachin 15a

“Rabbi Yochanan said in the name of Rabbi Yose: ‘For three transgressions a person is punished in this world and has no share in the World to Come: idolatry, adultery, and murder. But lashon hara is equal to them all.’”
— Arachin 15b

“Gossip is like throwing a stone in the air: you cannot know where it will land.”
— (Paraphrase from various aggadic/midrashic sources, echoed in Arachin 15b)

“All who engage in gossip… their prayers are not heard.”
— Taanit 8a

“Whoever tells tales destroys the world.”
— Arachin 15b

Quran:

49:12 (Al-Hujurat)
“O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.”

“Backbite” here is ghibah (غِيبة): speaking ill of someone behind their back.

104:1 (Al-Humazah)
“Woe to every scorner and mocker.”

Humazah/Lumazah are words for gossip, slander, and mockery.

24:15 (An-Nur)
“When you received it with your tongues and said with your mouths that of which you had no knowledge and thought it was insignificant while it was, in the sight of Allah, tremendous.”

Refers to spreading rumors and accusations without evidence.

49:11 (Al-Hujurat)
“Let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them. … And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames.”

Buddhism:

“And what is right speech? Abstaining from lying, from divisive speech, from harsh speech, and from idle chatter: This is called right speech.”
— Samyutta Nikaya 45.8 (and many other suttas)

“A person who speaks divisively is like a double-edged sword.”
— Dhammapada 231–234:
“He who says what is not true goes to hell, as does he who having done a thing says ‘I did not do it.’ Both after death become equal, men of base actions in the next world. Many who wear the saffron robe are unworthy and are of evil disposition. These evil men by their evil deeds are reborn in hell. Better to swallow a red-hot iron ball... than to utter a falsehood.”

Hinduism:

Manu Smriti 4.256:

“Let him not indulge in tale-bearing, slander, and falsehood, nor in talking ill of others…”

Mahabharata, Shanti Parva 262.15:

“Slander, harsh words, and untruthful speech are the root of all evil.”

Bhagavad Gita 16:2:

“…absence of anger, truthfulness, aversion to fault-finding (apaisunam), compassion…”
(Here, apaisunam is the explicit avoidance of gossiping about others’ faults.)

EVERY SINGLE RELIGION SAYS TO SHUT GOSSIPING WOMEN UP.
 
Got assblasted at holes being called holes, got chewed out by josh and negrated to hell. She says shes done and left the site. I give her three months.
I think there was also something Ole Slobbermutt mentioned on MATI around the time of the 4chan jannycaust where "someone from Beauty Parlor" was complaining and said they'd stop giving financial contributions because some channers migrated to a designated shitting thread during the downtime and that anyone who stayed would clearly be a woman hating incel that would destroy site culture or somesuch.
 
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