Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 

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I'm playing the stupid game and someone uploaded their social security card. Holy fucking shit bros. :stress:
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This goes beyond any gender war shit at this point.

These people are simply the dumbest fucking retards imaginable and deserve any and all scorn they get. Subsequently, anybody trying to defend or rationalize anyone that signed to this app is also a braindead 'tard.

I do hope that the social security number is just a fake but why the fuck would it be? I just wish there weren't people this stupid out in the world.
 
Alternative take: no one should be a cheater, parasite, spouse beater, or sex offender hiding their status. Yep, people should learn over time to spot disingenuity and to have some self-respect. But when you put a dummy/ inexperienced person against a scammer, scammer will win. And scammers can spot the suckers far more than the other direction.

There's a reason that financial con men get arrested ( :optimistic: ) but their victims don't. They're not the same level of "bad person," because the dummies/naïve ones aren't hurting other people (just themselves, whether should-have-knowns or not), whereas the scamners/ liars/ abusers/ etc., are hurting other people. It's goofy to equate them and view this stuff as deserved comeuppance.

And to be clear, if women went on there and lied about their experiences, obviously, that's despicable as well. Can someone show all the lying, defamatory posts they made?
I somewhat agree but I see this is a pyramid because they were scammed while trying to abuse this app like a Yelp Karen. LEOs, friends and family protect women, not some vague, SSRI abusing, catty, loony sisterhood strewn all over the States because I've seen what this shitty mindset and evil women do to good women. Luv women, hate sisterhood/hivemind, simple as.

And hell has no fury like a woman scorned, many a man was a saintly sex god until he was a limp microdick demon for not being able to read minds, open their relationship or take her to Tasmania or some shit. The safety of women is still a priority in our society but I guaranfuckingtee that 75% of the users are the same women who marched for George Groid and unvetted illegals and would marinate a tatted up gangbanger with gunshot wounds on his torso in their pussy juice in a heartbeat because I saw dozens of problem glasses and booger swings. Modern women are so used to bashing men that they completely forget who runs most of the critical infrastructure and that Iran, Afghanistan and the Islamic State proved that they can be slapped back into the kitchen in a month.
 
please consider that a society where women can freely gossip about men will result in your physical appearance mattering less. Male physique is only so important because women have to make dating decisions with so little information.
The fit abusive asshole gets the girl because they have sex (and she gets attached) before she knows his real personality. In a more natural/traditional social world, where she gets to see him from a distance before interacting, personality factors would matter. In our present world, she only gets to see a curated image of him before interacting, and sex (thus, for women, attachment) happens before the man can be properly assesse
There's nothing better than retards on KF who whine about women wanting to date actual attractive men and not some disgusting fat ass monster who smells like shit, can't take care of themselves, have no skills, just nothing redeeming about them at all, yet they expect all women to line up to get a piece of them. I'm sorry to say that yes, women prefer attractive men just like you prefer attractive women. Nothing will ever change this. Also lmao at the idea that just because a guy is fit it means he's an "abusive asshole". Fuckin pathetic.
 
After going through the 12GB lol.zip, there's no way I'm gonna go through 220GB of this shit. It would take me an entire week.

The average age seems to be around 40. Can't be too judgemental about old women being ugly, that's just how it is. Only about 1% is cute and pre-wall.
Attractive young women have no need to search for attention, unless they're insane ones like my namesake. They're just mad when Chad doesn't commit.

This app is just providing proof of the massive imbalance in the dating market now. It's not about "safety" or warning about bad men. It's about lesser genetic women latching on to be Chad's 10th backup fuck.
 
There's nothing better than retards on KF who whine about women wanting to date actual attractive men and not some disgusting fat ass monster who smells like shit, can't take care of themselves, have no skills, just nothing redeeming about them at all, yet they expect all women to line up to get a piece of them. I'm sorry to say that yes, women prefer attractive men just like you prefer attractive women. Nothing will ever change this. Also lmao at the idea that just because a guy is fit it means he's an "abusive asshole". Fuckin pathetic.
And yet, you are on KF as well.
 
But getting down to it, free speech is a thing. Short of actual defamation proved in a court of law, are we really on Kiwi Farms saying these people shouldn't be allowed to name and shame? Or that the facilitator (app owner) should have potential defamation-related or identity-revealing or responsibility for the content posted on the app? Agree with @Hellwalker that the most likely lawsuit will be on data security.
The farms has accounts tied to posts so there can be accountability. These apps have nothing public so only a law suit can leave a posting history.
This goes beyond any gender war shit at this point.

These people are simply the dumbest fucking retards imaginable and deserve any and all scorn they get. Subsequently, anybody trying to defend or rationalize anyone that signed to this app is also a braindead 'tard.

I do hope that the social security number is just a fake but why the fuck would it be? I just wish there weren't people this stupid out in the world.
This is the average internet user. They don't protect their identities at all.
Attractive young women have no need to search for attention, unless they're insane ones like my namesake. They're just mad when Chad doesn't commit.
Attractive women have a soap box. These old women have no way to get one so they use gossip apps instead.
 
I'm sorry to say that yes, women prefer attractive men
And in 15 or 20 years, they still won't realize they were nothing more than a slampig and wonder why they can't seem to seal the deal. Men have shown themselves to be, on average, far more adept at coming to terms with the new normal while women continue to tell themselves and each other comforting lies.
 
Short of actual defamation proved in a court of law, are we really on Kiwi Farms saying these people shouldn't be allowed to name and shame? Or that the facilitator (app owner) should have potential defamation-related or identity-revealing or responsibility for the content posted on the app?
How are you so fucking brain broken that you can't realize the distinct difference, or are you just purely arguing in bad faith like most modern feminists?

Try posting a personal army request thread on KF full of unverified "trust me bro" claims and see how long it takes to get nuked. Go into a cow's thread and start posting unsourced shit claiming "I know them irl no proof tho" and see how you are widely mocked and thread banned.

That's exactly what these apps/sites do. No proof, full anonymous claims, and all under the hidden guise of "actually I don't need to offer any proof because that would RISK MY LIFE AND SAFETY!!!!!".

I truly wonder how Null feels knowing the users on his site are this fucking retarded. The poor, goofy fucker gives up his life to host this shit hole and make a stand for free speech only for dumbasses like you thinking it's just a place comparable to schizos being able to post totally unverified (by fucking design) slander 24/7.
 
And in 15 or 20 years, they still won't realize they were nothing more than a slampig and wonder why they can't seem to seal the deal. Men have shown themselves to be, on average, far more adept at coming to terms with the new normal while women continue to tell themselves and each other comforting lies.
Just date someone your on your own level lol. If you're an unattractive guy stop expecting attractive women to line up around the block trying to get some of your dick. Women aren't interested in men who go into online forums and complain about how much women don't want to fuck them as if they're evil for it, like they're the male equivalents to the women you guys keep posting from this app and making fun of.
 
How are you so fucking brain broken that you can't realize the distinct difference, or are you just purely arguing in bad faith like most modern feminists?

Try posting a personal army request thread on KF full of unverified "trust me bro" claims and see how long it takes to get nuked. Go into a cow's thread and start posting unsourced shit claiming "I know them irl no proof tho" and see how you are widely mocked and thread banned.

That's exactly what these apps/sites do. No proof, full anonymous claims, and all under the hidden guise of "actually I don't need to offer any proof because that would RISK MY LIFE AND SAFETY!!!!!".

I truly wonder how Null feels knowing the users on his site are this fucking retarded. The poor, goofy fucker gives up his life to host this shit hole and make a stand for free speech only for dumbasses like you thinking it's just a place comparable to schizos being able to post totally unverified (by fucking design) slander 24/7.
I see my point was too subtle for you, and that you don't understand how the world (including and especially the legal world) often works.

Did I say, "it's exactly the same!!!!!!!"? I did not. Do I understand the blunt and wedge edges of law (and public perception, as well as corporate decisions)? Yes, I do. I encourage you to do the same.

As for that site, as I said, any aggrieved person may pursue legal remedies. I'd say it's equivalent to telling a rape victim to "just go to the cops or file a civil suit if it really happened," except that for defamation of non-public people, the burden of proof is typically reversed, so it's far more available to an aggrieved person and far more likely to result in a win for them than sexual crimes and torts.

Ps - slander is spoken, not written, you nitwit. Slander and libel (written) are both types of defamation.
 
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