Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
No, no, see, life ruining gossip is the same as calling a woman fat or a slut in private because,
I see you're intentionally misrepresenting my point, again. I very specifically addressed this point when I said:
I think there's some people that are conflating my defense of "harmless shit talking" with me defending per se defamation accusing a man of rape or abuse. Obviously that's not okay. I shouldn't have to even specify that lying about a man raping or beating women is horrific.
You can continue to be angry, but don't pretend that the thing you're upset about is what I said.
 
This one is before and after meth, prove me wrong

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EDIT: And this one and before and after Five Guys

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SAAR it is totally anonymous service all women need to do is just upload their driver's licenses, reveal their Apple/Google accounts and identify their smartphones first.



The bottom left one has malice and pain written all over her face I kind of like her.
If you have BPD fetish you could use this as a dating pool.
 
Bro didn't you admitted you are 4/10 and didn't you malded for some 8/10 that you were trying to bang ?
Literally no. I don't know who you are referencing but that's not me.

Here is a novel idea : walk away . You know what women do when they find men not worth their time in general, they get hobbies and cats and walk away
Its a platitude to show the absurdity of the other side, dipshit. Read the rest of the damn chain.
 
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You know, I could write a bunch of shit here about the battle of the sexes/gender wars here, but most of it tends to be rehashed shit from people that can't seem to get laid, so meh on that.

There are levels of irony on display with this that are deeply funny, because they lay bare how much men and women are simply talking past each other. I would agree with the guys that women have a bit too much power in society, but I would agree with the women that men are serial abusers of the power they have in the same one. C'est la vie, even before suffrage, the man did the work to make the home for the woman, and we had some of the same social problems.

What makes it all a tempest in a teacup is the internet. The way you can push any ideal or opinion to anyone who has access to it.

To actually be on topic, this shit is really damn funny. Not for the aforementioned gender war bullshit, but just because of what all this is. A connected fag makes an app that on it's face is about women's safety, leaves user data from a pack of the type of women who everyone discards due to personality or appearance issues in an open area online and it gets found, and the inevitable drama happens, because the women are exactly what you would expect for the most part. Then you add on how incredibly stupid they were to sign up to an app with any sort of ID that could be linked to themselves. I don't really expect normies or women like this to have opsec, that's like expecting your dog to do your taxes for you, but come the fuck on.

Anyways, having waded into both half the population hate threads on here to lurk, I still think they're worth keeping for a few reasons. Half of them are users here trying to do retarded oneumpanship games, and the other all have to do with blowing off steam about life shit with the opposite sex.
 
I don't see what the big whoop is about some of them being not one's cup of tea. It's real life, not everyone is going to be a super model. Yeah some of the pictures are.... unfortunate, but in their defense they were supposed to be just for verification purposes, not like actual profile pics. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and all that.

Also I kind of think everyone nowadays is too looks focused to begin with anyway, when what should really matter is how you click with someone on a personal level. Do you have similar hygiene standards, do you both like the way each other smells naturally (sorry stink does not pass go and phony fragrance doesn't count), do both of you have shared values in life, goals you want to shoot for, and most importantly, schizo theories you can sperg out about together late into the night?

Some of you being like LOL UGLY could be passing up the perfect partner in hating the antichrist just because she got a wonky eye! (:_(

Speaking of schizo theories: what if while everyone is busy slap fighting about the usual gender wars talking points, TPTB use this as yet another chance to trot out the usual tired argument of "look see! We can't trust the unwashed masses with anonymity or even pseudo anonymity online, better ID restrict the entire clear web and further restrict if not outright ban VPN's altogether to protect everyone's privacy and feelings, it's not just about porn anymore/this has gone too far!"?

A lot of people online are already up in arms on various sides about the general topic regarding the UK as well as the whole Shout thing as far as I have seen. I'm curious to see where this all goes once the initial shock (and very probable wave of lawsuits regarding the security fiasco and it's consequences) settles down.

Will it stay in the news cycle and gain traction as a topic, or will ohh jingly keys syndrome buy us a few more years of semi privacy?
 
I feel like I’m a little late to the party on this, but this totally gives me”Bully List” vibes.

And oddly, Vito Gesualdi had a reasonably good take on that.


Point being, this is just uncontrolled stone throwing that anyone can participate in and ruin the lives of random people. And even if there are men that are scum and deserve it, well, there are way too many cases of “sex regret” called “rape” for me to be able to trust anyone with the kind of power this gives them.
 
Speaking of schizo theories: what if while everyone is busy slap fighting about the usual gender wars talking points, TPTB use this as yet another chance to trot out the usual tired argument of "look see! We can't trust the unwashed masses with anonymity or even pseudo anonymity online, better ID restrict the entire clear web and further restrict if not outright ban VPN's altogether to protect everyone's privacy and feelings, it's not just about porn anymore/this has gone too far!"?
If you’re going to accuse someone who isn’t a public figure of being a shit human being for the world to see, you shouldn’t be allowed to do it anonymously, which is what this app will eventually sink into being because people love gossip and shitting on people way too much.

However, in the same vein, I think your take here is correct. If you think that this sort of thing isn’t one of those instances where people will oversimplify an issue to meet some slippery slope political end, well, four words: “Common sense gun control”.
 
I guess the real meat of the whole KF vs TEA thing argument could be, what is a public figure?

Does the subject of the post have a footprint online? Can you scrape it easily and legally?

I wouldn't be surprised if a lot of the dudes getting shit talked on that app, probably have equally as shit opsec as the ladies who just got outed, and could be "phonebooked" just as fast here, if anyone really cared.

Now if the ladies were/are bringing receipts as KF is wont to do (or not and just talking unsubstantiated shit), I have no idea, so I'll bow out for now.
 
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One day , men will have enough of all this crap, the '' you don't hit a woman" rule will never work again after that.
If it’s good for Jon Jones it’s good for me.
90% of the women on that site should be lucky that they even get a match, and yet here they are, on a shit talking app as if they were a supermodel or something.
Their own hive mind has them thinking that they cal always pull 10’s over 6’s. Delusional autism that has been congregating on this website.
These are all the 4s who dont realize the 10 was just having a dry run but think theyre entitled to a relationship. It doesnt help that all their female friends tell them theyre 10s
Don’t you dare out this little secret you sexist pig nigger! How fucking dare you accuse women of such a thing?
Seeing that thread get felted so hard is fucking cathartic after all the shit they've pulled for the past couple years. They really thought they were invincible until their spokeswoman did a BPD split on Null and crashed out.

I hope Dear Feeder learned his lesson. A radfem is still a radfem regardless of how much she hates trannies.
Their time will always come but instead of one tard woman crashing out, we get to see them all crash out.
I see you're intentionally misrepresenting my point, again. I very specifically addressed this point when I said:

You can continue to be angry, but don't pretend that the thing you're upset about is what I said.
Day 2 of waiting for you to convince the farms to respect women.
 
Yeah some of the pictures are.... unfortunate,
Woman speak for very fucking ugly.
Some of you being like LOL UGLY could be passing up the perfect partner in hating the antichrist just because she got a wonky eye! (:_(
Woman speak for I am very fucking ugly and here's why you should date me any way.
Point being, this is just uncontrolled stone throwing that anyone can participate in and ruin the lives of random people
I wonder how many men it impacted. Do most women even google people's names they're going to meet? I should google myself and see how many women say I'm incredible and everyone should date me. I bet it's at least 7 this week alone.

The women are right about the gossip circles being a way bad men got filtered out of the dating pool but they forget there was also the nasty side of things. If you did decide to date the bad boy and ended up pregnant or a known ignorer of advice you were left to deal with it on your own. When you hear stories of women being forced to marry their abuser in white history it's because they were told not to court them, not to get involved and when they did it was now too late to turn back. So they ended up with an abusive partner because they refused to listen and now they had to live with the consequences. Which than made an example out of them. The same way sending a pregnant girl off to another region or boarding school did. Bad girls got made an example out of and it helped the others avoid the same traps. Now no one guides women so they do stupid shit like this and it back fires.
 
, schizo theories you can sperg out about together late into the night?
need a man I can stalk munchies with on the interwebz <3. seriously dude u gets it like totally, it’s not just looks that matter, like I’ve seen so many pathetic moids on the twitter raging over women being with other moids who are like slightly ugly or smth (btw thinking like this only exposes just how shallow you are)

You can be tall, rich, tick all those magical red pill boxes, but it doesn’t matter if your vibes just don't match honestly, like if I can't have deep conversations with you it's just not going to work. Incels stay incels because their personality sucks and feels rotten down to the core and have a total vibe of desperation.

Be interesting, have hobbies, topics you can talk abt for hours, plan out dates well, like if you’re going to a museum learn some of the history first so you can talk abt it while you’re walking around instead of just standing there reading off the wall. IDK why I’m going into dating advice I just love giving tips when I can but seriously it's not hard.

When you grow old with your partner, you’re going to age, grow wrinkles, lose your hair and if looks were all that was holding your weak relationship tougher, it won't last into old age, love isn’t some algorithm it’s a deep connection built on trust and passion for one another.

Woman speak for very fucking ugly.
Most of the women your calling ugly are just 40+ and a bit overweight, seriously do you not understand what aging dose??? Any moid version of this app would have a simmilar looking userbase filled with weird, creepy moids you would totally mock.
 
Most of the women your calling ugly are just 40+ and a bit overweight, seriously do you not understand what aging dose??? Any moid version of this app would have a simmilar looking userbase filled with weird, creepy moids you would totally mock.
I never commented on how ugly the women are. I commented on women's usage of the word unfortunate. It means very fucking ugly in two faced woman speak.

like if you’re going to a museum learn some of the history first so you can talk abt it while you’re walking around instead of just standing there reading off the wall.
This is awful advice. No one ever research an art museum before you go so you can talk about it to a woman. They don't give a fuck and they are more likely to think you're some loser nerd if you do this.

Dates should be shared bonding experiences about a mutual interest and then some food. Movies and dinner are normal dating method because it gives you the movie to talk about during dinner and you shared an experience together. Activities like crazy golf are very good too because they're a funny shared experience. Walking up to a painting and huffing farts is a great way to look very boring and share no experiences together.
 
How about a truce? Let's just say, people of any gender who can't get laid, suck. We all know who they are, everyone knows a stinky weirdo of either gender that just needs to take a shower and wash their genitals extra hard, but they can't just because that's ablest or something.
 
Be interesting, have hobbies, topics you can talk abt for hours, plan out dates well, like if you’re going to a museum learn some of the history first so you can talk abt it while you’re walking around instead of just standing there reading off the wall. IDK why I’m going into dating advice I just love giving tips when I can but seriously it's not hard.

When you grow old with your partner, you’re going to age, grow wrinkles, lose your hair and if looks were all that was holding your weak relationship tougher, it won't last into old age, love isn’t some algorithm it’s a deep connection built on trust and passion for one another.


Most of the women your calling ugly are just 40+ and a bit overweight, seriously do you not understand what aging dose??? Any moid version of this app would have a simmilar looking userbase filled with weird, creepy moids you would totally mock.
You are really giving out these outdated useless platitudes as dating advice in 2025 lol
and ''creepy'' is just code for being ugly. At least be honest
 
How is it women's fault if men are dumb enough to date fat and ugly women? Why would those fat and ugly women turn down an attractive man if he asked her out?
Don't lower your own standards then bitch about it.
I assume there's a mismatch because the attractive women are possibly happier being alone than with someone they don't find attractive, and men deal with being single worse. Idk
This is not what I meant. I'm talking about 3/10s wanting 8/10s minimum because they used to be 4-5/10s on the decile scale and then acting like they were the ones who settled for the average guy. My experiences indicate that men are more likely to know their exact spot on the scale. That's why unattractive men tend to flaunt their money, power and status around. Women on the other hand tried to normalize obesity, herpes, yasslight their fat and/or unattractive friends and even their daughters. I've seen better looking single moms posting thirst traps online while their daughters are spilling out of their clothes like the Stay Puft Marshmallow Man.

Social media proved that attractive women or woman in general are not happier alone.
 
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