Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
No doubt the ugly women using this app think that a Chad is eventually going to commit to them.

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Imagine my surprise seeing women who look like this, getting pumped and dumped, and then screeching about it on an app.

It’s like the digital version of that ol’ phenomenon of 4s and 5s getting together and drowning their sorrows in red wine and ice cream.

“He was a piece of shit, and you’re a QUEEN who deserves BETTER! No you’re not unrealistic for wanting a man who makes six figures! You’re 34! That’s like the best age!”

The downfall of this app is one of the funniest things I’ve seen this year tbh. Even funnier than 4chan getting hacked.
 
I'm telling y'all, you're focusing way too much on looks. Does she think you smell good? Do you think she smells good? Do you have some sort of focal point when it comes to values/goals? That's literally all you need.

Who gives a fuck if someone's eye is funky, or they got chiclet teef? All that shit feels the same when you close your eyes. What's the Benjamin Franklin quote about grey cats?

It's not a big deal. Think about blind people! They don't go through any of this. This is purely eyeball having niggers completely entranced by screens, nothing more nothing less.
 
As I'm sure many have already noticed, there are dozens of photos of the same fucking guy on this site
He's Sean Cook the creator of the site or at least looks too similar. Like 5% of the pictures are his lol
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According to sources around 13,000 verification photos were leaked which is nowhere near the 4 million total userbase. Apparently the exposed bucket dates back to 2024 when they were moving to a different system so he was probably testing shit out or goofing around and forgot to lock it back up LMFAO
What is up with all the obvious men in the leaks? Did the website not have a proper verification system or did they fail the check but kept the data anyway?
Unironically they could be devs or guys on a recon mission
 
Defering what should be a in person social interaction between members of a closely knit community to tech bros has ruined society. The fact that the leak happened is barely a silver lining.

I'm probably part of the minority that thinks the trooned out Josh-selfie in the pile of IDs sort of makes all the collateral damage and society's death spiral worth it.

I don't think it is. The big names were banned. Some of the others are still around but they don't really talk MGTOW stuff any more?

No the mass de-platforming and banning along with right-wing content during the troubles of 2018-2019 had most figures, channels and new comers drop the acronym all together. During pandemic some went full black pill, others abandoned it because they caught a whiff of some vag during early lockdown desperation (kek). A good number moved back to grifting red pillers and workout bros from the Andrew Tate bucket since it was just brimming with hungry, clueless newbies from the mainstream.

If you have BPD fetish you could use this as a dating pool.

Guilty. Not so much a fetish but they do love unconditionally and in an unboundaried way which leaves them prone to astounding levels of gaslighting and manipulation. Like handling any pyrotechnic, you need training and you'll still burn your ass to death someday nigger when you least expect it. But what a show.
 
need a man I can stalk munchies with on the interwebz <3. seriously dude u gets it like totally, it’s not just looks that matter, like I’ve seen so many pathetic moids on the twitter raging over women being with other moids who are like slightly ugly or smth (btw thinking like this only exposes just how shallow you are)
Nice trap you’re setting there, but I refuse to believe there are attractive women into my hobbies.
Post hand pic to prove you’re not a tranny.

You can be tall, rich, tick all those magical red pill boxes, but it doesn’t matter if your vibes just don't match honestly, like if I can't have deep conversations with you it's just not going to work. Incels stay incels because their personality sucks and feels rotten down to the core and have a total vibe of desperation.

Be interesting, have hobbies, topics you can talk abt for hours, plan out dates well, like if you’re going to a museum learn some of the history first so you can talk abt it while you’re walking around instead of just standing there reading off the wall. IDK why I’m going into dating advice I just love giving tips when I can but seriously it's not hard.
Meh… I’m just saying that in my experience, women prefer to just gab endlessly about themselves.

Don’t believe this gaslighting hussy, gentlemen. She’s setting you up to fail. You’ll sperg autistically about your scale modelling hobby, your favorite WW2 tank or the history of some local building, and she’ll post it as an “ick” on some winemom website/app.
 
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This is awful advice. No one ever research an art museum before you go so you can talk about it to a woman. They don't give a fuck and they are more likely to think you're some loser nerd if you do this.
it’s cute and impressive when a guy puts effort into a date and knows what he's talking abt like I'm not telling u to go to an art museum and try to pick up women by sperging abt art till she calls security on you, don't info dump, give her a chance to talk, let her ask questions, be natural with your conversation. But go off king I’m sure you've been on plenty of dates, I’m just giving some pretty simple advice like it doesn't hurt to learn.

You are really giving out these outdated useless platitudes as dating advice in 2025 lol
and ''creepy'' is just code for being ugly. At least be honest
I'm just trying to help honestly, good dating advice has to be individualised and super specific, most men are 90% there just need to change a few small things like, actually having a bed frame or not dumping all your clothes on the floor in a pile, not having a literal piss towel next to the toilet, just basic things to improve on <3
 
I'm telling y'all, you're focusing way too much on looks. Does she think you smell good? Do you think she smells good? Do you have some sort of focal point when it comes to values/goals? That's literally all you need.
No offense but this sounds like something a blind dude would say.

Though yeah, looks are overrated. None of us will look like we did in their 20ies when we’re 40.
 
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Don’t believe this gaslighting hussy, gentlemen. She’s setting you up to fail. You’ll speed autistically about your scale modelling hobby, your favorite WW2 tank or the history of some local building, and she’ll post it as an “ick” on some winemom website/app.
"Just get some hobbies bro!" is far and away the worst of the worst dating advice anyone can receive. Ask them what examples of good male hobbies are. Nine times out of ten it's either going to be some reddit-tier horseshit or just a thinly veiled excuse for you to spend more money on her. Last thread where hobbies were mentioned, when pressed, the poster in question cited travel, boating, and jewelrycrafting. In other words, buy me trips to places, have an expensive boat for me to enjoy, or make me some bling-bling.

I know I'm asking for the moon here, but I really wish they'd at be a little honest and just say "have expensive stuff for me to enjoy". Then guys could at least cut through the horseshit LARP of pretending they're actually spending their spare time handcrafting leather goods or barrel aging whiskey or whatever retard reddit-approved prop hobby.
 
I'm just trying to help honestly, good dating advice has to be individualised and super specific, most men are 90% there just need to change a few small things like, actually having a bed frame or not dumping all your clothes on the floor in a pile,
Bed frames? Duh, why would you need a woman at all, if not for those nesting touches they bring. ;)

You’re fine as you are. Just believe in yourselves bros.

And if you ever get random women giving you their phone number, do something about it. Don’t wait a decade and realize: “Huh, I guess I was pretty good looking in my teens and twenties! Too bad I was too much of a sperg to do something about it!”
 
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I'm just trying to help honestly, good dating advice has to be individualised and super specific, most men are 90% there just need to change a few small things like, actually having a bed frame or not dumping all your clothes on the floor in a pile, not having a literal piss towel next to the toilet, just basic things to improve on <3

This is what I love about women, they will turn your bathroom into an abattoir but then complain about your piss towel.
 
"Just get some hobbies bro!" is far and away the worst of the worst dating advice anyone can receive. Ask them what examples of good male hobbies are. Nine times out of ten it's either going to be some reddit-tier horseshit or just a thinly veiled excuse for you to spend more money on her. Last thread where hobbies were mentioned, when pressed, the poster in question cited travel, boating, and jewelrycrafting. In other words, buy me trips to places, have an expensive boat for me to enjoy, or make me some bling-bling.

I know I'm asking for the moon here, but I really wish they'd at be a little honest and just say "have expensive stuff for me to enjoy". Then guys could at least cut through the horseshit LARP of pretending they're actually spending their spare time handcrafting leather goods or barrel aging whiskey or whatever retard reddit-approved prop hobby.
Fucking this. When you hear: “Have some hobbies” it means “be interested in foods so you can take me on expensive restaurants” or “be interested in travel, so I can get some free trips.”

It doesn’t mean: “Tell me about your scale modelling, and how the He219 was the first plane with a catapult”, it definitely doesn’t mean “Tell me about your watch collection unless it’s worth six figures”, and it never means: “Oh, you’re into woodworking and ring making.”
 
No offense but this sounds like something a blind dude would say.

Though yeah, looks are overrated. None of us will look like we did in their 20ies when we’re 40.
I'm just saying bro, if it's this bad in your 20s/30s, how do you think it'll be in your 40s/50s/60s?

It really doesn't matter. By the time you're old enough to care about what you "bitch" looks like, you'll be so decrepit and fucked. The shit they're teaching you, the shit they're feeding you? It's SHIT. ABSOLUTE DOGSHIT.

Find someone you get along with and vibe with, and you'll be way ahead of the curve, who gives a fuck what they look like.
 
I'm just saying bro, if it's this bad in your 20s/30s, how do you think it'll be in your 40s/50s/60s?

It really doesn't matter. By the time you're old enough to care about what you "bitch" looks like, you'll be so decrepit and fucked. The shit they're teaching you, the shit they're feeding you? It's SHIT. ABSOLUTE DOGSHIT.

Find someone you get along with and vibe with, and you'll be way ahead of the curve, who gives a fuck what they look like.
True.

Women have been ruined by social media and romance novels though, and men on their part have been ruined by porn.

Everyone has the FOMO and constantly think someone better may come along. They won’t. Think long term, kings!

Shit, out grandparents married in their 20ies, sometimes after a year, and stayed together for decades.

You don’t need an app, you don’t need algorithms that match you. And you def don’t need hobbies, unless it’s for your own satisfaction.

All you need is a little chemistry, making a good team, and the willingness to say: Yup, this is it!
 
Don’t believe this gaslighting hussy, gentlemen. She’s setting you up to fail. You’ll sperg autistically about your scale modelling hobby, your favorite WW2 tank or the history of some local building, and she’ll post it as an “ick” on some winemom website/app.
As nerdy as I am I have impressed women with scale modeling. Women love seeing cool dragons well painted in your display cabinet.
I’m just giving some pretty simple advice like it doesn't hurt to learn.
You're giving bad advice that doesn't work. It's the same advice women always give and it always fails because it's bad advice. How many of these Tea women are giving the same advice then acting angry when their pussy dries up? Walking around a Museum is boring, there's nothing to bond over. Crazy golf makes you both laugh. You have bad shots or you get to help each other. It makes you laugh and have a shared experience. It's bonding. A woman will take a man who makes her laugh and involves her in thing over a man who knows who painted something you walk up to then walk away from.
not dumping all your clothes on the floor in a pil
Women do that way more than men do. Women are messy as hell and always say men do the same. My last girlfriend had piles of clothes in the corner. Piles of them. She wasn't dirty, just messy.
 
The reason these women are single and bitter is because they are not just ugly outside, but inside too.
Facts.
There are many ugly women who are lovely people who have large families and husbands who love them. Just like there are many gorgeous women who'll never amount to anything but a pump and dump or a narcissist arm candy because they're the human equivalent of a candy coated turd. Then of course there are women who are beautiful, kind, caring, and talented, because it's important to let the rest of know that we are not in fact good enough.
 
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