Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
The underhanded nature of this app's format is absolutely nauseating, and I'd be very surprised if it would be tolerated if the genders were reversed.

So let's get this straight, you make an app which can only be accessed by women, who can then share pictures and personal information of various men without the men knowing, so that said men have no way of responding to potentially unsubstantiated and malicious rumors about them as a consequence of the information being hidden from them?

I can think of no argument which can be made in support of this, because if the point is to identify abusive or untrustworthy men, then surely it is in every woman's interest for that information to be made public? The only discernible logic to keeping it private is that it allows bad actors to shield themselves from justifiable legal action.
 
As of writing this, the top of the leaderboard looks like this:
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Sean actually makes another top 50 appearance as a different photo.
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The voters showcase their shit taste by putting KINO pre-workout supplements and a refreshing can of Dr. Pepper this low.
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I counted all the non-female spots on the leaderboard and it's 23/50. Add the 2 instances of Sean and it's a solid half :story:

Ok I really have to go back to this even though this is on page 4 because it has got to be one of the most myopic things I've read all week. Women are a very insecure and jealous creature, arguably even moreso than the average incel, and everyone knows this but ESPECIALLY other women know it the most.

With that being established "Tea" is an app designed for the express purpose of:
  • cataloging random irl men
  • having women write anonymous reviews of these men
  • giving these men basically a score based on these anonymous reviews
  • giving users the authority to assign "red flags" to different men
Do you REALLY think that ANY woman would be using this app to go "yeah brad is such a great guy, y'all should date/fuck him"? Do you think that's how anyone's mind works, let alone the average woman's? Do you not think that given this kind of platform, with the anonymity that was promised, that people would ONLY use it for the sole purpose of slandering and destroying the reputations of men that they have once fucked or went out with and encourage others to do the same?

Obviously the app was never gonna be used to elevate "good men", it was always gonna be used for the express purpose of cataloguing guys, accusing them of all manner of foul behavior on a place where they have no platform to defend themselves, and try to attach a big asterisk to any of their future romantic or sexual endeavors, if you think it was gonna be used for any other purpose you're either in denial or you're a drooling retard who doesn't understand how human beings, let alone women, work.
Internet people can't even make useful reviews for products 99% of the time, of course they're gonna be even shittier and near useless when it's about a non-objective thing like dating. Listening to hearsay is only useful if you're hearing it in person, from someone whose judgments you trust.
 
Normalizing “icks” have really been a disaster for dating. It basically encourages the person to not get involved and hope for a better catch to come along. Grass is always greener and all that, and the thief of joy is comparison.

"The Ick" is a psychological defense mechanism against the promotion of healthy introspection in oneself. If it served as some evolutionary device for sorting out the worth of mates, then it assumes the women today who use it as an excuse for their belligerence are themselves objectively desirable.

It's not ME being impatient or overly judgemental, ME being too lazy to engage with him, ME lacking in the commitment to want to explore and connect with someone I'm interested in; he did something or has some completely arbitrary imperfection, so it's HIS fault I'm dumping him to the curb and ruining his reputation online.

It can't be my unhealthy choices leaving me in pain, it's that damned fibromyalgia.
 
I mean, I don't care for the majority of what @Lidl Drip says, but she's not wrong when she says this site is overwhelmingly, comically misogynistic, which does alienate otherwise sympathetic women. Just look at this thread, it's dozens of pages of dudes saying shit like all women are dumb whores and barely people, shouldn't be allowed to vote, so on and so forth, and they all have the Good Stickers™. Can you blame women on this site for developing the opinion that men are misogynistic pigs out to get them when every thread even tangentially related to women is filled with these sentiments?
Ayy man. I'm gonna level with you. They should get over themselves. I'm mixed race ok. You know how many times I've seen shit like nigger lover or coalburner posted in this thread alone? A lot. You'll put this energy in for pussy but nothing else. They should get the fuck over themselves. They don't HAVE to interact with people they don't like. I don't interact with people saying shit like coalburner and I'm not over her sperging out about it and trying to form an army over it. I mean this literally. They should shut the fuck up and get over it. Don't interact with those people. The site LITERALLY has an ignore button. Learn to use it.
 
"The ick" is a woman's defense against pairing up with a man who would be unwilling or unable to kill a nigger that attacked her. He might be qualified in other ways (good provider, nice-looking, kind to her), but he lacks that hint of strength, will, and violence that would turn on should a rampaging pavement ape set our fair maiden in his sights. As society has become more and more feminized (due, of course, to the political power of women), and men have become weaker and lamer, women get "the ick" a lot more easily.

The solution, of course, is to remove the vote from women so that we can have a judicial system that doesn't come down like a sack of bricks on a man who simply does what any man ought to do.

This man does not give women "the ick." More men should be like him.
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Unfortunately, women also think homeless niggers are uwu smol beanies, which is why so few men are like him these days.
 
"The Ick" is a psychological defense mechanism against the promotion of healthy introspection in oneself. If it served as some evolutionary device for sorting out the worth of mates, then it assumes the women today who use it as an excuse for their belligerence are themselves objectively desirable.

It's not ME being impatient or overly judgemental, ME being too lazy to engage with him, ME lacking in the commitment to want to explore and connect with someone I'm interested in; he did something or has some completely arbitrary imperfection, so it's HIS fault I'm dumping him to the curb and ruining his reputation online.

It can't be my unhealthy choices leaving me in pain, it's that damned fibromyalgia.

This armchair psychology is the best. The ick has evolved, there are all kinds of tiktok "challenges" now, go to the first date without wearing makeup, pretend to forget his name, act like you hate his shirt. There are hundreds of thousands of these.

When previously women went on dates to find an "ick" so they can ghost the guy and post it on social medial to complain and get hugs. Now they pre-emptively try to destroy the date and then complain on social media to get hugs. Icks are now gone, theyz xgeneration only goes on dates to get stories about shaming the other sex to boost their instagram numbers.

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It's all about the fucking numbers.
 
bro this is fucking hilarious!

The US government getting secret military bases exposed by retarded women using a retarded app is something i didnt have on my fuckin bingo card LMAO.

I remember the whole metadata scare happened like a decade ago or longer when people would post images on facebook and their location would still be in the photo. I thought most websites fixed this problem already but I guess not :story:
 
When previously women went on dates to find an "ick" so they can ghost the guy and post it on social medial to complain and get hugs. Now they pre-emptively try to destroy the date and then complain on social media to get hugs. Icks are now gone, theyz xgeneration only goes on dates to get stories about shaming the other sex to boost their instagram numbers.

I feel a lot of the retarded zoomer Tiktok influencers that said they AKSHUALLY just choose men to date based on their dox and green flags listed on the Tea App were paid shills.
 
The app is still on the app store. 'Tea dating advice'. It makes you take a photo, cant select an image from your device. I am guessing who ever reviews these is some indian hired via some shit like mechanical turk for .0005 cents a picture.
You can supposedly open a ticket with apple or play store if you have a picture on there of you and theyll remove it.
 
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The women are nation wreckers meme in full force, God I hope something happens due to this because it would be the funniest thing to happen this year.

You can be tall, rich, tick all those magical red pill boxes, but it doesn’t matter if your vibes just don't match honestly, like if I can't have deep conversations with you it's just not going to work. Incels stay incels because their personality sucks and feels rotten down to the core and have a total vibe of desperation.

Be interesting, have hobbies, topics you can talk abt for hours, plan out dates well, like if you’re going to a museum learn some of the history first so you can talk abt it while you’re walking around instead of just standing there reading off the wall. IDK why I’m going into dating advice I just love giving tips when I can but seriously it's not hard.
I don't think you understand dating for men born after ~1995. You are just regurgitating mainstream media incel views and millennial reddit points.
 
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