Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
What point do you think this proves??? This totally beyond any doubt an entirely different scenario, I put my tampons in the bin, not on the floor. Also throwing MY discharge back in MY face is more than enough to justify having that moid arrested for assault, piss is generally sterile. You really didn't think through Blood ≠ Piss. I've stood my ground and demanded charges against a patient who threw a bellovac at me and then had to deal with the subsequent haemorrhage all while he was being combative, just because this moid felt the drain should've been taken out in the PACU??? Even after all that I was hung out to dry by my NUM, heart of a nurse and all <3
The point is that you are at fault.

You keep ignoring the key fact that you went into a room that you weren’t supposed too.

How do you know that every single tampon ends up in a bin? Your trash never gets knocked over?

And how did you know it was sterile? If it was so sterile why were you so grossed out about it and threw it at him?You threw his discharge back at him.

The thing is, I think the rag shit is gross and grounds to break it off with him, but you had no way of learning about it if you didn’t violate his privacy. This would look so much better on you if you didn’t willingly enter a room he specifically told you not too.
 
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"Mars Attacks" expressionist is my new screensaver.
 
Lemme pull up the smallest violin here for fuckboy being outed for small dick. Using his kid and divorce to get the review removed so he can whore around. This is the very srs business bros. His ex would use it lmao , court literally need more than his dick is small and he is dbag on dates to remove custody.
Since you are not American, let me give you an example of how this plays out in divorce court.

Wife's Lawyer claims "Husband is abusive, and here's some supplemental evidence of so. He's rated with red flags on an app known as Tea, a website where women report men with abusive tendencies by other women he's dated."

You don't have to show what the review actually is, the lawyer just has to use it to frame you in a negative light.

This is what's known the Human Factor. The judge doesn't care what's actually in the review, he just cares that someone was "hurt enough by your actions" to put you there. Is that enough to get custody removed? On its own, no. Is it enough that the judge goes out of his way to royally fuck you for completely unfair reasons? Absolutely. You don't understand how absolutely vicious American Divorce Court. Its completely unfair and evidence regardless of quality is always considered because these matters aren't criminal and it's biased towards women 9 times out of 10. In other countries, this isn't as bad. In America Divorce Court, they don't care if alimony or child support payments render you homeless. They just say "lol get a better job". There's a reason all this red pill stuff caught on in America and Tea can absolutely be used to fuck men in court. Some judges might not care, but others absolutely will consider it. Regardless of whether or not it's something as mundane as "didn't tip the waiter enough. He's cheap".
 
The point is that you are at fault.

You keep ignoring the key fact that you went into a room that you weren’t supposed too.

How do you know that every single tampon ends up in a bin? Your trash never gets knocked over?

And how did you know it was sterile? If it was so sterile why were you so grossed out about it and threw it at him?You threw his discharge back at him.

The thing is, I think the rag shit is gross and grounds to break it off with him, but you had no way of learning about it if you didn’t violate his privacy. This would look so much better on you if you didn’t willingly enter a room he specifically told you not too.
"Imagine if you left your tampons on the floor"
"But I didn't though"
 
Also lol mattress on the floor , can't handle liquor., dick small This is it guys life ruined.
Having people online saying you're an alcoholic wouldn't be good for your custody case.
the moid mind is devoid of any awareness of others struggles other then of his own dick.
You lack any self awareness don't you piss whore? Women like you make men hate women more than anything else on the planet. You are a vile creature no one likes. Even your work that will back their own up 100% won't back you up. You're kryptonite and only posting here because no one will tolerate you IRL.
 
piss is generally sterile
If piss is sterile, then why did you care that your moid pissed all over his towel? It was clean by your logic.
So just totally done with this conversation I've left it for house yet you moids just want to keep beating this dead horse, no I don't have kids and yes i respect the incredibly brave suffragettes and women who fought for all the rights we have today, public bathrooms for women just didn't exist, effectively confining women to the house even when we earned the right to leave the home in the early 19th century, you don't know just how far women have come, and still how far we still need to progress to truly achieve equality, the moid mind is devoid of any awareness of others struggles other then of his own dick.
I'm convinced you're a secret incel doing counter-propaganda against the femoid race. There's no way you're this much of a stereotypical retard woman. You're like Lidl Drip blackface.
 
The same goes for you ladies--imagine trying to craft when he's right there with a tube of glitter and a roll of rick-rack every time you want to crank out a quick coozy or anniversary card. Imagine if HE has special pots and pans in the kitchen that nobody is allowed to touch either. What if he wants to fucking watch 'Live Island'? My stars, the absolute CHAOS.

I don't think gay men are interested in dating women.
 
What point do you think this proves??? This totally beyond any doubt an entirely different scenario, I put my tampons in the bin, not on the floor.
how about a scenario where your bin simply fell over, spilling your endometrium-soaked pussplugs onto the floor, and then he walks in to the bathroom you forbade him
Also throwing MY discharge back in MY face is more than enough to justify having that moid arrested for assault, piss is generally sterile. You really didn't think through Blood ≠ Piss.
I don't think you need something soaked in bodily fluids to make an arrest for assault, foid.
I've stood my ground and demanded charges against a patient who threw a bellovac at me and then had to deal with the subsequent haemorrhage all while he was being combative,
Given your narratives I don't believe you "stood your ground" as the defensive party, nor that he was "being combative" without good reason.
just because this moid felt the drain should've been taken out in the PACU???
"How dare that patient be upset with my care! I'M A NUUURRRRSSSE"
Even after all that I was hung out to dry by my NUM, heart of a nurse and all <3
Sounds like your manager found you were wrong then.
 
Since you are not American, let me give you an example of how this plays out in divorce court.

Wife's Lawyer claims "Husband is abusive, and here's some supplemental evidence of so. He's rated with red flags on an app known as Tea, a website where women report men with abusive tendencies by other women he's dated."

You don't have to show what the review actually is, the lawyer just has to use it to frame you in a negative light.

This is what's known the Human Factor. The judge doesn't care what's actually in the review, he just cares that someone was "hurt enough by your actions" to put you there. Is that enough to get custody removed? On its own, no. Is it enough that the judge goes out of his way to royally fuck you for completely unfair reasons? Absolutely. You don't understand how absolutely vicious American Divorce Court. Its completely unfair and evidence regardless of quality is always considered because these matters aren't criminal and it's biased towards women 9 times out of 10. In other countries, this isn't as bad. In America Divorce Court, they don't care if alimony or child support payments render you homeless. They just say "lol get a better job". There's a reason all this red pill stuff caught on in America and Tea can absolutely be used to fuck men in court. Some judges might not care, but others absolutely will consider it. Regardless of whether or not it's something as mundane as "didn't tip the waiter enough. He's cheap".
Except abusers and rapists getting visitation rights and b the average woman doesnt have that good and that expensive lawyer c i doubt a jusge will buy it without reading the comments . If courts are that shitty and that easily manipulated , when you are in midst of a custody battle and divorce KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED. If his kids matter soo much why is he whoring around with strange women ? Is that hard to keep it in the pants?

Isn't the consequences of his actions. Men will do everything to avoid accountability for their actions.
 
Meanwhile the male version of this protecting men from cheating slores and BPD eyed monsters flinging around rape and DV accusations gets shadowrealmed within a week for being misogynistic and "incel hatespeech".
Society won't let men have their own safe space we cant change that. We can however keep women from having one. Equality bitch!
 
Except abusers and rapists getting visitation rights and b the average woman doesnt have that good and that expensive lawyer c i doubt a jusge will buy it without reading the comments . If courts are that shitty and that easily manipulated , when you are in midst of a custody battle and divorce KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED. If his kids matter soo much why is he whoring around with strange women ? Is that hard to keep it in the pants?

Isn't the consequences of his actions. Men will do everything to avoid accountability for their actions.

If that serial dater really was an alchie with a small penis, erectile dysfunction, a child from a past relationship, and a floor mattress bed without even the attempt to explain he's sleeping Japanese style that actually says way more about women to me.
 
Sorry but in a relationship I'm not filling the role of this manchilds mother, get it through your head women are not just domestic servants to clean, piss shit, and trash off the floor your all grown men here show some actual maturity, it's seriously pathetic how men are completely unhygienic without a women there to baby them, you love to go off all abt how immature women are and then literally defend a fucking piss towel to the ends of the earth, I'm totally dumbfounded by this moid behaviour my girlfriends instantly called out this moids disgusting behaviour, yet you all seem incapable of any self awareness.
Here's a word of advice, which I'm sure you will absolutely take to heart. Men are simple creatures. This was the guy's own house so he's been living in a way that was clearly comfortable and worked for him. Any man who cares about you will change. It's in our genes to have to prove ourselves so we're used to making change for the sake of what we want. If you didn't throw a fit he probably would've made sure that everything was clean for you. He obviously knew the piss towel was not appropriate or embarrassed by it hence why he asked you not to enter. If the piss towel was getting in the way of having a woman over he'll clean up. I know this isn't 100%, there are plenty of men that are just retarded and gross, but from your own story this guy was clean and put together in every other regard. I have no reason to believe he wouldn't have picked up after himself.

You say you don't want to act like his mother, well you sure as hell did when you tried to scold him like a toddler for not cleaning up his room. You're mad that he got defensive when you literally assaulted him. If the roles were reversed and he threw a piss towel at you, you'd be crying and calling the police about how you were brutally abused. You're shocked that screaming at somebody didn't get total compliance. You violated a boundary that he clearly set in his own home. Despite all this you are so hung up on the existence of the piss towel, that you believe it justifies any and all behavior. No one is saying it's not gross and weird. But now you want to come here and scold everyone else because you got rejected and the rest of the world isn't giving you the same validation that your girlfriends gave you. Next time, try not acting like a bitch, and you might actually get what you want.
 
Except abusers and rapists getting visitation rights
This is a blatant lie other western countries love to tell. America does not fuck around and they have some of the toughest laws on domestic violence. If there's even a suspicion of domestic abuse, the cops will come and arrest me and remove me from my own home regardless of ownership status, while they conduct an investigation. If you genuinely hit your wife or children in any provable way, you lose divorce court outright. If you're dumb enough to threaten your wife over something like a text message, you instantly lose your custody. There are no second chances in America.

Ironically it's other western countries that force women to give abusers visitation rights.

average woman doesnt have that good and that expensive lawyer
You can actually block your spouse out of nearby lawyers. If you go to discuss your case with them, they cannot serve the other spouse. You can pretty efficiently block your spouse out of lawyers you don't want them to have by visiting them before serving divorce papers.

i doubt a jusge will buy it without reading the comments
You give judges a lot more credit than you should. Court plays out faster than you think it does and in real time you don't have chances to parce through every detail and the judge might not even give your lawyer a chance to before moving on to something else. Divorce Court lawyers encourage the women to lie about abuse literally all the time, regardless of whether or not it actually happened. Its impossible to prove and punish a lawyer for lying about abuse. American divorce court is purely fights over money and assets. Custody is usually defaulted to mothers and it's an uphill battle to change that default.

Funnily enough, my friend had her lawyer try to do this last week. Her husband is an absolute idiot though, she offered to let him keep his pension but she wanted the alimony and child support. Its a golden deal and he should take it. I don't think he realized what he was getting into by divorcing though.

If his kids matter soo much why is he whoring around with strange women ? Is that hard to keep it in the pants?
You're asking a lot of people and you know it.
 
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