midsummernightmares- Man Lite (demiboy) [score hidden] 9 hours ago
Same here. I will say that I’m gay, so I don’t have experience dating women, but I have struggled a lot to make friends with a lot of cis women (mostly cishet women) since several of them have either tried to reduce me to their “adorable femboy gay-best-friend” because I’m “not like a normal man!” or have viewed me as a traitor to womanhood and tried to convince me to detransition, even without factoring in the horrifying way they speak about other trans people around me (insinuating that straight men shouldn’t date trans women, being dismissive of nonbinary people that they see as “weird,” etc.). It feels like everybody who’s cis is allowed to get away with transphobia though, not just women.
[–]averageTdude [score hidden] 9 hours ago
have viewed me as a traitor to womanhood and tried to convince me to detransition
U serious? That is nuts
(insinuating that straight men shouldn’t date trans women
Ive def heard lots of that even from cis het women who consider themselves "allies"
[–]midsummernightmares- Man Lite (demiboy) [score hidden] 9 hours ago
Yeah, that first part is a pretty common piece of TERF rhetoric and unfortunately a lot of people have fallen for it
Ok-Split-6143-

MAR 2025 [score hidden] 9 hours ago
We owe it to OURSELVES. Cis women are often horrible to trans men. I've been told I just needed to be a lesbian, fix my hormones, pray more, have children, "grow up", etc etc. All by cis women. Many trans men have heard the same and worse. Transphobic women are always transphobic. Obviously I will stand with trans women until I fall, but I'm standing for us trans men, too. We really aren't more safe.
[–]averageTdude [score hidden] 9 hours ago
Im so sorry thats been your experience. I will admit my lil circle is very progressive and queer friendly. That might be why I've had such good luck with women in my life..
I agree transphobic women in general need to be called out.
[–]OspreyFTM-


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'24 [score hidden] 8 hours ago
I've experienced more transphobia in queer groups dominated by cis and trans women than anywhere else in my life tbh (besides the internet). I'm glad that hasn't been your experience but I'm legitimately afraid of those spaces now because some of the stuff they did to me was traumatic.
Spirally-Boi- Trans Woman/Fem Guest [score hidden] 9 hours ago
I've dated queerphobic cis women before transitioning, and they ditched me for being bisexual. It's not just when it comes to dating trans women, they seem to be disgusted by queer men. It's gross.
[–]averageTdude [score hidden] 9 hours ago
Oh I also know of those type very well. Cis het women can be not only homo/transphobic but... the greatest enforcers of patriarchal gender roles. It is gross indeed.
[–]OspreyFTM-


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'24 [score hidden] 9 hours ago
Women are not more accepting and open minded. I've actually thought to myself thank god I'm mostly attracted to men so I don't have to deal with het dating because a lot of cis women have been super weird about my transition. The most transphobic family members I have are all women, and the cruelest bigot I've ever met in real life was a trans woman. That being said, I've encountered plenty of horrors from men too, and online I mostly get harassed by trans men lol
Himbo69 [score hidden] 8 hours ago
Weirdly enough I've encountered more transphobic women than men. I recently came out at work and every male coworker is gendering me correctly w no problem meanwhile only 2 women I work with are gendering me correctly. It's been 3 months so maybe it'll get better in the future...
[–]Himbo69 [score hidden] 8 hours ago
Now that I think about it, I think women are perceived as less transphobic bc they're less vocal than men. Women (as I'm sure all of us know) are pretty discouraged from being anything but polite submissive and palatable, so voicing opinions so strongly isn't great optics. Guys usually don't care when I come out (though it is definitely patronizing and feels like "sure I'll play along little guy haha") but women get far more visibly - yet nonverbally uncomfortable in my presence. Just something to think about I guess
quixotictictic- FtM|39|HRT Feb 2024 [score hidden] 6 hours ago
I've run into women who are transphobic only towards FtM. They accept cis, MtF, genderqueer, non-binary, gender fluid, transmasc but female identifying, agender... literally everyone but us.
It upsets me because my supposed male privilege won't keep me from being forced to carry and give birth in my state. As far as the law and our general society is concerned, I'm still a woman and always will be whether I pass or not. Feminism should be a place where I belong and where my voice is welcome. But I am finding overwhelmingly that it is not.
Feminism is supposed to be the big tent movement. It was burdened with including and helping everyone to ensure its failure, yet feminists have traditionally risen to the challenge to advocate for things that would make everyone's lives better, even cis men's.
It breaks my heart to see the exclusion and division. No wonder so many trans men go stealth and drop out of LGBTQ+ and feminist activism. There are only so many times any of us are willing to get dragged before we learn to shut up, keep our heads down, and stop advocating for ourselves or anyone else.
[–]East-Information-448 [score hidden] 4 hours ago
Most transphobia I have faced personally has been by women. Of the handful of times it was a dude, I was actually able to open him up a bit and get him to at least ponder if not fully come around. The women were straight up mean and immediately resorted to insults and bullying as soon as they didn't have anything intellectual to say.
Transphobia should not be given a pass in any context.
And to all the cis women who have belittled me, I say again: I am not a masculine woman, I am not a tomboy, my existence is not taking away the butch lesbians, for the love of mother earth STOP
[–]Significant_Carrot81-

06/15/23 [score hidden] 7 hours ago
Post question: yes, yes they are. Most transphobia is hidden under the guise of feminism or "protecting women and children" (transmisogyny) or "saving the poor confused brainwashed lesbians" (transandrophobia).
But just a heads up, saying "transwoman" with no space in between trans and woman is specifically a TERF thing. Make sure you put the space so no one gets any bad ideas.