r/polyamory

[bearycool]

So as a psychologist, I want to say something: polyamory is completely fine, in theory, given the basic definition the OP gave. However, this subreddit really is not anywhere close to that fucking ideal, and it's downright sad.

 

[ICametoLurk]

What is NRE?

http://archive.is/2LlLH

https://archive.is/GakeL

>tfw prego cause of GF's Husband
https://archive.is/acsEb

Wife suddenly is becoming jealous when 8 months prego
https://archive.is/TW5k4

Husband is suddenly jealous when wife of 8 years is prego from BF
https://archive.is/suHtF

Not on r/polyarmory but a Redditor makes a thread on r/gaming about how he has been trying to get wife prego for 7 long years and she's finally prego, wife comes and posts and turns out she's a r/polarmory member

https://archive.is/VT7ah

Also this whole Reddit thread is full of people talking about how wonderful it is that he got literally cucked.
http://archive.is/I3uS3

Not only that but Shit Reddit Says makes fun of people who say that he got cucked in this thread and how if you don't like people getting cucked you are immature.
https://www.reddit.com/r/ShitReddit...shit_you_post_in_rpolyamory_hahahaha_hes_100/
Archive: http://archive.is/1779T

 

[Caesare]

I've also seen some article about a year ago trying to tell black people that they should try to be polyamorus because it'll somehow heal racial PTSD or something.

Black ppl don't need an article to tell them to be cheaters.

 

[bearycool]

of course you rated me optimistic @ICametoLurk lol. Honestly, after reading all of this, it seems like these people just do not understand how love works: they seem to have a hard concept of even loving themselves, let alone others. They're autistic and dumb because they just don't know how even a simple monogamous relationship works, let alone having a shitton of other people into your life in such an intimate way.

 

[ICametoLurk]

Wife tells Husband whose previous wife cheated on him that she wants an open relationship, husband gets so wrecked he's literally unable to eat.
http://archive.is/kSgTh

Boyfriend lies to his polyamory GF all the time about working late, having sex, or doing anything but turns out all that time he's been renting hotel rooms to cry for hours until his body can't take more and falls asleep.
http://archive.is/oKbRH

Marriage of 10 years decides to be poly, not only does their marriage get destroyed but also they get diseases and their friendships get wiped out.
http://archive.is/M18b0

Threesome with sociopath turns into a horror story as sociopath tries the best to break up their 20 year marriage through a complex web of lies and deceit.
http://archive.is/69qtx

 

[bearycool]

Wife tells Husband whose previous wife cheated on him that she wants an open relationship, husband gets so wrecked he's literally unable to eat.
http://archive.is/kSgTh

Boyfriend lies to his polyamory GF all the time about working late, having sex, or doing anything but turns out all that time he's been renting hotel rooms to cry for hours until his body can't take more and falls asleep.
http://archive.is/oKbRH

Marriage of 10 years decides to be poly, not only does their marriage get destroyed but also they get diseases and their friendships get wiped out.
http://archive.is/M18b0

Threesome with sociopath turns into a horror story as sociopath tries the best to break up their 20 year marriage through a complex web of lies and deceit.
http://archive.is/69qtx

Tl;dr summary: people are stupid and don't seem to get that opening a marriage is a lot more complicated than you think lol.

ugh, these people are so dumb.

 

[Scratch This Nut]

What is NRE?
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http://archive.is/2LlLH

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https://archive.is/GakeL

>tfw prego cause of GF's Husband
https://archive.is/acsEb

Wife suddenly is becoming jealous when 8 months prego
https://archive.is/TW5k4

Husband is suddenly jealous when wife of 8 years is prego from BF
https://archive.is/suHtF

Not on r/polyarmory but a Redditor makes a thread on r/gaming about how he has been trying to get wife prego for 7 long years and she's finally prego, wife comes and posts and turns out she's a r/polarmory member
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https://archive.is/VT7ah

Also this whole Reddit thread is full of people talking about how wonderful it is that he got literally cucked.
http://archive.is/I3uS3

Not only that but Shit Reddit Says makes fun of people who say that he got cucked in this thread and how if you don't like people getting cucked you are immature.
https://www.reddit.com/r/ShitReddit...shit_you_post_in_rpolyamory_hahahaha_hes_100/
Archive: http://archive.is/1779T
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The one with the wife who got pregnant by her boyfriend really made me see red. How could they be so irresponsible? Like if they were trying for kids why not take a break from being poly? And even if she did get an abortion I'd be amazed if their marriage actually survived. You don't just walk away from that.

 

[Haesindang Park]

Talk about an orgy gone bad!

 

[bearycool]

The one with the wife who got pregnant by her boyfriend really made me see red. How could they be so irresponsible? Like if they were trying for kids why not take a break from being poly? And even if she did get an abortion I'd be amazed if their marriage actually survived. You don't just walk away from that.

See, polyamory works more for gay men. I dunno about these straight folk and their ability on getting pregnant, but it's absolutely irresponsible to do this shit if you can't even use protection for that shit.

 

[Caesare]

See, polyamory works more for gay men. I dunno about these straight folk and their ability on getting pregnant, but it's absolutely irresponsible to do this shit if you can't even use protection for that shit.

Absolutely. The gay male lifestyle is conducive to having multiple sexual partners. I remember taking sex ed freshman year of college, the professor said in a recent poll given to 30 somethings and the number of sexual partners they've had in their lifetimes, heterosexual men and woman would have an average of anywhere from 3-12 partners. Homosexual men had something like 60 lol.

 

[Ceci]

Boyfriend lies to his polyamory GF all the time about working late, having sex, or doing anything but turns out all that time he's been renting hotel rooms to cry for hours until his body can't take more and falls asleep.
http://archive.is/oKbRH

Jesus Christ, these people are fucking heartless. The guy loves his GF, she tells him that she wants to fuck other dudes, and the dude grins and bears it just to make the girl he loves happy and these people have the nerve to say he's the one at fault here? I get being unassertive is his own issue, but are they really trying to frame a guy feeling sad that his gf fucks other men as a bad thing?
Relationships usually work out best when there's a strong sense of empathy between both parties. These guys seem to have no empathy at all, which explains why their romantic tangles always end up self-destructing.

 

[Crunchy Leaf]

See, polyamory works more for gay men. I dunno about these straight folk and their ability on getting pregnant, but it's absolutely irresponsible to do this shit if you can't even use protection for that shit.

also because men don't have feelings jk
I've definitely read about a number of seemingly successful three dude poly trios, and it definitely seems more common, but I refuse to believe it isn't also a shitshow a lot of the time. Especially if it's somewhere between 'committed, closed triad' and 'threesome with rando'. The good lads over at datalounge have had a couple of long threads dissecting Dan Savage's fucked up husband and their conclusion is that the 'monogamish' thing isn't working for them anymore, but also, it's datalounge, so...

 

[ClackAlAcka]

So as a psychologist, I want to say something: polyamory is completely fine, in theory, given the basic definition the OP gave. However, this subreddit really is not anywhere close to that fucking ideal, and it's downright sad.

also because men don't have feelings jk
I've definitely read about a number of seemingly successful three dude poly trios, and it definitely seems more common, but I refuse to believe it isn't also a shitshow a lot of the time. Especially if it's somewhere between 'committed, closed triad' and 'threesome with rando'. The good lads over at datalounge have had a couple of long threads dissecting Dan Savage's fucked up husband and their conclusion is that the 'monogamish' thing isn't working for them anymore, but also, it's datalounge, so...

These people should just admit that they're just fuck buddies and be done with it, would save them the headache of pretending to be "polyamorous." But no they won't because these people are assholes who love having the idea that they're better than everyone else or not a horrible person.

 

[Francis]

http://archive.is/kSgTh

Goddamn. Her husband is clearly really fucking distraught by the idea and that soulsucking heartless harpy doesn't even think for a millisecond about him, she makes it all about herself.

http://archive.is/oKbRH

This might be the most pathetic thing I've ever read. Guy is the uberest cuck that ever was, girl is a moron: boyfriend is apparently great, but let's go fuck other people just because "might be fun lol". All the people responding are the worst part, though: guy is pathetic, sure but Jesus these "people" are monsters.

Great thread, haven't been that angry in a while.

 

[Crunchy Leaf]

Jesus Christ, these people are fucking heartless. The guy loves his GF, she tells him that she wants to fuck other dudes, and the dude grins and bears it just to make the girl he loves happy and these people have the nerve to say he's the one at fault here? I get being unassertive is his own issue, but are they really trying to frame a guy feeling sad that his gf fucks other men as a bad thing?
Relationships usually work out best when there's a strong sense of empathy between both parties. These guys seem to have no empathy at all, which explains why their romantic tangles always end up self-destructing.

This one is even worse.

 

[Jan_Hus]

These people have no fucking idea.

 

[Cantaloupine]

Whew, this reminds me of a tranny I know. She forces her partner into a poly relationship even though he's broken down about it repeatedly (both are on psych meds of various flavours) and confessed that he can't cope with it. She's thrown shit at him and gets very physical during arguments to the point where he's too afraid to tell her he's unhappy. She moved her other troon partner in and kicked him out of the bedroom so he had to sleep alone whilst they commandeered the main bedroom. She basically orders the guy around and makes him run errands for her whilst she sits on her ass and plays vidja / with her 'girlfriend's' dick. Their relationship has been shitty for years, though. Even before she dragged the poly side of it up, he's always been abused.

I've also had a partner that tried to force me into poly too. Told them I wasn't into it and that I was too selfish to poly, so they went on ahead and had relationships behind my back (at least six) whilst telling me that I drove them to it because I couldn't be open.

tl;dr: in my experience poly is a poor excuse to be a shitstain of a human being.

 

[Reynard]

Polyamory makes it sound more "romantic" by using the word, "Amour". This also distances it from that gross icky ugly totally brainwashing term, "monogamy".

That's what I was thinking.

 

[Crunchy Leaf]

Polygamy is also generally viewed pretty negatively in Western society, since it makes us think of cults full of creepy old men married to 12 year olds.

 

[ICametoLurk]

A term that appears a lot on this sub-reddit is "unicorn" which is someone who is an open-minded young woman who is younger, hotter, and more flexible than someone's wife. They're really rare hence why called unicorns.

Apparently this is a typical Unicorn hunting Ad.

http://archive.is/HEejX

NO DARKIES!