r/polyamory

[Crunchy Leaf]

Because they're too self obsessed to not try and rationalize their selfish behavior as either a scenario wherein they are a put upon victim of society's brutism moral behavior or they want to say they're just far too advanced intellectually to be held to the same standard as everyone else. These are people who need to rationalize everything as them being superior for having done it.

Most poly couples dont start that way, one just gets sick of the other, cheats, comes clean about it because they're "too ethically/mentally superior to be secretive in their indiscretions (in reality because they don't want to feel guilty so immediately blabbing it to their spouse releases them of that guilt and replaces it with smug self satisfaction). They then brow beat the person who was cheated on in to feeling guilty for keeping them tied down and they go in to a poly relationship where they fuck their gross coworkers and ignore their spouse as anything but an extra source of income. Eventually the other half (almost always the guy) will try to bang some chick and the initiator of the relationship will guilt them in to not doing it because they're normally hyper insecure realizing if the guy can get pussy elsewhere, he'll be able to realize he doesn't want to be a cuck.

The resentment boils, a messy, embarrassing divorce happens and my buddy who practices family law tells me another hilarious and predictable divorce story

Sometimes it's also 'man thinks threesomes are hot and browbeats his straight wife into bisexuality'.
My favorite is when the guy is the one who wants to be poly and then his wife goes out and gets guys and he can't get a single chick.

 

[IAmNotAlpharius]

Because they're too self obsessed to not try and rationalize their selfish behavior as either a scenario wherein they are a put upon victim of society's brutism moral behavior or they want to say they're just far too advanced intellectually to be held to the same standard as everyone else. These are people who need to rationalize everything as them being superior for having done it.

Most poly couples dont start that way, one just gets sick of the other, cheats, comes clean about it because they're "too ethically/mentally superior to be secretive in their indiscretions (in reality because they don't want to feel guilty so immediately blabbing it to their spouse releases them of that guilt and replaces it with smug self satisfaction). They then brow beat the person who was cheated on in to feeling guilty for keeping them tied down and they go in to a poly relationship where they fuck their gross coworkers and ignore their spouse as anything but an extra source of income. Eventually the other half (almost always the guy) will try to bang some chick and the initiator of the relationship will guilt them in to not doing it because they're normally hyper insecure realizing if the guy can get pussy elsewhere, he'll be able to realize he doesn't want to be a cuck.

The resentment boils, a messy, embarrassing divorce happens and my buddy who practices family law tells me another hilarious and predictable divorce story

It happens to women too. The common denominator is one is more manipulative, dominant, extroverted, and egotistical, while their cucked partner is really submissive, nice, etc. What I find odd is how the mistress/"guy" friend are often uglier and terrible people.

The only poly relationship that I've seen last without blowing up spectacularly (so far) is this hipster threesome that are all friends. The women are bi and so is the guy, so it works out for them. They live together too, so I guess they differ in that they are actually dedicated to each other. So, they really don't fit in with r/polymory which is just an excuse to cheat and avoid commitments.

Sometimes it's also 'man thinks threesomes are hot and browbeats his straight wife into bisexuality'.
My favorite is when the guy is the one who wants to be poly and then his wife goes out and gets guys and he can't get a single chick.

It's even funnier when she ends up dating more women. Or when the wife runs off with the mistress. The opposite has probably happened too.

 

[vertexwindi]

Sometimes it's also 'man thinks threesomes are hot and browbeats his straight wife into bisexuality'.

Threesomes are hot, but obviously you shouldn't force people into them if they don't want to. That whole "forcing your partner to do sexual things they're not comfortable with" is why idiots like Anthony Burch lose their partners. Can you imagine that someone actually liked that guy enough once upon a time that they'd marry him, and that he completely fucked himself over just to get off?

 

[TiggerNits]

Sometimes it's also 'man thinks threesomes are hot and browbeats his straight wife into bisexuality'.

Fair point, I've seen one go this way a few years back

It's even funnier when she ends up dating more women. Or when the wife runs off with the mistress.

And this is exactly how it ended

 

[QB 290]

https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/8um6bb/gf_of_six_years_wants_to_explore_enmpoly_first/

Yet another reminder that if your partner tells you they're going poly, leave them immediately. If your relationship doesn't go down the toilet, your self esteem will.

 

[Varg Did Nothing Wrong]

Wow what a selfish asshole, he doesn't even want to be supportive of his girlfriend as she gets pounded in the ass and tied up by strangers

 

[Crunchy Leaf]

Straight guys who aren't super hot but also aren't willing to fuck any random kimberly from fetlife will always be getting laid less than their female partners--unless 'poly' is just a way for them to legitimize their already existing affair.

 

[Zarkov]

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Yet another reminder that if your partner tells you they're going poly, leave them immediately. If your relationship doesn't go down the toilet, your self esteem will.

At least he's aware enough to realize that the whole situation is indeed is wife just wanting to get more ass while he stews in his impotence at home.

 

[Highly Conditioned]

I knew this particular autism existed but I haven't ever looked deeply into it. Had my first run in with one of these last year. I'm going to go through this subreddit today and see if I can find her account. Strangest interaction with a woman I've ever had.

 

[Buer]

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Yet another reminder that if your partner tells you they're going poly, leave them immediately. If your relationship doesn't go down the toilet, your self esteem will.

He prob would've had at least some matches if he said he was single and not poly. I know the poly community hates guys doing that but if he's only going to get laid with these women then why does it matter if he lies a bit to get what he wants?

 

[Highly Conditioned]

He prob would've had at least some matches if he said he was single and not poly. I know the poly community hates guys doing that but if he's only going to get laid with these women then why does it matter if he lies a bit to get what he wants?

They seem really anal about letting everyone they know that they're poly before getting involved. It gives them a get out of jail free card when things end up blowing up in everyone's faces. In my limited experience with a poly "couple" I noticed a lot of things y'all are talking about throughout the thread:

- Needless 5-10 minute explanation about what poly is (could have just told me you were a whore)
- A bunch of ground rules like; no sex in the apartment my boyfriend shares with me, we all have to be one big happy fuck family
- Woman told me she just knew she was poly for the longest time but only recently told her boyfriend of 10 years but it's okay. He's totally cool with it even though he's so loyal he won't fuck other women even though I encourage him to try it
- Going batshit insane with jealousy because a cat she couldn't tame allowed me to pet it and sat in my lap (she locked it in a cage when I stepped out of the room).

I could go on. I'll admit I only stuck around for as long as I did because I never slept with her in high school and I thought she was the one I missed out on. It only took a few times of hanging out to realize she wasn't what I thought she was. I still would have fucked her and even took her home but her boyfriend looked so sad when we left that I couldn't bring myself to cuck him. She also got werid once we got alone. I don't know what happened. I think she might have caught more feelings or some old ones got stirred up. She continued to pursue me afterwards so I don't know what her deal was. I ended up telling her I thought she was treating her boyfriend like shit and I didn't want to hang out with people that treated other people like that.

 

[Sparklepants]

One of my friends went poly, broke their ~fundamental rules~ by fucking another dude in their bed and got mad when he fucked their roommate, and now we don't talk because I said I thought her polyshit was probably why her relationship was failing. That and she keeps cheating on all her boyfriends/girlfriends, being poly didn't fix that. I noticed that she and her polyfriends thought my lifestyle was boring, and in the same breath berated me for reaching traditional milestones while asking how they could achieve them. I wonder if people go poly because it's easier than fixing the more concrete issues in the lifestyles?

 

[Owlflaps]

Being poly must be exhausting. There's so many rules to follow and a lot of lines that can be crossed. It just sounds like a potential shitshow in the works.

 

[One Man Bland]

- Going batshit insane with jealousy because a cat she couldn't tame allowed me to pet it and sat in my lap (she locked it in a cage when I stepped out of the room).

Was she also one of those free love hippy types who acts like being poly brings them closer to Mother Gaia or some shit and therefore a friend to all living things?

 

[IAmNotAlpharius]

Being poly must be exhausting. There's so many rules to follow and a lot of lines that can be crossed. It just sounds like a potential shitshow in the works.

I knew a guy from college that came from a polygamous family in the Middle East. He told me that his Dad would often have a "I want to die" look in his eyes. Apparently having multiple wives was very stressful, even if you have money. So, he had no interest in being polygamous. He told me that he didn't want to deal with more than one mother-in-law, it was too much work, he wanted to give his kids more attention, and it wasn't as fun as it sounds.

 

[PrincessHomura]

I knew a guy from college that came from a polygamous family in the Middle East. He told me that his Dad would often have a "I want to die" look in his eyes. Apparently having multiple wives was very stressful, even if you have money. So, he had no interest in being polygamous. He told me that he didn't want to deal with more than one mother-in-law, it was too much work, he wanted to give his kids more attention, and it wasn't as fun as it sounds.

While I think polygamy is messed up too, polyamory and polygamy isn't quite the same thing, I don't think? Polygamy is one guy having several wives while polyamory is a made-up word for people who want to fuck others but still have the relative stability of someone to come home to, and they don't like calling themselves "whores without pay" or "walking STD bins".

 

[QB 290]

Spoiler: A slippery slope

https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/8vb6to/a_tough_poly_lesson_sometimes_jealousy_is/

 

[Vorhtbame]

Spoiler: A slippery slope

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Well, what goes around comes around. He enjoyed having her deep and intense attention and all her love and affection, taking them away from her family to the point where the family broke apart; now she's bestowed those somewhere else and he is the cucked loser.

And since he was ignoring his own wife to do this, I can't think of anyone who deserves abandonment more.

 

[The Lotus]

Oh man, this is art. He dedicates a whole paragraph to showing how he's not mad at all, you guys. I'm still totally getting laid!

The icing on the cake is the "she loves me! She said it was the best sex out of, like, a hundred partners I think!"

 

[Buer]

^To those polyamory cucks that's him "winning" because she chose him above all the other guys she fucked. While I guess it can provide a temporary confidence booster to the man people that have that many partners typically don't have a lot of impulse control.

Edit:
To all those people saying poly is for fat people to get their rocks off, you're right:

I'm surprised they don't have colored hair or any piercings.

Oh and they have kids too. I wonder how old they are?
https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/8vejkp/our_sweet_little_polycule/