r/polyamory

[Vorhtbame]

It seems uncommon for these "poly people" to be successful in their chosen careers, or to even have a job in general. From what the majority of these posts portray, it seems like their whole life is about fucking, which could be accurate to their lives or they just don't mention having jobs in anything they post about. It just seems like in all of these posts where people talk about their poly relationship drama, nobody mentions anything job related, or anything related to financial issues they may be facing. Nobody says anything like "this is making it hard for me to do my job" or "I am worried about my finances now that this is happening".

So I'm genuinely curious - has anyone noticed a pattern with those on r/polyamory in terms of their financial/ career success? Are these people all on the level of McDonald's workers, or am I wrong and they're all disciplined in all areas other than fucking?

I seem to recall upthread that there was a guy whose wife and lover were spending all of his money on themselves.

 

[Solzhenitsyn]

It seems uncommon for these "poly people" to be successful in their chosen careers, or to even have a job in general. From what the majority of these posts portray, it seems like their whole life is about fucking, which could be accurate to their lives or they just don't mention having jobs in anything they post about. It just seems like in all of these posts where people talk about their poly relationship drama, nobody mentions anything job related, or anything related to financial issues they may be facing. Nobody says anything like "this is making it hard for me to do my job" or "I am worried about my finances now that this is happening".

So I'm genuinely curious - has anyone noticed a pattern with those on r/polyamory in terms of their financial/ career success? Are these people all on the level of McDonald's workers, or am I wrong and they're all disciplined in all areas other than fucking?

I haven't known that many polys, but of the two groups I did, one of them leeched almost entirely off one guy's income (there was a similar story early in this thread). He was the "latest addition" and I remain convinced they only added him precisely so they could lounge around his house all day and fuck. He was the timid, milquetoast type. Anyway his job was decent, he was in health insurance or something like that, and I think the girl had some money from her parents.

The second group, to be fair, was a mix. Some were your standard "temporarily embarrassed artist" dangerhairs who smoked pot all day, but the rest were in tech or engineers, so they actually were quite wealthy. But man, they never shut the fuck up about being poly. It was total exhibitionism. Everything was always "oh yeah my wife's boyfriend and I had a real great time". And they did fall apart pretty damn quick.

 

[Matthew216]

They LOVE flaunting it educating the public.

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Hilarious. Absolutely hilarious. That look of confusion wasn't a normie trying to wrap her mind around the incomprehensibly unique sex life you have – people know what a slut is – it was her trying to figure out what the hell she's supposed to say to that unwanted revelation and trying to understand why you overshared to a coworker about the rush-hour traffic in your gf's vagina, absolutely clogged and backed up end-to-end with dicks.

Here's a gem from the comments:

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wahwahwah I'm a systemically oppressed minority! I hate shoving it in people's faces in public and then feeling like I'm on display!

By the way, have you all been posting their polycule photos here? I don't want to be lttp.

All of a sudden i’m reminded of the whole “free love” movement in the 60’s (which was not really about love). I remember an ex-hippie talking about how the no-strings rules of that era helped him and his out: “she wants commitment?! Man! What is up with her?”

This would eventually lead to hundreds of failed relationships and children, not to mention help kickstart the era of STD’s. Since the modern Left is kind of a half-assed attempt at recreating those years, I wonder what new STD’s may be in the works?

Though frankly, they would need to have sex for that to happen, and that’s obviously not going to work for them.

Personally, I don’t see these sort of relationships working long term. Someone is gonna get attached and misunderstandings will happen. And then the claws will come out.

 

[Brain Problems]

The married couple I know flaunts it pretty hard and I have to shut myself off when they start having discussions about scheduling different activities the other people they're fucking, all of whom are obnoxious. I just can't wait to see how long it goes on for or what will happen when she gets knocked up.

It isn't normal, no one likes it, and anyone who says otherwise is just trying to be woke for some progressive asspats. They think they're the first generation to consider the possibility of openly fucking around on each other and this time it's definitely going to take off!

 

[Crunchy Leaf]

The married couple I know flaunts it pretty hard and I have to shut myself off when they start having discussions about scheduling different activities the other people they're fucking, all of whom are obnoxious. I just can't wait to see how long it goes on for or what will happen when she gets knocked up.

It isn't normal, no one likes it, and anyone who says otherwise is just trying to be woke for some progressive asspats. They think they're the first generation to consider the possibility of openly fucking around on each other and this time it's definitely going to take off!

This sounds awful. Do they say things like 'I'm going on a date with my other partner this weekend', or is it more explicit than that?

Polyamory is pretty divisive amongst the 'woke' crowd. It doesn't help that poly people constantly denigrate monogamy and compare themselves to gay people all the time.

 

[Win98SE]

I knew two poly "couples", and besides all the typical bragging about their relationships, they also saw themselves as monogamous relationship experts. Most of what they had to say was really boilerplate stuff ("have you tried talking about it?") or implied that the problem was monogamy itself. Of course, this was just another jumping off point for talking about their relationships, as if "When I started dating my second boyfriend, my husband got really jealous" was at all relatable to someone in a 5+ year marriage that was having some growing pains. It was also really condescending and often came off like they were gracing that person with their galaxy-brain intellect.

Both are divorced now. Whoops!

Also of note: they talked openly about shopping for "poly-friendly" relationship counselors, as some had the tendency to place the blame on polyamory and "didn't get it."

 

[Brain Problems]

This sounds awful. Do they say things like 'I'm going on a date with my other partner this weekend', or is it more explicit than that?

Polyamory is pretty divisive amongst the 'woke' crowd. It doesn't help that poly people constantly denigrate monogamy and compare themselves to gay people all the time.

Depends on how explicit you consider people going through their phones/calendars with big smiles on their faces and using cutesy language (loudly) to plan meetings with their side pieces all the while trying to lock down time for each other. They're (almost) as bad as furries for shoving their fetishes into everyone's faces.

 

[lingling]

Depends on how explicit you consider people going through their phones/calendars with big smiles on their faces and using cutesy language (loudly) to plan meetings with their side pieces all the while trying to lock down time for each other. They're (almost) as bad as furries for shoving their fetishes into everyone's faces.

God, that sounds so creepy and uncomfortable and just plain inappropriate. Apparently being an attention-seekin exhibitionist is a requirement for polyamory.

It doesn't help that poly people constantly denigrate monogamy and compare themselves to gay people all the time.

Yeah, many poly people have a very holier-than-thou, pretentious attitude towards monogamy. Even though a lot of poly relationships seem to be incredibly manipulative and unhealthy and often end badly. Of course many, many monogamous relationships are like this, too, but a lot of poly people seem to be under the impression that their relationships are so much more inherently "freeing" and "pure", which is just plain untrue.

And oh man, don't get me started on the whole "comparing to gay people" thing. As if (straight) poly people have any idea of what it's like to be gay or what gay people's experiences/lives are like. I remember seeing posts where people wrote about "coming out" as poly to their parents and I couldn't stop cringing.

 

[Hubcapdiamondstarhalo]

God, that sounds so creepy and uncomfortable and just plain inappropriate. Apparently being an attention-seekin exhibitionist is a requirement for polyamory.



Yeah, many poly people have a very holier-than-thou, pretentious attitude towards monogamy. Even though a lot of poly relationships seem to be incredibly manipulative and unhealthy and often end badly. Of course many, many monogamous relationships are like this, too, but a lot of poly people seem to be under the impression that their relationships are so much more inherently "freeing" and "pure", which is just plain untrue.

And oh man, don't get me started on the whole "comparing to gay people" thing. As if (straight) poly people have any idea of what it's like to be gay or what gay people's experiences/lives are like. I remember seeing posts where people wrote about "coming out" as poly to their parents and I couldn't stop cringing.

Yeah coming out as gay is sort of necessary to explain why you’re living with someone of the same gender, not looking to marry the opposite gender, or reproduce naturally. Poly people don’t need to tell everyone that they’re poly because they often have a “public” relationship that is normal at least on the surface. The poly stuff should be private. Why do adults need their sex lives validated?

 

[Matthew216]

This sounds awful. Do they say things like 'I'm going on a date with my other partner this weekend', or is it more explicit than that?

Polyamory is pretty divisive amongst the 'woke' crowd. It doesn't help that poly people constantly denigrate monogamy and compare themselves to gay people all the time.

What do Gays think about all these people attaching themselves to their movement? I have to imagine that not all of them are happy about the movement now being LGBTQ, instead of just LG. Now I hear that some Pedophiles are trying to piggyback onto them as well, There has to be some who disagree with this.

 

[SourDiesel]

No one listens to gays or lesbians anymore. Gays are considered privileged now & lesbians are transphobic af so queers don't care what they think. There's a reason they call r/lgbt "r/tttt". Imagine being forcibly kicked out of your own house by some guests who then insist it was thier house all along? I assume most feel like that.

 

[anondotcom]

Trans people have always been major players in the LGBT acceptance movement, though there are some LGs willing to throw trans/bi people under the bus for their own rights. There's a lot of infighting. But there is some truth in saying that the LGBT movement is strengthened by having more people going to bat for you. No one, and I mean NO ONE, is happy that pedos are trying to claim the LGBT movement as theirs.

On some level, it is pretty offensive that poly people feel the need to "come out" like a gay person might, but there are a decent number of gay people who are also poly. There's also the fact that if, say, they were in a closed triad pursuing the building of a family, sooner or later you'll have to explain to your family why your kids call both Jenny and Sarah "mom" when you originally said Jenny was just a roommate. On the other hand, most people in closed, committed triads don't post on r/polyamory.

 

[Otis Boi]

Now I hear that some Pedophiles are trying to piggyback onto them as well, There has to be some who disagree with this.

Pedos have always been trying to jump on the LGBT bandwagon. It was just back then people cared about image and note "wokeness."

I think polyfags think they are an oppressed sexual minority. I wouldn't be surprised if some one then the will be thrown into a reeducation camp similar to gays. Honestly the LGBT movement is just a husk that people parade around for wokeness because all the people that cared abandoned it years ago.

 

[Crunchy Leaf]

Trans people have always been major players in the LGBT acceptance movement, though there are some LGs willing to throw trans/bi people under the bus for their own rights. There's a lot of infighting. But there is some truth in saying that the LGBT movement is strengthened by having more people going to bat for you. No one, and I mean NO ONE, is happy that pedos are trying to claim the LGBT movement as theirs.

On some level, it is pretty offensive that poly people feel the need to "come out" like a gay person might, but there are a decent number of gay people who are also poly. There's also the fact that if, say, they were in a closed triad pursuing the building of a family, sooner or later you'll have to explain to your family why your kids call both Jenny and Sarah "mom" when you originally said Jenny was just a roommate. On the other hand, most people in closed, committed triads don't post on r/polyamory.

I think being poly is significantly less common among the exclusively-same-sex-attracted, and especially less common among lesbians compared to gay men.
One is that a lot of poly is about sex. Women in general don't have as high a sex drive as men, so lesbians are less likely to want more than one sexual partner. Gay men have no problem with indiscriminate fucking, whereas straight poly people, especially women, need to justify their urge to sleep around with it being about romance.
The other is that a lot of poly is about being non-conforming. A disproportionate amount of them are straight (or straight-partnered bi chicks), white, middle class suburbanites. They have a need to feel special and different. Gay people are already non-conforming so they don't have this need.

 

[scathefire]

closed, committed triads

So closed, very committed. wow

 

[Ctrl+Alt+Rt]

Valentine's Day was rough on our little polys.

• One muses about how it's odd that they're "poly but still so lonely" (post history in another forum saying their V-Day was great cuz they got a kiss that was lip-adjacent).

• Another finds that neither of their partners is satisfied with the amount of time they get and both are unhappy having to timeshare – that proves that your multiple partners can still feel they're being treated equally when you're dividing your time between them... equally neglected at least.

• A wife has 3 sexual partners and yet feels neglected and unappreciated – her husband is off banging a new sidechick, her 1st bf moved away, and her 2nd bf is "new to poly" (aka. wants her to himself) – who could predict that adding more people wouldn't lead to more happiness and someone always around when you need them?

• Another girl has got medical condition now where she can't have sex right now and is "going through a rough patch" with depression – her bf's reaction was to run off and fuck a new girl while she's left behind, shaming herself for "not being a good poly person" because she doesn't feel any compersion for them.

• A husband is feeling bitter that the V-Day card he got from his wife was a single line while the one she gave her new bf was 2 pages long and extremely erotic. He's also feeling sexually used, like he provides "a service for her". The best advice the forum can give is that they should be more distant, keep secrets, not share so much, and divert his attention elsewhere while he experiences a "painful readjustment of expectation". Fun!

But let's get to the good stuff.

A whole gaggle of poly baristas from 2 coffee shop kiosks across the road from each other have all lost their jobs and are contemplating suing for DISCRIMINATION, because they consider the poly identity a protected class, like race or gender.

Spoiler: Discrimination Sperging

When you tell your manager "you have nerve to smile at me!" because "he fired my baby" you're proving him right that your relationship affected your professionalism, you utter muppet.

This next one is great because of the comments. He had told his gf that he didn't want to have unprotected sex because it was "special" to him. Then he went for a drunk Tinder hookup and, you guessed it, had that very special unprotected sex with a rando. He feebly said, "I have a condom..." but she continued without one and he said nothing more because "it felt so good". Now he's worried about how to disclose it to his gf.

The comments are trying to convince him that he was RAPED. He even says he doesn't feel that way so he won't tell her that, but they persisted. He's a victim, dammit, no matter what he says! And he's getting this advice from someone who says they have committed assault "many times". I guess that makes them an expert?

Spoiler: I'll Keep Insisting You're A Rape Victim Even If You Say No, Please Stop!

He's not the only one being careless; many polys say they aren't using condoms with their multiple sex partners, and, shockingly, have the herp.

 

[knightlautrec]

It really amazes me that this guy genuinely hasn't a clue what to do when his gf's husband wants to murder him. Like he's really hanging on to the possibility that he could work through this and keep fucking her.

I will eat my hat if G is a legit man. G sounds like a walking tumblr stereotype woman who calls herself nonbinary and has alters probably with associated tumblers for each one. Probably fat too.

 

[IAmNotAlpharius]

Trans people have always been major players in the LGBT acceptance movement, though there are some LGs willing to throw trans/bi people under the bus for their own rights. There's a lot of infighting. But there is some truth in saying that the LGBT movement is strengthened by having more people going to bat for you. No one, and I mean NO ONE, is happy that pedos are trying to claim the LGBT movement as theirs.

On some level, it is pretty offensive that poly people feel the need to "come out" like a gay person might, but there are a decent number of gay people who are also poly. There's also the fact that if, say, they were in a closed triad pursuing the building of a family, sooner or later you'll have to explain to your family why your kids call both Jenny and Sarah "mom" when you originally said Jenny was just a roommate. On the other hand, most people in closed, committed triads don't post on r/polyamory.

The only way I can see polyamory working is if it’s a closed triad and they’re all sleeping with each other. Even then there’d be conflict and the breakup/divorce rate would be higher than monogamous couples.

 

[iafiv]

Poly identity is a thing now???Uh AFAIK fucking more than one person was never really a crime in the US or the Western world in general at least not in the past 100 years or so.If you happen to be in one of these open relationships sure that's your problem but i don't think you've got standing if you demand to be treated like a protected minority.The judge would simply ask 'is there some law that doesn't allow you do to that?'.Most people would probably not care either way.Swinging/wife swapping and other orgy type stuff has been generally tolerated in the US since at least the 60's without it causing too much fuss.That at times some people expressed displeasure with some of it doesn't change the fact that its been happening to a large extent without causing any issue for a long time.I don't see what kind of poly identity someone might legitimately claim as opposed to a gay identity.I doubt anyone was ever murdered in the US in the past 60 years because they were swingers as opposed to someone murdered because they were gay.

 

[Crunchy Leaf]

Valentine's Day was rough on our little polys.

• One muses about how it's odd that they're "poly but still so lonely" (post history in another forum saying their V-Day was great cuz they got a kiss that was lip-adjacent).

I then later said thank you for the valentine and she squished my face and then kissed my cheek a centimeter from my mouth. I said wow almost on the lips and she said we’re working up to it.

My first thought was wow, how old is this person? They're actually in high school.

Poly identity is a thing now???Uh AFAIK fucking more than one person was never really a crime in the US or the Western world in general at least not in the past 100 years or so.If you happen to be in one of these open relationships sure that's your problem but i don't think you've got standing if you demand to be treated like a protected minority.The judge would simply ask 'is there some law that doesn't allow you do to that?'.Most people would probably not care either way.Swinging/wife swapping and other orgy type stuff has been generally tolerated in the US since at least the 60's without it causing too much fuss.That at times some people expressed displeasure with some of it doesn't change the fact that its been happening to a large extent without causing any issue for a long time.I don't see what kind of poly identity someone might legitimately claim as opposed to a gay identity.I doubt anyone was ever murdered in the US in the past 60 years because they were swingers as opposed to someone murdered because they were gay.

Adultery still gets you kicked out of the military. Someone got convicted for adultery in Massachusetts in 1983, and they repealed the law against it in 2018. In 2010 a North Carolina woman won a $9 million suit against her husband's mistress under the alienation of affection law. Poly people aren't discriminated against like gay people, but it's false to claim that fucking more than one person has been acceptable in the West since 1919. I mean, you couldn't even get divorced in Ireland until 1995.